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Vanity insanity or completely justified? Opinions please!

post #1 of 27
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Hi guys!


I'd like your opinions on something because I have a lot going on in my head and would like to know what other people I trust think. (And yes, I trust and value the opinions on here a LOT more than I do those in "real life"!)

I have mentioned on here before how I lost an extreme amount of weight, 170 pounds to be exact. I lost it over 2 and a half years, through healthy eating habits and exercise. Because I lost so much weight, my skin was very, very stretched and no matter what type of exercises I did, it did not bounce back.

The worst was by far my stomach. After a someone my Mom knew lost weight, she went to a surgeon who gave her a tummy tuck and had it covered by medicare. I was encouraged by my family to try the same thing. It was so discouraging to work so hard and STILL not be able to wear the clothes I wanted. I never wanted to be "perfect", I just wanted to feel "normal".

Dr. O'Brien said he had never seen a case worse than mine in his career and he fought tooth and nail to have the surgery covered for me by Medicare. He was so understanding, and said I had worked too hard to have all this loose skin. I had the tummy tuck almost 3 years ago now. When the stomach skin was cut, there was so much of it, it stretched down past my knees.

I did have to go back for follow up surgery on my stomach, as I had kind of "dog ears" on my side, so Dr. O'Brien removed more skin from the sides. I was COMPLETELY awake for that surgery, frozen but awake! Not enjoyable! He said at the time, 3 years ago, that my file would be open for 5 years, and that if I wanted any additional surgery, he would make sure it would be covered. I felt like I had been through SO much at that time, an emotional rollercoaster, and I didn't want to take advantage.

Well, I heard yesterday from a nurse who works with my Mom who said she was talking to Dr. O'Brien the other day and he was asking about me. He wants me to go back and see him to discuss further surgery as I was his "poster child".

So I don't know what to do guys... I have a lot of loose skin everywhere, but it's REALLY bad with my inner thighs. My under arms are pretty bad, and I still have access skin on my sides a bit. This doctor is willing to help me, Medicare is willing to cover it, so should I take full advantage of it? Is it vain or selfish of me to want it? A part of me feels like I deserve it because I worked SO hard, but another part of me feels like maybe I should just be happy with what I have. I just don't know...
post #2 of 27
If you have the guts to go ahead and get the surgery and have the fortitude to go through the process of surgery and the recovery period. And if this is what "You" want! Not anyone else but "You"..Then for sure go for it..
Large weight loss does leave stretched out skin areas ..Weigh the plus's with the minus's and decided if this is what you want. Theres nothing vain about having this type of surgery at all!
post #3 of 27
Kailie, you worked hard, and having lost the weight, you are less at risk for SO MANY THINGS and you will cost Medicare less over the long run for it. Medicare and your Doctor both agreed it should be covered - you earned it, you deserve it, GO FOR IT.
post #4 of 27
Definitely go for it! You deserve it! I am trying to lose a large amount of weight and one of the issues I am worried about is loose skin after the fact. If you have a chance to get rid of yours while it is still covered, do it. You deserve to be happy with your body/skin! I don't think it is in ANY way vain or selfish...I think most people in your position would want to have it taken care of as well!
post #5 of 27
I would consider it a necessary surgery....you could get infections with the loose skin rubbing and chafing together, and your heart has to pump blood through all that extra skin!
post #6 of 27
Kailie--first off, congratulations on this huge achievement. I feel that if you want it, if it would make you happy, then you should do it. You've worked ssssooo hard over the 2 years to lose that weight and I bet you're still working hard to keep it off!! Why not carry it through to the end. It would be rewarding to finish things off with getting the rest of the loose skin removed. You still young and healthy enough to endure the procedure. You don't want to look back in 15 or 20 years and regret NOT doing it. I don't know if it's "vanity", but if it is--so what? The people (and kitties) who love you now will love you regardless. Do what you need to do to make you happy. for what it's worth-you have my support
post #7 of 27
Id so go for it if it will make you happier! There is nothing wrong with looking good and doing something to make you happy!
post #8 of 27
Kailie, I admire you for being able to lose all that weight in the first place. I'm overweight and I've tried on and off to lose it... the most I had lost was 70lbs and I was happy with that but I gained it all back and then some after going through a very stressful time a few years back... So, now I'm back to trying to lose it and I know it's difficult... So, congratulations on that alone...

