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post #31 of 37
11/7/10 at 12:41pm
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
Yes. I've decided to not adopt another kitty at this time. She was always loving towards me, but since Chynna died, it's different. She seems more secure and relaxed during our cuddle sessions and isn't on guard looking out for Chynna to butt in or chase her away.

Thanks for all of the input and advice. It helped me work this through to an answer that I feel is the right one for both me and Abby at this time.
Natalie I think you made the right choice right now. As long as Abby is happy, that's all that matters and she will get used to being alone during the day and be jumping for joy when you walk in the door. She will know she doesn't have to share you with anyone and she certainly needs that right now.
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post #32 of 37
12/18/10 at 11:20pm
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Ugh! I'm still yearning for another kitty! I know I made the best decision for Abby because she still seems to be reveling in having all of my attention whenever she wants it, but I can't get rid of that yearning.

I'm almost 49 years old and it seems that my biological clock has kicked in! And I'm definitely a crazy cat lady because my biological clock is yearning for a cat, not a kid!
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post #33 of 37
12/19/10 at 1:04pm
Linda, what about looking into fostering - maybe you can talk to a shelter about fostering the older strays???????????????? Then you can guage Abby's reaction - and either keep fostering, or adopt, or stop fostering!
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post #34 of 37
12/19/10 at 1:13pm
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Originally Posted by LDG View Post
Linda, what about looking into fostering - maybe you can talk to a shelter about fostering the older strays???????????????? Then you can guage Abby's reaction - and either keep fostering, or adopt, or stop fostering!
I could never be a foster! I love cats too much to be able to just give them up. I'd end up with a second cat, and a third .....

Abby needs to be an only kitty because she is just such a different kitty since Chynna went to the RB. She really is loving not having to vie for attention, and is a completely different kitty now. She isn't as timid. Heck, when the delivery guys were putting my bedroom furniture into the bedroom, Abby laid on the bed watching them. 6 months ago she would have been cowering in the closet out of fear.

I know I made the right decision to not get a second kitty, but that doesn't stop me from feeling the aching pull to get one. Stupid cat lady biological clock!
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post #35 of 37
12/19/10 at 1:22pm
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
I could never be a foster! I love cats too much to be able to just give them up. I'd end up with a second cat, and a third .....

Abby needs to be an only kitty because she is just such a different kitty since Chynna went to the RB. She really is loving not having to vie for attention, and is a completely different kitty now. She isn't as timid. Heck, when the delivery guys were putting my bedroom furniture into the bedroom, Abby laid on the bed watching them. 6 months ago she would have been cowering in the closet out of fear.

I know I made the right decision to not get a second kitty, but that doesn't stop me from feeling the aching pull to get one. Stupid cat lady biological clock!
Natalie it all comes down to who you want to please, Chynna or yourself. If Chynna is happy now, don't spoil it for her. Sometimes or maybe all of the time we have to put our cats happiness ahead of ours.
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post #36 of 37
12/19/10 at 1:29pm
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Natalie it all comes down to who you want to please, Chynna or yourself. If Chynna is happy now, don't spoil it for her. Sometimes or maybe all of the time we have to put our cats happiness ahead of ours.
I have to make Abby happy. Unlike me, she wouldn't understand an intrusion into her home. So I have to put her needs first.

There will be a time when she is no longer with me , then I'll bring in 2 litter mates who already know one another. But now is not the time no matter how much my desire.
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post #37 of 37
12/19/10 at 2:45pm
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Originally Posted by LaRussa View Post
Natalie it all comes down to who you want to please, Chynna or yourself. If Chynna is happy now, don't spoil it for her. Sometimes or maybe all of the time we have to put our cats happiness ahead of ours.
Linda is putting Abby's needs ahead of her own. She's just sharing her ...pull of the "cat lady biological clock" with people who understand.

Well - it was an idea. Fostering is for those with a special emotional make up. We tried - sometimes successfully.

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