You all know how much I enjoy my SIL
Well now the family has a bit of relief....
Friday night, my manipulative worthless sister in law took clothes, got in her car, and left my in-laws house. Saturday, my BIL told my MIL he was done with it and wanted a divorce. Tired of coming home at night after work wondering if he'd be "allowed" to speak to her, tired of the roller coaster, of never knowing what kind of mood she was in. Tired of never being able to be close to her or affectionate. Tired of not being intimate (for the first two years together they were, he proposed, and she said "no more intimacy, I only did it so you wouldn't leave me". Then they waited til the wedding, and have only done anything ONCE since 3/20, and that was the week after). He's tired of her ignoring him for days over trivial things like a Jeep he owned before they were together that he still has, and his parents have paid for repairs to keep HER happy that his money wasn't going towards it. She doesn't understand communication, and is WAY too immature to be married to someone.
Before she left Friday, she told him she stopped loving him prior to their wedding, and the feelings hadn't changed. My in-laws spend $5000+ on that wedding, which was a mere four months ago, and we're speechless on why she would bother going through with it if she stopped having feelings for him two months before it. She also told him that everything is always about him, him, him, when in reality, and we all know it, he would do ANYTHING for her. Even if he didn't enjoy it or want to, he would try his best to make her happy. He is going to school full time and working his job still in order to get a better position to make enough money to buy the house she dreamed of, so she could get a better car, etc. She sits on her butt and works 4-5 hours every few days, and puts all her earnings in an account that he cannot touch. So he basically pays for everything, too.
My MIL was waiting for the breakdown. Monday after his classes, he asked his teacher, who's a judge, where to go to get the proper papers for divorce. He doesn't want to try and counsel the marriage, as far as he is concerned, it's over. She told him she needed time to think, and out she went. But if my hubby EVER told me he stopped loving me months ago, or even before our wedding, I don't think I'd ever be able to forget that. And he is so devastated by her words. He would have continued to put up with her crap, I'm sure, but he told his mom that she stood there and took vows to him, and basically lied while looking in his eyes. That since January, their relationship has been one big lie. And that was unacceptable. If she has to 'think' about being with him after only 4 months of marriage, he doesn't want to go through this over and over. He feels like she mentally left him months ago. The divorce papers are sitting on the table, ready to go, and I've gotten him the name of two attorneys recommended by a lawyer friend.
Hubby can't believe how many people these days think marriage and divorce are a big joke. It's VERY easy to get married, and so very hard to divorce. In South Carolina, there are only five grounds to divorce on - adultery, physical cruelty, desertion (1 year), habitual drunkenness, or no-fault separation (1 year). He is going for an uncontested divorce - they have nothing, really. He has a car, she has a car. They lived in my in-laws house. He says she can have all the wedding gifts, and all the money in the bank account (he doesn't have much in there). He is separating his name from hers on all joint bills. Because it's only been 4 months, it's an even harder process, as he is advised not to file himself.
My MIL & FIL are relieved. They tried to talk him out of the marriage, but he was certain if he tried hard enough things would work. But its a two-way deal, and only one person was trying. My FIL wants to pack up all her stuff and put it in a storage unit, along with her mother's stuff that she brought over when her mom got thrown out of her house (divorcing as well). My MIL is sort of upset, mainly because she hates seeing her baby hurt. But at the same time, she is hoping that he goes on to be successful and have nice things, meet a wonderful woman (who we told him she has to go in front of the jury, the family, before marrying again!), and that SIL kicks herself for being so cruel to him and losing him (just like my hubby's ex-gf). My SIL was nasty to my MIL most of the time, always putting her down, and putting my BIL down a lot. People are beginning to say "we never knew what he saw in her anyway" - so love can be blind. He did say she's been chatting online with a guy in Canada, and he wonders if that has anything to do with it. And if it does, fine so be it. He is taking it well right now, I know he's probably covering up a lot, but he is adamant, moving as quickly as he can, and even was hoping she could be out of his life for good by the end of the month! (Too bad even if it was an at-fault divorce, its a 90 day wait in SC). He wanted to put down for the reason: wife is an immature girl that needs to grow up!!
We are all hoping she doesn't try and manipulate him and weasel her way back to him once she is served with papers, but he says it wont happen, and my in-laws say she is only welcome in their home to get her belongings, cat, and hamster (and honestly I think the cat is better off left with my MIL! At least SHE takes care of it! SIL wants a kid but cant handle a CAT!?
The poor cat has worms, and my MIL is the one taking her to the vet Thursday and paying for it if the cat is still at their house).
Cant say we all didn't see it coming since the proposal, really. I feel bad for him, because he says he was in it 100% but isn't going to be walked on anymore. The best gift she ever gave him was walking out Friday - she gave him a 2nd chance to enjoy his life, meet someone who'll treat him like they should, and not be brought down and put down by her.
Edit: Oh yeah and I've kept her on my Facebook, as much as I'd LOVE to say what I think to her and delete her. I noticed she took down her marriage info over the weekend, deleted her page then brought it back but still has no marital status. Been keeping my eye on the page, because many a people have shot themselves in the foot over FB during divorces. She currently is talking about how happy she is, doesn't seem too upset over the issues. How she's looking forward to going out Friday, having a great day, etc. She hasn't changed her name back on there (she changed it to her married name months before the wedding, so it's not like she waits for legal name changes), because I think she figures she'll waltz back in whenever and he'll be waiting. He actually joined FB also because she used to complain about him daily on there (duhhhh you have his mother and SIL as a friend and dont think we'd tell him?). Hubby deleted all traces of her on his page, but I'm stealth haha.
