I am so creeped out!

I was looking on Lejeuneyardsales.com and came across an ad for cheap tattoos. I emailed the person pointing out that it was illegal to advertise such businesses on the site, and they should be expecting a visit from the Health Department, who monitors that site closely for people tattooing out of their homes. I was not mean or nasty about it.
It costs a licensed artist $300 just to get an inspector to come out to a shop, with no guarantee they will pass and not have to repeat the process, and the fee. It is just wrong for these unlicensed people to try and take their livelihood and spread disease.
Anyway, now these people have found out my name and are threatening me. I am not scared of them, but it just creeps me out that it was so easy for them to do that. In the process they also gave me their whole name, it is a deployed Marine's wife, and I am going to her husband's command tomorrow. It is a shame that he will have to deal with this from Afghanistan, especially since he will find out his wife has someone living in and working illegally out of his house, but I will not be threatened. I have to deal with strangers every day, and I can't be wondering if the person in my back seat is the person that is threatening me and if I will have to defend myself. This really sucks!

If you report him to his command you could possibly jeopardize your safety even worse. This guy is a trained soldier. A gaffe like this could cost him his career.

Is this really the kind of person you want to narc out of two jobs and give every reason in the world to go after you?

I applaud your courage, but I also highly reccomend that you get yourself a 12-guage if you plan on ratting on him to his high command.

Be safe, and think about the implications very carefully before you take a step that could be extremely damaging to a proffesional soldier's career, and potentially dangerous for you as well.

The Marine on deployment has nothing to fear as long as he isn't part of what is going on. If the Marine is willingly taking part in it then he has no one to blame but himself. I'm not saying this is the case, but if his wife is screwing around on him behind his back, and participating in an illegal business, then he has every right to know about it.

I can remember at least four occassions where we have returned from deployment only to find out that the wife of a deployed was cheating on him.

Oh no! That's scary, what's wrong with people? Personally, I would tell the tattoo people to leave you alone OR you'll go to the husband's commanding officer. Otherwise, I'd back off... and I'd want them to back off. Stay safe, either way!

Originally Posted by SwampWitch

Oh no! That's scary, what's wrong with people? Personally, I would tell the tattoo people to leave you alone OR you'll go to the husband's commanding officer. Otherwise, I'd back off... and I'd want them to back off. Stay safe, either way!

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That is what I would do.

I'm sorry, but I fail to see what the husband overseas has to do with it? It's the wife causing you problems, not the husband. Why on earth would you go to the guy's commanding officer and complain to him about the guys civilian wife?

Call the local police department (not military police) and file a complaint with them. Pass along all of the information including the evidence that they are harassing and threatening you.

And next time think before you leap. It's not hard to find out someone's name and address from an email address, especially if it's an email address from your ISP account. Also, you didn't know that those people were practicing illegally out of their home. You assumed it. They could have a legit business, complete with license and all of the rest. It was rather presumptuous of you to contact them and threaten to report them to the health department based on an internet ad and not even knowing anything about the people running the business.

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

I'm sorry, but I fail to see what the husband overseas has to do with it? It's the wife causing you problems, not the husband. Why on earth would you go to the guy's commanding officer and complain to him about the guys civilian wife?

Call the local police department (not military police) and file a complaint with them. Pass along all of the information including the evidence that they are harassing and threatening you.

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if its the wife thats causing the issue its a police matter not military

i understand its scary but you have to think something like this through properly otherwise it could end up worse

Keep safe x some times its not worth the risk upsetting dangerous poeople! x

The Marine has nothing to do with it, I would not be putting him out of 2 jobs. If she is caught doing this, he will be in trouble anyway. I gave her the chance to put a stop to it before they get busted for stupidly putting an ad for an illegal business on the military yard sale site. The ad said quite clearly that it was a home business charging half or less than a shop that is licensed, and it is not possible to get a license in this county for a home based tattooing business, or we would have done it years ago.
I did not threaten anyone, I just pointed out to her that it was illegal and she could get in trouble because the health department monitors that site. It was not a presumptuous thing on my part.
I did not post this just to get a response I wanted, but I really think some of the posters should reread the original post.

Originally Posted by krazy kat2

I really think some of the posters should reread the original post.

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I did read it, several times. And to give you the benefit of the doubt I went back and reread it again!

My initial remarks stand.

Originally Posted by krazy kat2

The Marine has nothing to do with it, I would not be putting him out of 2 jobs. If she is caught doing this, he will be in trouble anyway. I gave her the chance to put a stop to it before they get busted for stupidly putting an ad for an illegal business on the military yard sale site. The ad said quite clearly that it was a home business charging half or less than a shop that is licensed, and it is not possible to get a license in this county for a home based tattooing business, or we would have done it years ago.
I did not threaten anyone, I just pointed out to her that it was illegal and she could get in trouble because the health department monitors that site. It was not a presumptuous thing on my part.
I did not post this just to get a response I wanted, but I really think some of the posters should reread the original post.

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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

I did read it, several times. And to give you the benefit of the doubt I went back and reread it again!

My initial remarks stand.

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I think we are reading it correctly. I don't think it is appropriate to go to his commanding officer.

