Sigh..........

sneakymom

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Just ugh.

The lady who I screened phone calls from Monday- has now called again. Four times. Left 1 message and 3 hang ups. Yes I was bad- she called, I answered the phone and hung up when it was her. Ugh.

What the heck do I do? I most certainly do NOT want to hear "Guess what- I got all A's in EVERYTHING- the highest grade in my class". It's gloating and it's obnoxious. Not to mention I don't know if it's true or not. See, when we were in a class together- after EVERY SINGLE test that's what she'd say. Then she failed one. And came clean about not doing well on any of the others. Then she failed the class.

So she could very well be truthful. But how do I know? I don't see her. It's kind of like an internet relationship- only I have to physically talk on the phone to her.

I just want truthfulness. I don't want to make someone else feel good at my expense. Because right now my life is a mess. The one thing that I can say is that I have a roof over my head, pretty good kids and a husband. And 2 very sweet kitties
Though I could do without Holly and some of her antics sometimes


I don't want to confront and say "Um- are you REALLY telling the truth"? Though that would probably stop the phone calls huh? Not to mention that after we have that part of the conversation- I never get asked "and how's things with you". Nope. It's all about her, her, her. I have 2 teenage girls who have that attitude. I don't want to sit on the phone and listen to an ADULT go on for an hour.

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Couldn't you just say:

"Can I ask you not to call me at home please? I will catch up with you when I see you. Thank you." And then hang up.
 

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I had an actual friend who did that. We were pretty close while we worked together and once i left the place, every time we talked she always talked about herself and her life and then had to go. Never asked how I was doing or even let me talk....
Finally, one day she called and I dominated the conversation. I talked and talked, probably a good 20 minutes. As soon as she said hello I started in. After I talked for the 20 minutes, she finally interrupted to say she had to do. I said "Oh but I feel bad, we talked this whole time and it was JUST me talking, how are YOU doing??"....and I think she got the hint. She said she was okay and had to go. But next time we talked, after she talked a few minutes she actually asked about how I was and we split the time in the conversation.
Good luck...she doesn't seem to be getting the hint so you might need to be direct with her....but I do understand the frustration!
 

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Originally Posted by Primula

Couldn't you just say:

"Can I ask you not to call me at home please? I will catch up with you when I see you. Thank you." And then hang up.
I would say something similar. If you're tired of the lady calling all of the time and doing this, you may have to be a little firm to get the point across.
 

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Yes, thank GOODNESS for caller ID. I too have screened numerous phone calls from very similar people who I don't have the time, energy or patience to deal with.
 
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