As far as your question... As long as it's safe for you to undergo another surgery, if it's what you want, for whatever your reasons are, GO FOR IT! There's no reason you should feel that it's vain or anything else... You said that you are not seeking 'perfection' but that you want to feel 'normal' so I think you're in the right frame of mind... "Seeking Perfection" can be dangerous... but wanting to feel good about yourself is natural...

Personally, I think that Medicare paying for it is even more of a reason for you to do it... If you work, you pay into Medicare every week, so you deserve to get some of that back!! Do it, girl! Good luck!!
post #9 of 27
Why stop halfway? You've had the other done, you might as well get as much of the rest you can get done, too.

Just be careful and take care of yourself. Surgery of any kind is hard on the body and immune system.
post #10 of 27
I would go for it! I dont' see why not unless you are afraid of complications.
post #11 of 27
Congratulations!

I have to agree with everyone here, you deserve to have the surgery, after all that hard work to lose the weight. Especially if it is covered under medicare, and your doctor thinks it's safe, go for it!
post #12 of 27
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Originally Posted by DarkMavis View Post
Congratulations!

I have to agree with everyone here, you deserve to have the surgery, after all that hard work to lose the weight. Especially if it is covered under medicare, and your doctor thinks it's safe, go for it!
If it is something you want to do. I would take advantage of medicare covering it. You may not get another chance to do it.
post #13 of 27
How is that covered by Medicare? I lost a tremendous amount of weight as well but I have to pay for it out of my pocket.

My insurance company views tummy tucks as cosmetic and won't cover them. I would love to have that taken care of as well as by Bingo Arms.
post #14 of 27
Two words Kailie, DO IT. As you said you went thru so much to lose the weight and if you're not satisfied with the way you look, then just keep going till you are satisfied with how you look. As long as it doesn't hurt your health in any way....go for it girl.
post #15 of 27
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Originally Posted by zohdee View Post
How is that covered by Medicare? I lost a tremendous amount of weight as well but I have to pay for it out of my pocket.

My insurance company views tummy tucks as cosmetic and won't cover them. I would love to have that taken care of as well as by Bingo Arms.
Maybe it is different here in Canada hun, not sure. I know my doctor fought like crazy for me too, wrote a letter and took pictures, etc. Congrats on your own journey though!

You guys are wonderful... I really appreciate the support. I made the appointment with him. I can't even get in to see him until Jan. 11th, but I'll see what he thinks, find out exactly what Medicare WILL cover and go from there.
post #16 of 27
A New Body= A New Tattoo.
post #17 of 27
Definitely go for it if you have the guts! That loose skin will only get looser over time.

Good luck!
post #18 of 27
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Originally Posted by Bellaandme View Post
A New Body= A New Tattoo.
I never need an excuse for a new tat!
post #19 of 27
Congratulations on loosing soo much weight hon! My honest opinion is that you worked hard to get where you are now. You deserve this surgery! If I were in your shoes, I would weigh the risks/benefits of the surgery (I really think in this case, the risks outweigh the cons, but I don't know your medical history- so talk it over with your doctor). If I were in your shoes, I would go for it while you have the opportunity! You really don't want the excess skin hanging around as you could get infections, skin irritation,etc from it- so, I wouldn't consider it vein at all. Good luck whatever you decide!
post #20 of 27
Contracts on the weight loss, and I would go for it its not vanity per say but better for you health wise in the long run
post #21 of 27
Kailie, I have mixed feelings about it. Like you, I lost a great deal of weight (76 pounds) and now I have some loose skin around my stomach area. I've considered a tummy tuck and DH and I have talked about it. But in the end, well, I'm not doing it.

