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Oh dear, I'm in a bit of a state, dh's grandad got dianosed with lung cancer in february, his nanna died last november and his grandad has really gone downhill from there. He hasn't done too badly considering, my mother in law and all of us have pulled together and helped but this past week he has deteriorated, today especially. He had ambulance out today as he collapsed but he denied treatment.The doctor came out after and told him he needed to be in hospital but he refused.
My hubby went to see him tonight and immediately called paramedics as he looked so ill, my mother in law is very ill with pluracy at the minute so has been relying on the nurses and my father in law going in and seeing that he is ok. The paramedics came at about 9.30pm and they have diagnosed him with nuemonia, why he wasn't diagnosed earlier I do not know but they have took him to hospital now and that is all I know so far. I am a bunch of emotions right now, this past month has been so tough and now this. we are preparin ourselves for the worse, his cancer is very advanced and we know he probably won't make it, even though we knew it makes it no easier and it is bringing back memories from dh's gran. Gosh, sometimes life is so cruel and especially to us just recently. I can see no light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak at the minute, I just need someone to tak to, everyone here has been so good to me so recently and now things like Harveysproblems seem so trivial.xx

Wow...I wonder how many years it's been since I heard the word "pleurisy."

You know that these things seem to go in bunches, and they usually hit us when we're the most vulnerable. I hope the kitties are at least keeping you company; they often can sense our distress.

I know there are many people here on this forum that care about you, and we would make it all better for you, if we could.

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Wow...I wonder how many years it's been since I heard the word "pleurisy."

You know that these things seem to go in bunches, and they usually hit us when we're the most vulnerable. I hope the kitties are at least keeping you company; they often can sense our distress.

I know there are many people here on this forum that care about you, and we would make it all better for you, if we could.

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Thankyou, I spelt it incorrecty, trust me, dear me, I've just phoned the hospital, he's in rescuss (bet I've spelt that wrong too), they are waitin for a bed for him, they have started him on iv antibiotics so all my fingers and toes crossed that although he is incurable cancer this might give us all a bit of extra time. I'm just a mess, when dh's nanna died I fell apart completely and I cannot cope with that again.You all on here are just amazin, thankyou.xx

Ruth, I'm very sorry to hear about your DH's granddad, and his mother too. Gosh, when it rains, it pours, doesn't it?

Lung cancer is horrible, my father died from it a year and a half ago. Ugh.

It's so hard, I know, but try to be strong for your husband and family. You'll all get through it ok together.

I'll be thinking about you and sending well wishes your way.

awwww no hun bug from up north

im so sorry that he is so poorly

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awwww no hun bug

from up north

im so sorry that he is so poorly

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I'm sorry to ask Ashley but didn't your grandad pass from the same thing? I have just spoke to mil, she can't go to the hospital as she is so ill but she is beside herself with worry. I understand that he is ill and he doesn't really want to be here without Barbabra but its never easy and hubby when his nanna passed was just a mess, I hope that he is ok this time. Dear me, I don't think my head can take anymore, I cannot thank all of you on here enough over these past weeks, it seems all I have done is ask for vibes, you're all amazing.xx

Ruthy, Mike took the words right out of my mouth... well - you know what I mean. We would make it all better for you if we could!

Everything does seem to happen all at once, and I'm just so sorry hun!



...and for ALL of you, epecially your DH's grandad, and your MIL.

Just spoke to mil, he has pneumonia, the hospital have started him on antibiotics, think I've said that already but he is comfortable for now, they said the cancer is attacking his brain which is why he is so confused. Don't know what time John will be home, I'm a mess, my stomach is gurgling and I feel sick, I've got a busy day tomorrrow, gotta go in town and get a few bits as I promised my kids a halloween party, I will make sure we do it and it will be a good party, just theres so much to do and think about. Harveys been a nightmare tonight surehe has picked up on the vibes bless him, hes out at the min but I want him in, he's a bugger but he's my baby and I want all my babys around me at the minute.Thankyou everyone so much.xx

Ruthy, I'm so sorry you're going through all of this right now... I hope things get better soon or you at least find the strength to cope with whatever comes your way...

I don't know what else to add, I hope things calm down quickly!

I'm thinking and praying for all of you.

thinking of you and your family

Yeah hun by the end the cancer had spread like wildfire he knew he wouldnt come out of hospital

I'm not sure what to add, but I'm really sorry. Huge hugs for you, and I hope they manage to help him a little. xx

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry. Thinking of you and your family during this rough time.

I am so sorry Ruthy. I hope that he doesn't suffer. I really wish this terrible luck you've been having lately would leave you alone!!! Here's a BIG
I wish there was something I could do to ease some of your stress. I'm praying for your dh's grand dad and all your family.xxoo

Sending you and family lots of vibes.

Just adding more vibes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And hugs!

Just want you to know I'm still thinking of you and your family..

Well, dh got in at 4.15am and then had to be at work for 7am! He is nackered totally. Some ood news though his grandad has been put on intrevenous antibiotics and is responding, although this will not help his cancer it will buy him a bit more time and he is comfortable at the moment.Thankyou so much for everyones kind words and support, you really all are like my extended family I love you all lots and lots.Thankyou again.xxx