I need some ideas/advice how to handle this situation: Our elderly neighbor lady has started driving through our yard again to get to her parking spot in front of her house. She has a dirt, L shaped driveway that gets one big mud puddle in it when it rains. So I see why she would do it....but it's putting grooves in our yard. How would you approach it?
When her family comes, they make her driveway into a T shape and park next to or behind the house; so there is no reason she couldn't pull in straight; then back up. Except that I don't think she is a very skillful driver anymore. But that wouldn't avoid the mud. We live on a somewhat busy country road and I've seen her pull onto the "shoulder" (someones yard) to let people pass her. The poor thing works like 2 or 3 fast food jobs. Life has obviously been difficult on her so it seems parking right in front of the front door is physically a relief for her. She can be sweet; but annoying too. (I'm ashamed to admit I find her annoying...I think it's more that I believe her kids and grandkids should be doing more for her...like we do for my grandparents! Like filling in the pot holes in her driveway so she doesn't have the mud puddles so bad. But that's almost another topic...) I've suspected her mind may be drifting at times. Just from observing similar behaviors to my grandmother who has dementia.
We do plan on planting shrubs and putting a split rail fence up in the near future. I know she couldn't have been doing this with her old neighbors because she claims they were racist and didn't let her set a foot near the property line. She did this some last summer after we moved in; but I thought she'd stopped so we never approached her about it. I think I asked for advice here last summer too. But now that time has passed I'm afraid it makes approaching it a little more tricky. I don't want to alienate her. I wish we were rich; I'd just have her driveway fixed for her!
When her family comes, they make her driveway into a T shape and park next to or behind the house; so there is no reason she couldn't pull in straight; then back up. Except that I don't think she is a very skillful driver anymore. But that wouldn't avoid the mud. We live on a somewhat busy country road and I've seen her pull onto the "shoulder" (someones yard) to let people pass her. The poor thing works like 2 or 3 fast food jobs. Life has obviously been difficult on her so it seems parking right in front of the front door is physically a relief for her. She can be sweet; but annoying too. (I'm ashamed to admit I find her annoying...I think it's more that I believe her kids and grandkids should be doing more for her...like we do for my grandparents! Like filling in the pot holes in her driveway so she doesn't have the mud puddles so bad. But that's almost another topic...) I've suspected her mind may be drifting at times. Just from observing similar behaviors to my grandmother who has dementia.
We do plan on planting shrubs and putting a split rail fence up in the near future. I know she couldn't have been doing this with her old neighbors because she claims they were racist and didn't let her set a foot near the property line. She did this some last summer after we moved in; but I thought she'd stopped so we never approached her about it. I think I asked for advice here last summer too. But now that time has passed I'm afraid it makes approaching it a little more tricky. I don't want to alienate her. I wish we were rich; I'd just have her driveway fixed for her!