If they are on a military base like living in that housing..I would do exactly what you are doing because they shouldnt be doing that. But thats just me and honestly I am a complete jerk when it comes to stuff like that.

If they were living on off base housing I probably wouldnt say anything except if they need to stop then Id call the health department myself and report them. If they are on off base housing there probably isnt much the M.Ps can do because technically their jurisdiction lies within the base itself not nessecarily the military personnal or their dependants.

Originally Posted by krazy kat2

I emailed the person pointing out that it was illegal to advertise such businesses on the site, and they should be expecting a visit from the Health Department

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I would have e-mailed the Health Department direct instead of her, then that keeps you out of it

Originally Posted by krazy kat2

I am going to her husband's command tomorrow. It is a shame that he will have to deal with this from Afghanistan

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Honestly, he really doesn't need anymore hassle with what he's already going through over there

I spoke off the record with a NCO that I know and he checked in to it. Her husband has begun legal proceedings against her already because she is out of control while he has been gone. I had decided not to go to his command anyway, but was trying to find out what I could do without it, so none of this will affect him. So the Marine is out of the equation, and I will just deal with the rest of it on my own.
I guess that is what I get for trying to prevent our living from being cut in to by illegal scratchers. My info is being removed as much as possible and I am changing my email accounts .

Maybe this is a stupid question, but what was the objective of emailing her in the first place?? Because to me, it seems like you're trying to deal with something that isn't your business to deal with, it's the health department's business.
I would have done exactly what Rosiemac said, I would have called the health department rather than trying to deal with things that aren't your job nor responsibility.

I was trying to give her the chance NOT to get busted by the health department, which would lead to several criminal charges, along with the big fines from HD violations. Any time there are people working like that, there is a big possibility of spreading infection since most of them do not own sterilizers. Then the people want the work fixed by a knowledgeable tattooer, exposing them to staph infections among other things, even with gloves and proper sterilization.
It was not the first time I had let someone know that, and the other person was not aware what would happen to him if he were caught. He was grateful and went on to get a job in a shop working legally. He still emails me occasionally. This girl just wanted to go psycho over it. I also got an email from the guy that she was trying to promote and he did not know anything about it until she told him and he demanded to read the emails. He is looking for a job in a shop, and something like that would ruin his chances. He was also not aware she was married to a Marine that would be coming home soon. She said he was "her hubby" and showed a pic of her and a Marine, not the guy she was promoting.
I won't be trying to help anyone else any time soon.

Originally Posted by krazy kat2

I was trying to give her the chance NOT to get busted by the health department, which would lead to several criminal charges, along with the big fines from HD violations .

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Again, i would have left it to the Health Department. So she gets several criminal charges or fines to go with them, that's for them to worry about. If you had went down the Health Department route you still did your bit to make sure no infections etc... happend

Originally Posted by krazy kat2

I spoke off the record with a NCO that I know and he checked in to it. Her husband has begun legal proceedings against her already because she is out of control while he has been gone.

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I don't know how your laws stand over there on issuing personal information to strangers, but if that NCO was caught doing that over here he would be hauled over the coals, worse discharged!.

It's called "Data protection" here, something we take very seriously. At my old place i've had many ex members of staff ring me up asking for an employees phone number that they've known for years, but i wouldn't give it without their permission because i know i'd be furious if someone handed my personal details out without asking me first.

Originally Posted by Rosiemac

I don't know how your laws stand over there on issuing personal information to strangers, but if that NCO was caught doing that over here he would be hauled over the coals, worse discharged!.

It's called "Data protection" here, something we take very seriously. At my old place i've had many ex members of staff ring me up asking for an employees phone number that they've known for years, but i wouldn't give it without their permission because i know i'd be furious if someone handed my personal details out without asking me first.

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We have the same here and when I saw that posted I was aghast. Glad you brought it up because if that is in fact what happened, that guy should be seriously reprimanded for passing along personal/private information to a complete stranger.

Originally Posted by Rosiemac

Again, i would have left it to the Health Department. So she gets several criminal charges or fines to go with them, that's for them to worry about. If you had went down the Health Department route you still did your bit to make sure no infections etc... happend

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Ah, but "hindsight's cheap."

Originally Posted by Rosiemac

I don't know how your laws stand over there on issuing personal information to strangers, but if that NCO was caught doing that over here he would be hauled over the coals, worse discharged!.

It's called "Data protection" here, something we take very seriously. At my old place i've had many ex members of staff ring me up asking for an employees phone number that they've known for years, but i wouldn't give it without their permission because i know i'd be furious if someone handed my personal details out without asking me first.

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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

We have the same here and when I saw that posted I was aghast. Glad you brought it up because if that is in fact what happened, that guy should be seriously reprimanded for passing along personal/private information to a complete stranger.

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I was surprised to read this too. In the U.S. education system, it is illegal for educators to disclose any information about the children, and I can't imagine the Marines being more lax!

But here I've had teachers give lots of personal info about other children (and always wonder who they are talking to about my child!) and teacher aids, too, pointing out that "that little boy goes around cleaning up because he has Asperger's."