This weekend is my brothers wedding. I am feeling utterly depressed right now. I made a post awhile back about how DH and I were having issues bc of the wedding and now that it is coming up I just don't know what to do.
I am doing a reading in the wedding. My brother called me about a month and a half ago and asked if I would. I said yes even though it is the last thing I wanted to do. It actually caught me off guard completely, and I dind't know what to say. I am terrified of public speaking and hate getting infront of people.
Anyway, this weekend I am driving 6 hours, going to a wedding for an hour and driving home. I have to get a rental car because we have had issues with our cars and none will make it. I am worried about having the money for it but overall I am not looking forward to being at the wedding.
I have not seen most of my family in a long time. I am still incredibly hurt by the things a lot of them did to me. I had family members refuse to come to my own wedding reception because my parents were not invited (parents not invited bc they didn't want me to marry my DH and did a bunch of other stuff). So I was hurt that grandparents and aunts/uncles chose to not support my marriage because I didn't invite my parents. The ones who did come were kind of weird....didn't seem to want to be there, wouldn't interact with anyone but our own family, never even tried to speak to my DH, his family or friends.... nothing. They left within an hour of arriving.
Via facebook I have seen family members of mine post to my brother how excited they are for him, for his wedding and reception etc. I am happy for him...but at the same time I am not looking forward to going. To seeing everyone so happy for him when no one was happy for me.
IDK. This is mostly senseless rambling. If I wasn't doing a reading, I think I would end up not going. I already declined the reception but said I would be at the ceremony...and now I wish I hadn't said so.
I started feeling this was last month when DH and I had our one year wedding anniversary. Not one person in my family called, texted, emailed, anything to say congratulations....or anything. I know I know...I shouldn't care, especially since I knew people were not happy when we were married. But it still hurt. My brothers and I used to be so close and we have grown so far apart because they want me to forgive my parents and pretend nothing happened. They both live out of town and come into town all the time and never even try to call me. I never know they are in town until I see it later usually via facebook. They don't call me/contact me...IDK part of me just thinks the whole thing sucks and I wish I didn't feel obligated to go to it.
Someone please slap me out of it. Sorry for the vent, I just don't know what to do. IDK if my feelings are normal or if I sound like a huge jerk for thinking these things and not wanting to go...
I am doing a reading in the wedding. My brother called me about a month and a half ago and asked if I would. I said yes even though it is the last thing I wanted to do. It actually caught me off guard completely, and I dind't know what to say. I am terrified of public speaking and hate getting infront of people.
Anyway, this weekend I am driving 6 hours, going to a wedding for an hour and driving home. I have to get a rental car because we have had issues with our cars and none will make it. I am worried about having the money for it but overall I am not looking forward to being at the wedding.
I have not seen most of my family in a long time. I am still incredibly hurt by the things a lot of them did to me. I had family members refuse to come to my own wedding reception because my parents were not invited (parents not invited bc they didn't want me to marry my DH and did a bunch of other stuff). So I was hurt that grandparents and aunts/uncles chose to not support my marriage because I didn't invite my parents. The ones who did come were kind of weird....didn't seem to want to be there, wouldn't interact with anyone but our own family, never even tried to speak to my DH, his family or friends.... nothing. They left within an hour of arriving.
Via facebook I have seen family members of mine post to my brother how excited they are for him, for his wedding and reception etc. I am happy for him...but at the same time I am not looking forward to going. To seeing everyone so happy for him when no one was happy for me.
IDK. This is mostly senseless rambling. If I wasn't doing a reading, I think I would end up not going. I already declined the reception but said I would be at the ceremony...and now I wish I hadn't said so.
I started feeling this was last month when DH and I had our one year wedding anniversary. Not one person in my family called, texted, emailed, anything to say congratulations....or anything. I know I know...I shouldn't care, especially since I knew people were not happy when we were married. But it still hurt. My brothers and I used to be so close and we have grown so far apart because they want me to forgive my parents and pretend nothing happened. They both live out of town and come into town all the time and never even try to call me. I never know they are in town until I see it later usually via facebook. They don't call me/contact me...IDK part of me just thinks the whole thing sucks and I wish I didn't feel obligated to go to it.
Someone please slap me out of it. Sorry for the vent, I just don't know what to do. IDK if my feelings are normal or if I sound like a huge jerk for thinking these things and not wanting to go...