Oh My God, My Sister

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I'm sorry I've been so scarce around here. I've been very worried about my sister, who lives in San Diego. I'm sure many of you remember that I've mentioned that she has been unemployed for a couple of years now...and that she struggles with alcohol and substance abuse issues. I've been estranged from her on and off (usually on) for a couple of years now. I can't bear to be an enabler, nor can I condone her reckless behavior, and failure to take responsibility for herself and her actions. I'm not saying that I don't love her, I do....but I don't really like the person she's become.

I haven't really talked to her for a couple of months. I've chatted for a moment when I've stopped at my parent's house, and they've been on the phone with her, but that's about it. Yesterday during the hockey game, I called my parents when Detroit scored, and they asked if I'd heard from Lori. Well, long story short...they haven't heard from her in over a week (9 days to be exact.) Nothing. No calls, no e-mails, nothing.

She has a history of depression, anxiety and drinking. She often gets depressed and drinks herself into oblivion and sleeps. Dad says that she's been having cable phone and internet problems recently. I called her cell, but the mailbox is full.

Mom has the phone number of one of her neighbors, so I called him. He knocked on her door, but got no answer (I forgot to ask if her car was there, but I assumed it was.) He said he called her but got a busy signal....which shouldn't happen with cable phone...it should go to the voice mail.

About a year ago, she had a GI bleed, and had to call an ambulance to take her to the hospital because she had lost so much blood and was passing out. This can often be the result of alcoholism, so it could potentially have happened again. Or so many other things that happen as a result of depression and/or alcoholism.

Has anyone ever made a call for a police 'wellbeing check?' I went on line and found a non-emergency number for the SDPD.

Frank called, she's dead/
 

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OMG, I am so sorry, having a sister myself I couldn't imagine losing my sister. Fighting or not sisters have a bond that can't be expressed in words. And I am truly sorry for your loss. When my sister was on drugs I was terrified of getting a phone call like that. And now I am like that with my mother and my heart truly goes out to you.
 

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I am so sorry to hear
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We are all here if you need people to talk to.
 

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Oh my goodness hun... Words can't even express how I feel for you right now.
I am just so, so sorry for you and your family...
We are here for you.
 

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I'm sorry to read of the death of your sister. My condolences to you and your family.
 

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OMG, that's terrible. My condolences to you and your family. Did the police have to break in to find her, or did they know but didn't know how to contact her family?
 

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Kellie Jo - I am SOOOOOOOO sorry. I know how it feels to lose a sister. I have lost two. My heart goes out to you.
 

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I am sorry for your loss of your sister, Alcoholism is a sickness so know that sometimes it can't be cured.
 

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OMG what a shock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How terribly, terribly sad!


I'm SO sorry sweetie.... the whole thing is just .... heartbreaking. I can't imagine what your family is going through right now.


Sending heaps of vibes to all of you! !!!!!!
 

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Even when they have a history of problems with abuse, etc - even if you weren't on the best of terms - she was still your sister & I can only imagine how hard this is.
 
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