Not cat related, but human related. As most of you know, I have some pretty strong convictions but want to be honest and hate to "lie" about how I feel about situations.
I just wanted to know how some of you would handle this. The situation is not in my family but in a close friend of the family - a granddaughter of the family.
A little background. Long time friends (the couple) and so my hubby knows the grandchild from when she was very little - I knew her as a young teenager. Her mother as into drugs, lost custody and the grandmother more/less raised her. For awhile the child was going to church and was doing fine. But about mid teen, she rebelled again and because the grandmother was in on good health, the child went back to the mother (she was off of drugs but still not a good influence - allowed the daughter to quite school and "date"/sleep with whoever she wanted to).
So not the granddaughter is back again (mother died) and she is barely over 18 (I think she is 19 now), pregnant by one guy, but dating a "separated" older guy who will be deployed in a month. NO plans of marriage at all. She is on welfare at this time, no job.
We had the feeling she would be pregnant considering what kind of life she choose and were not really surprised.
But here's the part I'm having a problem with. I cannot be "happy" or "excited" about this at all. And I can't pretend I am. I can only pray the baby will be ok when born. She has NO intentions of marriage, no way to support this baby, etc. IMO the child should be given up for adoption. I'm not really looking for advice per say, but just wanted to know how you feel when someone is doing something you really are against or have strong morals/convictions about it.
I asked her "so when will you get married?" - her answer was "I'm not marrying the chavonistic pig"..........I wanted to say "well he was good enough for you to get pregnant by"........but just dropped it. And she doesn't even want to marry the one she is seeing now cause he's not even divorced.
The sad thing is the child suffers the most - its a child raising a child and no clue as to how to do it. BTW the grandmother is in very poor health and probably will not be here much longer (on constant oxygen now). Its "how do you get thru to them"? I know everyone makes mistakes (I certainly did), but how do you get them to see the destruction? And it doesn't help when your MIL sits there and is so happy and excited for this child and says "oh when you have a baby shower, I'd like an inviation". Most all her kids/grandchildren are doing the exact same thing - having kids far too young, not married, etc.
I just wanted to know how some of you would handle this. The situation is not in my family but in a close friend of the family - a granddaughter of the family.
A little background. Long time friends (the couple) and so my hubby knows the grandchild from when she was very little - I knew her as a young teenager. Her mother as into drugs, lost custody and the grandmother more/less raised her. For awhile the child was going to church and was doing fine. But about mid teen, she rebelled again and because the grandmother was in on good health, the child went back to the mother (she was off of drugs but still not a good influence - allowed the daughter to quite school and "date"/sleep with whoever she wanted to).
So not the granddaughter is back again (mother died) and she is barely over 18 (I think she is 19 now), pregnant by one guy, but dating a "separated" older guy who will be deployed in a month. NO plans of marriage at all. She is on welfare at this time, no job.
We had the feeling she would be pregnant considering what kind of life she choose and were not really surprised.
But here's the part I'm having a problem with. I cannot be "happy" or "excited" about this at all. And I can't pretend I am. I can only pray the baby will be ok when born. She has NO intentions of marriage, no way to support this baby, etc. IMO the child should be given up for adoption. I'm not really looking for advice per say, but just wanted to know how you feel when someone is doing something you really are against or have strong morals/convictions about it.
I asked her "so when will you get married?" - her answer was "I'm not marrying the chavonistic pig"..........I wanted to say "well he was good enough for you to get pregnant by"........but just dropped it. And she doesn't even want to marry the one she is seeing now cause he's not even divorced.
The sad thing is the child suffers the most - its a child raising a child and no clue as to how to do it. BTW the grandmother is in very poor health and probably will not be here much longer (on constant oxygen now). Its "how do you get thru to them"? I know everyone makes mistakes (I certainly did), but how do you get them to see the destruction? And it doesn't help when your MIL sits there and is so happy and excited for this child and says "oh when you have a baby shower, I'd like an inviation". Most all her kids/grandchildren are doing the exact same thing - having kids far too young, not married, etc.