I don't recall ever being hit by my mom... maybe one swat on the behind. But my mother was a disciplinarian by other means. She said what she meant and meant what she said and there were consequences for improper actions and WE KNEW IT! Parents these days don't set boundaries and teach their children as Utopia said. Or simple tell them all the time how wonderful they are even if they aren't so as not to bruise their little egos. The result is spoiled, self-centered children who grow up to be miserable adults.Originally Posted by ut0pia
People are lazy for sure, and some people these days don't even make the effort to discipline their children in any way whatsoever, and add to that teaching them bad behaviors by example. But I don't think much more highly of those who hit their children and instill this fear in them, to me they are just as lazy, because they won't take the time to actually teach their children.
They are only "training" their child not actually making them use their ability to reason to understand what's right and wrong, but just relying on their instinct of avoiding further pain not to repeat the behavior...And sure humans are a smart species, eventually when we grow up we get why things are right and wrong and why we were hit, but it's unnecessary and damaging.
Like otto said, I am scared of what will happen when this child feels like she's in the same position of power as her adults who hit her are; for example if she's around cats or other animals or even her peers, and she feels like she has the upper hand, and there isn't any more fear of being spanked to keep her in check.
Oh and to the subject at hand, I don't know if I would have spanked the little girl, but I would have found some form of punishment and explanation for it. Well, maybe one swat and ask her if she likes being hit. Then don't do it to others.
ETA : and I wouldn't babysit them. At all. Ever. When I was in charge of my siblings' kids as a babysitter I had full discretion both for the safety and welfare and to punish/correct bad behavior. Otherwise, forget it.