Uh, I have a foster?

alicatjoy

TCS Member
Thread starter
Top Cat
Joined
Apr 26, 2009
Messages
1,662
Purraise
66
Location
Northeast Ohio
Well, I'd say that today has been an interesting day...

I was not in a good place, emotionally, for much of this morning. In fact, I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for the better part of this week. These are issues I always have difficulty with, but it's been more difficult this week than most. But, that's, I suppose neither here nor there.

My roommate and I went out today to do some shopping. You know, the usual -- grocery store, pet store, pharmacy. It was a good enough excuse to get out of the house and, while I was still upset, I was doing some better by the end of the trip. And, when we got home, I was feeling more at peace and ease and was even chatting some as my roommate and I took the bags from the car and put them on the porch. It was then that I heard a meow. First one, then another, and a third. I quickly looked upstairs as my bedroom window was open -- I figured one of my kitties was up there bird (or squirrel) watching and was calling out for attention. But, instead of seeing a cat at my window, my roommate called out to me and said there was a kitty behind me. Apparently, she had seen this cat earlier today, but it had run off as soon as she walked toward the car. But, this time, the kitty just came toward me and began to weave in and out of my legs. It meowed the entire time and I could feel the cat's purr vibrate against my calves. With a cat so friendly and secure around humans, it became obvious this was a stray and not a feral -- most likely a cat someone had dumped. And, my guess is that the kitty was dumped recently.

After a quick look-see, I was certain I was dealing with an intact male. My guess is that he is somewhere between 10 months and a year old, but he may be older or younger by a hair. He's very thin and lanky, but appeared otherwise to be in good condition. No fight wounds, his eyes and nose are clear, his ears look good, and his fur is not dirty or patchy. And, he's incredibly sweet and well-mannered. So, where is this little kitty now? On my front porch -- set up with a litter pan, dry food, wet food, and fresh water. Oh, and he's already been given a dose of Advantage.

My roommate and I will be calling the vet tomorrow to get him in for testing, de-worming, and his initial shots. And, of course, neutering will follow. Money is tight, but what can you do? After all, this kitty clearly chose me. All of our neighbors remarked how skittish he was, but none of them had seen him before either -- no wonder he was scared! I can't keep him, but my roommate has her two cats in the finished basement/den (her part of the house) and she has already expressed interest in keeping him. She has a very elderly cat who has cancer and is on borrowed time and another cat who is about 2 years old who will, in time, need a companion. And, so I think our foster kitty may become a permanent resident (her kitties stay downstairs in my roommate's part of the house and do not interact with my cats). But, this was all a surprise and a whirlwind and...let's just say I'm not in as bad a mood as I was earlier...

For now, the kitty is on the porch where he'll stay until his vet appointment (hopefully) tomorrow. The other cats have no access to the area and we've set up a fan and a safe area for him to spend the night. He'll be quarantined following that in one of the master baths, but, for now, he's safe and secure where he is. I've already taken pictures and will post them in just a bit, but I wanted to post his story here first.

I was not in the market for another cat. And, my roommate is usually against doing anything of this sort. But, he's here and I suppose this is where he's meant to be.

So, yeah, I have a foster
. And, it seems like he's already helped me far more than I have helped him...
 

addiebee

TCS Member
Top Cat
Joined
Oct 30, 2007
Messages
7,724
Purraise
17
Location
Michigan
Better than a hour's session with a therapist!!!
Good for your for helping this sweet boy...
 

StefanZ

Advisor
Staff Member
Advisor
Joined
Sep 18, 2005
Messages
26,072
Purraise
10,774
Location
Sweden
Originally Posted by AddieBee

Better than a hour's session with a therapist!!!
Good for your for helping this sweet boy...
So it is, so it is! Amen.
 

kailie

TCS Member
Veteran
Joined
Jan 20, 2010
Messages
9,025
Purraise
25
Location
New Brunswick, Canada
LOVE it!
I have OFTEN said that my cats and ESPECIALLY fostering is the best therapy ever. You and your roommate are wonderful for helping this boy. Pictures?!?
 

newt

TCS Member
Young Cat
Joined
Jan 7, 2006
Messages
75
Purraise
5
Location
Maryland
Allison, I sure can relate to that story! Isn't it great when the animals we rescue end up rescuing us?