First, in the US for the most part, it's considered cosmetic surgery and I don't have that kind of money for cosmetic surgery.

Second, DH says he loves me the way I am. He loved me when I was fat (and let's face it, 76 extra pounds is fat, not just over-weight) and he loves me now. The loose skin bothers me more than it does him.

Third, I had a long talk with my GYN about a year or so ago. He says it is loose skin, it's not fat or anything like that. And he, too, doesn't think it's bad. Apparently I'm the only one who thinks it's terrible!

The fact that I wear a size 8 instead of a size 6 (because of loose skin and a tummy "pouch")? I don't like it, but overall, oh well. The tummy pouch is more because I had a hysterectomy when I was 24 and muscles were cut....it's created a bit of a pouch, I guess you'd call it. No matter how many sit-ups or crunches I do, that will never go away.

My arms aren't too bad; I just consider that.....as a service to the general public, I will wear shirts and blouses with longer sleeves! I don't like my neck area, but again, DH says I worry too much.

There are a lot of risks involved with that kind of surgery and that's scary in itself.

However, you'd worked very hard to get where you are now. You kept at it and you should be very proud of yourself for all that hard work.

See why I have mixed feelings?!

Anyway, those are my thoughts. Keep in mind that I'm 55 years old, so quite a bit older than you. If I was your age, I'm sure I would look at it very differently. I see that you've made the appt with your doctor and I wish you the very best of luck!
post #22 of 27
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Thanks Pam! Dana tells me all the time that he loves me the way that I am, but I tell him that if I were to do it, I would be doing it for ME and no one else, so I don't know.

The appointment is just to discuss my options. I'm still not sure if any surgery will actually take place. I'll see what my surgeon says and go from there I guess.
post #23 of 27
Yay! I think this is exciting Kailie!
As far as I'm concerned, if cosmetic surgery is something that you can afford and is going to make you happier, then go for it. Sounds like you have a wonderful doctor there and that must make you feel so much more confident about the surgery. I hope it all comes through for you.
post #24 of 27
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Yay! I think this is exciting Kailie!
As far as I'm concerned, if cosmetic surgery is something that you can afford and is going to make you happier, then go for it. Sounds like you have a wonderful doctor there and that must make you feel so much more confident about the surgery. I hope it all comes through for you.


I admire your will-power and accomplishments. Talk with your doctor and Dana, take a look at the risks of surgery vs. the benefits, and do what your heart tells you. There is nothing to feel guilty about if you decide to have the procedure. And as far as being vain, you're not. You're considering a practical step following a dramatic weight loss. But we'll all love you either way.
post #25 of 27
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Originally Posted by kluchetta View Post
I would consider it a necessary surgery....you could get infections with the loose skin rubbing and chafing together, and your heart has to pump blood through all that extra skin!


You also deserve it
post #26 of 27
I hope I didn't come off as rude. I really do wish my insurance would pay.

I grew up morbidly obese..I went from 350lbs to 165lbs. Then I had two kids so my stomach muscles are shot. Oh, I had C-Sections with them both.

I would love to have surgery to repair those muscles but it is deemed cosmetic. I suffer from some horrid back pain due to no support for my back.
post #27 of 27
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Originally Posted by zohdee View Post
I hope I didn't come off as rude. I really do wish my insurance would pay.

I grew up morbidly obese..I went from 350lbs to 165lbs. Then I had two kids so my stomach muscles are shot. Oh, I had C-Sections with them both.

I would love to have surgery to repair those muscles but it is deemed cosmetic. I suffer from some horrid back pain due to no support for my back.
Sweetie, you didn't come off as rude at all. I wish that you were able to get the surgery as well. You really deserve it! I can't believe that even after your dramatic weight loss they still consider it cosmetic. Come to Canada!
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