Friday night, my manipulative worthless sister in law took clothes, got in her car, and left my in-laws house. Saturday, my BIL told my MIL he was done with it and wanted a divorce. Tired of coming home at night after work wondering if he'd be "allowed" to speak to her, tired of the roller coaster, of never knowing what kind of mood she was in. Tired of never being able to be close to her or affectionate. Tired of not being intimate (for the first two years together they were, he proposed, and she said "no more intimacy, I only did it so you wouldn't leave me". Then they waited til the wedding, and have only done anything ONCE since 3/20, and that was the week after). He's tired of her ignoring him for days over trivial things like a Jeep he owned before they were together that he still has, and his parents have paid for repairs to keep HER happy that his money wasn't going towards it. She doesn't understand communication, and is WAY too immature to be married to someone.
Before she left Friday, she told him she stopped loving him prior to their wedding, and the feelings hadn't changed. My in-laws spend $5000+ on that wedding, which was a mere four months ago, and we're speechless on why she would bother going through with it if she stopped having feelings for him two months before it. She also told him that everything is always about him, him, him, when in reality, and we all know it, he would do ANYTHING for her. Even if he didn't enjoy it or want to, he would try his best to make her happy. He is going to school full time and working his job still in order to get a better position to make enough money to buy the house she dreamed of, so she could get a better car, etc. She sits on her butt and works 4-5 hours every few days, and puts all her earnings in an account that he cannot touch. So he basically pays for everything, too.
My MIL was waiting for the breakdown. Monday after his classes, he asked his teacher, who's a judge, where to go to get the proper papers for divorce. He doesn't want to try and counsel the marriage, as far as he is concerned, it's over. She told him she needed time to think, and out she went. But if my hubby EVER told me he stopped loving me months ago, or even before our wedding, I don't think I'd ever be able to forget that. And he is so devastated by her words. He would have continued to put up with her crap, I'm sure, but he told his mom that she stood there and took vows to him, and basically lied while looking in his eyes. That since January, their relationship has been one big lie. And that was unacceptable. If she has to 'think' about being with him after only 4 months of marriage, he doesn't want to go through this over and over. He feels like she mentally left him months ago. The divorce papers are sitting on the table, ready to go, and I've gotten him the name of two attorneys recommended by a lawyer friend.
Hubby can't believe how many people these days think marriage and divorce are a big joke. It's VERY easy to get married, and so very hard to divorce. In South Carolina, there are only five grounds to divorce on - adultery, physical cruelty, desertion (1 year), habitual drunkenness, or no-fault separation (1 year). He is going for an uncontested divorce - they have nothing, really. He has a car, she has a car. They lived in my in-laws house. He says she can have all the wedding gifts, and all the money in the bank account (he doesn't have much in there). He is separating his name from hers on all joint bills. Because it's only been 4 months, it's an even harder process, as he is advised not to file himself.
My MIL & FIL are relieved. They tried to talk him out of the marriage, but he was certain if he tried hard enough things would work. But its a two-way deal, and only one person was trying. My FIL wants to pack up all her stuff and put it in a storage unit, along with her mother's stuff that she brought over when her mom got thrown out of her house (divorcing as well). My MIL is sort of upset, mainly because she hates seeing her baby hurt. But at the same time, she is hoping that he goes on to be successful and have nice things, meet a wonderful woman (who we told him she has to go in front of the jury, the family, before marrying again!), and that SIL kicks herself for being so cruel to him and losing him (just like my hubby's ex-gf). My SIL was nasty to my MIL most of the time, always putting her down, and putting my BIL down a lot. People are beginning to say "we never knew what he saw in her anyway" - so love can be blind. He did say she's been chatting online with a guy in Canada, and he wonders if that has anything to do with it. And if it does, fine so be it. He is taking it well right now, I know he's probably covering up a lot, but he is adamant, moving as quickly as he can, and even was hoping she could be out of his life for good by the end of the month! (Too bad even if it was an at-fault divorce, its a 90 day wait in SC). He wanted to put down for the reason: wife is an immature girl that needs to grow up!!
We are all hoping she doesn't try and manipulate him and weasel her way back to him once she is served with papers, but he says it wont happen, and my in-laws say she is only welcome in their home to get her belongings, cat, and hamster (and honestly I think the cat is better off left with my MIL! At least SHE takes care of it! SIL wants a kid but cant handle a CAT!?
Cant say we all didn't see it coming since the proposal, really. I feel bad for him, because he says he was in it 100% but isn't going to be walked on anymore. The best gift she ever gave him was walking out Friday - she gave him a 2nd chance to enjoy his life, meet someone who'll treat him like they should, and not be brought down and put down by her.
Edit: Oh yeah and I've kept her on my Facebook, as much as I'd LOVE to say what I think to her and delete her. I noticed she took down her marriage info over the weekend, deleted her page then brought it back but still has no marital status. Been keeping my eye on the page, because many a people have shot themselves in the foot over FB during divorces. She currently is talking about how happy she is, doesn't seem too upset over the issues. How she's looking forward to going out Friday, having a great day, etc. She hasn't changed her name back on there (she changed it to her married name months before the wedding, so it's not like she waits for legal name changes), because I think she figures she'll waltz back in whenever and he'll be waiting. He actually joined FB also because she used to complain about him daily on there (duhhhh you have his mother and SIL as a friend and dont think we'd tell him?). Hubby deleted all traces of her on his page, but I'm stealth haha.
