Thanks to facebook, myspace, etc, I've reconnected with a lot of people I was good friends with back in high school and college. I love talking with them via messages and emails and we just seem to pick up where we left off for the most part. I still consider most of these people good friends even though we haven't seen each other in 20 years.
See, that's the problem..."seeing" them. A good friend from high school lives 600 miles away but she's back visiting her parents for a week and a half...only 10 miles down the road. I was thrilled when I found out she was coming in, back in February, but now I'm finding every excuse in the book to not meet up with her. And I don't know why! She's a great person and I love talking to her, but social things basically make me panic.
This isn't the first time I've done this either. Last year we were planning on going to a small college reunion hosted by a good friend. Only about 20 people (our little group plus family) but I bowed out at the last minute.
DH and I almost got into a fight about it the other night. He said I need friends, and asked when was the last time I went and did something with someone other than him. I really had to think about that and it's been years. My two bestest friends live 50 miles and 1000 miles away, and I haven't even called them in months. Of course, they haven't called me either but that is no excuse. I have friends at work, but they are work friends not really people I want to hang out with. Plus they all have their own lives.
I have no idea why I'm freaking out about getting together with someone I was friends with before. Any ideas? Yes, I know I need a therapist but this is therapy for free!
See, that's the problem..."seeing" them. A good friend from high school lives 600 miles away but she's back visiting her parents for a week and a half...only 10 miles down the road. I was thrilled when I found out she was coming in, back in February, but now I'm finding every excuse in the book to not meet up with her. And I don't know why! She's a great person and I love talking to her, but social things basically make me panic.
This isn't the first time I've done this either. Last year we were planning on going to a small college reunion hosted by a good friend. Only about 20 people (our little group plus family) but I bowed out at the last minute.
DH and I almost got into a fight about it the other night. He said I need friends, and asked when was the last time I went and did something with someone other than him. I really had to think about that and it's been years. My two bestest friends live 50 miles and 1000 miles away, and I haven't even called them in months. Of course, they haven't called me either but that is no excuse. I have friends at work, but they are work friends not really people I want to hang out with. Plus they all have their own lives.
I have no idea why I'm freaking out about getting together with someone I was friends with before. Any ideas? Yes, I know I need a therapist but this is therapy for free!