They are more well-behaved overall, versus those that get zero discipline. Because the ones with zero discipline are continually doing things they shouldn't be, without any type of correction. For the most part, my friend's daughter is very good the majority of the time. She goes to animal shelters to play with the kitties, and respects the fosters that come home with them as well as her dogs. She respects other people's property, homes, has manners, and listens to her elders. If she does something bad after being told not to do it more than once, she gets popped. It doesn't mean she's constantly being hit for things at all. I've only ever seen my friend do it once. Sometimes all she has to do is raise her voice a little, and it keeps the kid in line if she starts venturing to a path she shouldn't be going down.Originally Posted by otto
I see variations of this comment all through this thread, and others like it.
It makes no sense to me. If these kids are so well behaved why are they getting hit in the first place?
Why do they need to be hit, if they are so good from being hit?
The others who don't get anything done find it okay to disrespect adults, break things in people's homes because they won't get in trouble for messing with it (mine wasn't the only one it happened in), hit their pets (I really wish Nero would have bit or scratched her, with the way she flung him around, dragged him by his legs or tail, etc. It was all I could do to not repeat the same handling on her). I even told her that's not how you handle a cat properly, and she basically told me she didn't care, it's how she wanted to handle the cat.
I was spanked growing up, but not very often because I knew what was right and wrong. I knew if I didn't want it, I should behave. My mom usually had used her hand, but also had a wooden spoon she used a couple times when I purposefully disobeyed her, knowing full well that I was. My grandmother had a wooden spanking paddle at her house, though I never put myself in a situation to receive any spankings there.