Not sure if maybe some of you have had the same experience and can maybe offer some advice. My husband doesn't want kids. He hasn't outright told me NO.......but when people ask he gives every excuse under the sun. I truly do not know how we would afford a kid.......but it seems that most people don't and they make it work. He stresses over the money thing big time and is very meticulous.....has to have a plan for everything and see it on paper. I don't necessarily want kids right this second........but within the next few years...........at least before my mid 30s!!! (I'm 29 now). Now.....we went through a very very rough time. He almost left me. We are still sorting things out and now is definitely not the right time. But I still would like to know that there is a possibility of it in the future. It makes me so sad when people ask if I am having kids or why don't I have kids. How can I make this yearning go away??? How can I deal??? There will be short times where I am able to push it away for a bit and just be happy in the now.........but then something happens and triggers it all over again. This weekend I had been at a cookout and there were a bunch of kids there. Of course I was in my glory helping the kids get their food or playing with them. I heard someone ask my husband if we had kids or were planning on having kids. And he goes on to say there are too many kids in the world.....they are too expensive blah blah blah. It just breaks my heart....................what if we don't have kids????!!!!! I don't want to leave him ......I just want to be able to control these feelings.............make them go away. I've also thought that if I can't do this for myself maybe I can at least give someone else that wants a baby as badly as I do this gift. Give them a baby of their own by being a surrogate. But I don't qualify since I've never had kids of my own. They want someone that has given birth.
If anyone has any advice I truly would love to hear it. As I said.......I will not leave him over this......I love him....too much. But how can I get over this feeling if he doesn't want to have kids???
If anyone has any advice I truly would love to hear it. As I said.......I will not leave him over this......I love him....too much. But how can I get over this feeling if he doesn't want to have kids???