Now that was a waste of time!

Tonight was my high school reunion. It was held for the classes of 1970-1979. I was in the class of '75.

I remember now why I have not gone to a reunion since my 5 year reunion. The same old cliques are still in place. Hardly anyone talked to me except for a few people. They snubbed me in high school and they snubbed me 35 years later. There was a lot of drinking (DH and I do not drink). The food was good but not worth the $50 per person. It was nice looking through the memorabilia books. But it was basically dinner and dancing.

I am glad that I didn't have to pay as one of my old classmates paid for us to go. I would have much rather had the $100 and had a nice quiet dinner with Mike.

This July was my 20th reunion. I skipped it. They apparently didn't try very darn hard to track me down in the first place. Then when I looked at the events they had planned (which didn't even constitute a "class reunion" IMO) I realized it would be exactly what you described. The same cliques, that I never fit in to, babbling incessantly about crap I do not care about. BORING! Why bother?

So I didn't. There are exactly two people that I cared to reconnect with from my high school - out of a class of 375; school of well over 1000. And I did reconnect with them through Facebook. Now that I am talking to them again the rest of them can stuff it.

My father feels the same way about class reunions. He said of his class, "The only person from my class that I liked, I married. Why would I want to go back and talk to a bunch of people I didn't like 20, 30 or 40 years ago?"

A man of fine wisdom!

My 20th was this summer too! No, I didn't go. I didn't go to my 10th either. One of my old HS buddies contacted me on Facebook a few months back, asking if I was going to the reunion and that they were going to have to cancel it if more people didn't show interest. Boo-hoo. I hated a lot of my high school experience, and I have no interest in seeing most of the people I went to school with. I've re-connected with a few friends via Facebook in the last couple of years, but most of them are out of state now.

Much like the prom, I don't get the whole "reunion" thing. For my senior prom night, a bunch of my friends and I went out for a nice dinner and a movie. Cheaper than prom, and NO drama!

I have yet to go to any of mine... I had fun but went to two schools 1600 miles apart thus would want to attend two reunions... I looked at going to one of the ten yrs but found out it was basically a bbq at someones home... I was in a class of nearly 500 and was not going to spend likely 1000$ for the honor of hanging out at a BBQ ... That money was used to bring two lovely boys into my life..Pj and Punky ... no regrets

My 10th is scheduled for October and I have no desire to go. Some of the people I still talk to from HS keep asking me to go, telling me that I'd have fun, etc. PFFFT! I'm gonna have fun spending time with my husband, and being pregnant. No need to try and fit into that crowd again.

And that song and dance about how we've all grown up and matured? Has anyone really taken a look at people their own age? I bet $100 that half of my HS class has NOT grown up or matured. I look at people my age and so many of them are still partying it up, etc. I'm in a completely different place in my life than most of them, and that's ok. I don't need to visit with them to realize that. *shrug*

I never go to mine...don't even know when they are.

As you say, the jerks are still prob jerks. Much rather have a nice dinner with my DH at home.

I've lived this long without seeing anyone from school, I guess I can go the rest of my life that way!

I've never been to a reunion. Last one that I knew about was when I was too far away to come back for a weekend and now, all I have to do to see anyone is go to town for coffee as very few left here and those of us that did all moved back. I still only talk to the ones I did in school, the rest can get stuffed.

My 25th is this year and I refuse to go. Anyone I was friends with in high school, I keep in contact with on facebook. The rest..well, I could care less about them.

I find it very hypocritical of the "popular" ones to even talk to me. I was very overweight in highschool and had very few friends. As a joke, I was nominated for homecoming queen.

I did go to my 10 year reunion, after loosing 200 lbs and everyone wanted to talk with me. They were the same acting folk as they were in high school...all getting drunk and such. I wanted nothing to do with them, I am the same person I was back then and if I was not good enough to befriend back then, they are not good enough for me to befriend now.

On the other hand, I've seen those class reunions go very well, too. No, I haven't attended all mine (I just missed the 40th for my high-school class), but those I have attended, I've enjoyed.

No, I wasn't "in with the in-crowd." On the other hand, I attended a fairly small high school (60 in my graduating class) and a fairly small college (less than 200 in my graduating class).

Dottie attended her 20th reunion and had a really good time. In fact, almost none of her classmates recognized her. Could have had to do with losing 50 pounds, wearing contacts, and cutting her butt-length hair short, eh? She was voted "most improved!"

We're going to attend one while we're up in MA later this week.

That's too bad....well lesson learned I guess Next time its a fancy dinner just the two of you

this year is my 10th as well I am not sure I want to go. I went to the 5th and no one recoginzed me. I too lost weight, cut my butt-length hair short and got contacts. One of the guys i had a crush on in high school even went up to me and smoothly introduced himself to me thinking I was a guest. I prompltly informed him who I was and that we sat next to each other in every class for 4 years! (I was in the honors class so we basically went through the 4 years of high school with the same class) He turned bright red and i thought it was rather funny.

But I found that the same cliques were there. None of my friends went since we were the unpopular students. I had a double whammy not only was I a nerd for being in the honors class I was also a band geek with glasses. I never felt bad or apolozied for who I was back and I am certainly not going to start now!

I think I am going to skip the 10 year none of my old friends are going and if I REALLY wanted to stay in touch I would have. Its really expensive (they are going to the same place as our junior prom) and all they want to do is drink (I am not much of a drinker) and its like $70 a person. DH and I were like...errr no. He would go if I wanted but he knows that i had a ROUGH time in high school. We went to his but that is because he was popular and it was a BBQ.

I would rather take that money and get that Cat tree I had my eye on for the fur kids.

One lesson from reunions is that high school is not much of a predictor of later life. Ask those who went to high school with Jimmy Buffett (or, for that matter, his sixth cousin Warren Buffett), or Bill Gates, and many others. The skills to be popular in high school are NOT the same skills to be popular in college, and THEY are not the same skills for being successful in life.

I've outlived several of the kids in my class who were just plain too good at having fun. Common sense is sometimes its own reward.

There were a few people that were happy to see me but enough to ask for my phone number or want to keep in touch. I only went because Rick, on of my classmates, paid for us to go. My best friend from HS wasn't there. Most of the people are on facebook with me.

One thing that got me was DH and I were at a table by ourselves. No one wanted to sit with us. And when they ran out of tables and someone had to sit there, they ignored us. That is so sad that after 35 years, people are still the same as they were in HS.

At least you aren't out $100; free isn't so bad. I haven't gone to any of my reunions, they are always held in the summer and who wants to travel to Texas in July?

I keep telling my Mom to go to her high school/college reunions, she's 67 but doesn't look it, and with make up honey WOO she's a hottie for her age. She keeps declining and claiming there aren't anyone there she would know, but I wish she would.

I wouldn't go to mine as I only went 1 year to my high school, but I think about it sometimes. If I can lose another few pounds of course LOL.