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post #1 of 10
11/21/10 at 4:06am
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My sister and I have very different tastes but I decorated my living room the way I wanted to with my native American things and she moved my pictures around while I was gone yesterday and she has a habit of doing things like that. She used to rearrange my mother's kitchen and it drove my mother nuts and she would tell her you do your place the way you want but leave mine alone. And she picks the water and feed bowls up for the dog out of the kids reach rather than teaching them to leave it alone and it bugs me. I think you should set things where you want them and then teach children to not touch them. She is really bad about trying to rearrange things here and I have to go back and put things the way I had them. So would you get upset if another woman or anyone for that matter was constinatly trying to decorate your house to suit them when you wasn't looking?
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post #2 of 10
11/21/10 at 4:10am
YES! I would be furious.. I mean it is your place, she doesn't live there it's not her place to move anything. Have you ever talked to her about it, or can you?
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post #3 of 10
11/21/10 at 4:21am
Yeah. That would totally bug me. It's none of her business, and it's not her place to do that. Needs to be told, I think.
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post #4 of 10
11/21/10 at 4:30am
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The house actually belongs to my dad, but I live here and have since it was built and she doesn't but she takes it upon herself to be like that we ever she goes sh has a very controlling nature. My 17 year old cousin was here friday night and she was absolutely ugly to that kid. When we got here I told Brit to just go in my room and shut the door, because my sister has been arguing with her and her mother on facebook. And she did what I said and my sister said so she can't stand face to face with me and I told her as long as she was in my care I wasn't having a grown woman picking on her. And the plan had been for my cousin's boyfriend to come over and play pool at my house since I was there to supervise, and my sister has some furniture in the basement and she even told my cousin that she was not to be on her furniture because she wasn't giving her any std's and my dad was absolutely embarrassed by her but he will not stand up to her most of the time he simply told Brit she could come out when my sister left and tried to make it upto her by making her some chicken strips. So to kind of dig at me when I took Brit home the next morning my sister came in and rearranged the pics in the living room. She truly needs a foot up her reer but in respect for my dad I refrain and just fix it when she leaves.
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post #5 of 10
11/21/10 at 4:30am
Since it's your dad's place it's harder for you to have much say over it. He'd have to step in and it seems he never does that in your interests.

But yes, I actually do have my own home and I do not like people moving items that should not logically be moved in every day use.
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post #6 of 10
11/21/10 at 4:41am
Yeah that would bug me I know its your dads house but if he let you decorate it then your sister shouldn't be changing it round

See I can't be petty so next time I wad over her place I'd move her stuff around see how she Liked it lol
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post #7 of 10
11/21/10 at 4:55am
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Originally Posted by Tavia'smom View Post
My sister and I have very different tastes but I decorated my living room the way I wanted to with my native American things and she moved my pictures around while I was gone yesterday and she has a habit of doing things like that. She used to rearrange my mother's kitchen and it drove my mother nuts and she would tell her you do your place the way you want but leave mine alone.
Dottie and I have had some of our worst arguments over her habit of doing what I call "planning other peoples' lives for them." You know, planning a party or something without any input from them. And it bites her, regularly. It's kind of the same deal, not respecting other people's rights and habits.
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post #8 of 10
11/21/10 at 5:10am
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Oh I can't do parties with my sister, I avoid them like the plague. She worries way too much what other people think and it drives me nuts. If you talk up in a restraunt she is shushing you. But parties especially holidays are the worst with her. I say to have it and if people don't like me for me they can kiss my foot where as she wants to be like Martha Stuart and I am happy with me. But I blame it on my dad and her husband for always givng her whatever she wants. I tend to earn what I get and my friends are truly my friends no matter if I am in sweats or in my dressier jeans and nice blouse. And he moving things around to look like what she thinks a magazine should look like doesn't work for me.
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post #9 of 10
11/21/10 at 10:25am
When I was married and living in San Diego my SIL and her little boy an dog came to stay with us until she found a place of her own. Well she took over the house while we were at work. She even had the nerve to put holes in the bedroom she was using to hang up her pictures and one time I came home to find my kitchen full of strangers. She had made friends with them somehow and had them at my house without even asking.

So yes I definitely was bugged out about this. One of the reasons that caused our divorce was the inlaws. In fact that was the main reason.
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post #10 of 10
11/21/10 at 10:37am
The rearranging thing I could have probably overlooked, chalking it up to "the way she is" or whatever. It doesn't really bother me that my brother adjusts my TV, because he is a high-tech guy and can't stand to look at slightly green people . He certainly doesn't go as far as moving the furniture around, though. The thing I would have a major problem with is the meaness your sister directed toward your niece. She shouldn't have been ugly to the young girl, regardless of to whom the home belongs.
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