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We have two outdoor cats, about 12 years old, and two indoor cats about 4 years old. Everybody's been getting along fine.

Recently, we adopted a neighborhood kitten; the kitten has a crippled front leg but is otherwise in good health and gets around fine. I'm guessing she is about one year old, and has been spayed by some previous owner. She is *very* affectionate with people, but seems to be exceedingly afraid of other cats; my guess is that she had trouble with the many large neighborhood cats during the time that she was abandoned.

We kept her in the garage for the first several weeks; after a couple of weeks we left the solid door open but the screen door closed, all day, so they could start checking each other out but were physically separated. I'd been a little worried about them meeting because the new kitten (Alana) is very petite, and our Siamese (Yoda) is friendly but can be rather aggressive in playing (as Siamese are wont to be).

Anyway, they appeared to be adapting reasonably well, so we started leaving Alana out and about while we're home, and Yoda would *really* like to make friends. What I'm seeing, though, is that Alana will aggressively chase the others down, try to corner them, and stand there hissing at them, cutting them off when they try to flee. (this has only been going on for a day or so). Interestingly, she doesn't fuzz up her fur or tail, nor any of the other "make myself look large" behaviors...

What should I make of this? Should I just let things proceed and see what happens?? Yoda certainly seems to be confused about it; I expected him to smack her for a loop, since he out-weighs her by about 5 pounds of solid muscle, but he's actually fleeing from her (at least so far)!!

We've been letting her out since last weekend (while we're home), but up until last night and this morning, she'd been avoid the others and just staying near one of the humans. This "chasing down the others" behavior just appeared this morning.

For now, I slapped my leg, barked NO at her, and put her back in the garage, and then immediately turned to trusty CatSite for insights!
post #2 of 6
Sometimes it's the littlest ones that turn out to be the alpha kitties LOL. I'm assuming her behavior is essentially defensive (by going on the offensive) in nature - as you suggest, because of whatever happened to her while she was on her own.

I'd invest in some Feliway plug-ins if you can. It may help. Otherwise, I'd focus on praising her to high heaven for being SUCH a good girl when she's not being aggressive to the others. Have some play sessions that involve all of them - a wand toy tossed one cat's direction, then another's... and reward them all with treats. Focus on getting all of them to associate each other with good things and praise.

We use time-outs as you did. But we make the isolation period just five minutes. We explain why the time out is happening on the way to the bathroom (where we have our time out). We set the timer, and when time's up, we open the door without looking at the cat and walk away.

The praise helps teach her what behavior is "good," and the time out helps her learn she gets ignored when she engages in that behavior.

But as she's new to the home, I don't really know if you should pursue the time outs yet - or just focus on the praise for good behavior and give them a little time to work out who's who and what's what... we do that, and if the behavior continues after a month, then we start the time outs. (As long as it's mostly just posturing and no one's getting hurt ).

post #3 of 6
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Thanks for your ideas, we'll try them tonite!! I like the group-play idea, and I'll focus on the "compliments for good behavior" technique and see how things go.

Actually, I *had* been playing with multiple cats present, over the past couple of days... whenever Alana started to play, the other two just backed up and watched, but that may change over time, as Yoda usually has a hard time resisting any small moving things!!

The reason I put her in the garage this morning, was to break up the confrontation... but I wonder if I might have accomplished the same thing by just picking her up, talking to her, and setting her down again, just to break her concentration? I'll try that if this happens again.
post #4 of 6
I bet she's just trying to establish her place in the pecking order. When I got my kitten, he went after Romeo (who was 9 pounds larger than him at the time) often. He occasionally got the scared/puffed up look if Ro startled him, but otherwise he didn't. Romeo seemed completely unconcerned by the whole thing, and just laid there, lol. I just let them work it out, but if Ro had been scared and cornered, I definitely would've redirected the kitten elsewhere.

Your kitten's behavior does sound a little more on the aggressive side, but I bet that once she realizes that your cats are not going to be fighting with her like other cats in the neighborhood did, she'll calm down.
post #5 of 6
She's alpha and it is really is true that the smallest of cats can become the boss quite quickly. Charlie, who still looks like he is 7 months old (he was horribly neglected and sick when he arrived here) has been ruling the roost since he arrived.

Here is was when he first arrived over four years ago



Here he is today and he hasn't grown much at all.



His health issues were extensive. he has an ulcerated eye, he is an active feline herpes carrier and he has a small hole in his heart. But let me tell you, he doesn't let that stop him from taking control
post #6 of 6
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HA!! Hi Hissy! Yep, that's what our little one is like!
Actually, when Yoda came to us in 2006, he looked like a pure-white version of Charlie, with the squinty eye and all. He's grown into 10 pounds of solid muscle and Siamese attitude, though he still has a weepy eye.

Alana seems to be coming to terms with the others; she's developed this pattern of hiding under a footstool in the living room, and ambushing cats that walk past!! When they turn to confront her, she darts back under the footstool and sits there hissing at them. If cats could roll their eyes, I"m sure they all would be!!
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