I too am fostering, but it's a tiny feral kitten. Went with a friend to trap for TNR last week and a young kitten went into one of the individual traps. So now he's here with me (she doesn't have any more room) and I'm trying to tame him. Problem is my son will be home from Iraq in about a month and the kitty is in his room and he's allergic to cats! Not sure what I'm gonna do as my son usually can't sleep in a bed for the first month or so when he comes home and sleeps in a big chair or on the sofa. I was thinking of putting the cage on the dining room table and we eat in the kitchen/family room where we usually eat anyway. At least the kitty has lifted my spirits with every advance he makes towards being tame.

Oh, and tomorrow I go back and try and trap his mother again, for the 4th time! She's so smart and won't go in a trap or colony drop trap. She just waits us out. She still has 3 or 4 kittens with her, so maybe I'll get them. Let's hope.

Newt
 

StefanZ

Advisor
Staff Member
Advisor
Joined
Sep 18, 2005
Messages
26,072
Purraise
10,774
Location
Sweden
Originally Posted by Newt

Allison, I sure can relate to that story! Isn't it great when the animals we rescue end up rescuing us?

I too am fostering, but it's a tiny feral kitten. Went with a friend to trap for TNR last week and a young kitten went into one of the individual traps. So now he's here with me (she doesn't have any more room) and I'm trying to tame him. Problem is my son will be home from Iraq in about a month and the kitty is in his room and he's allergic to cats!
So your son is a veteran? He could certainly have some use of a private cat-therapist... I have understood they often do. Even the swedish veterans often need some help - although they are seldom sent into the most dangerous areas.

It is unlucky he is allergic to cats. But it is wellknown many allergic cat owners do manage to keep their cats. So lets look a little on what they are doing to manage? (There IS one exception: IF this allergy includes severe asthma. Severe asthma isnt nothing to play with - people do die from it an unpleasant death. So although there are cat owners with allergic asthma - I cant and I dont recommend newcomers to make any experiments).

Ok. Bathing the cat once a week / a tenday - may be common water - is very effective. Perhaps the cat wants to swim??
If the cat really hates water, or if you are in hurry, you can try to use a damp cloth on the cat now and then. For example, just before an allergic guest is visiting you.

Use a good air cleener - preferably with Hepa-filter - is very effective. If you cant have an air-cleaner - do air the room often.
An "air-soaker" making dry air a little more damp, may be useful. - And or an "air-damp" reducer...
This is partly individual and depends on circumstances. Many asthmatics prefer dry air, while some other they want to have the air more damp.

Dust is the big enemy. So avoid carpets which tend to be dusty... Avoid all dusty situations. Clean with soap-water. IF you must clean with a vacuum-cleaner, use one with a good filter, preferably a Hepa-filter.

The cat-litter should be a dust free sort. there are dust-free litters made of paper, of corn(!), also of wood. Try some of these. Ps. an advantage of these litters is they are biologically reductable. Thus - stricktly speaking they are the ecologically best litters.

No smoking... (although I suspect as a veteran with difficult memories he does smoke...). IF you must smoke, smoke outside or at the very least: smoke only at a very well ventilated place.

Live soundly. Good sleep, good foods with lotsa of vitamines and proper nourishment... No heavy drinking... etc... Drink quite much water, to help flush out residuals from your body.
Try to keep in good shape.

After cuddling - do wash your hands - never ever take the hand to the eyes after cuddling...

Try not to have the cat in your bed... Which is probably the real hardship for a cat loving, allergic cat-owner... As having the cats sleeping with you, on you - is a great part of the pleasure...

I presume he has seen the doctor about his allergy? And have got something?
He can also try with alternative medicines: acupunkture (the needles into the skin, you know) is one example.
Observe: "Try also", not "instead of seeing a doc". The alternative doctors are allowed to fill in and help the regular doctors, they are not allowed to be instead the regular doctors. - So it is in Sweden, I presume it is so in other countries too.

There are surely more to say, but these are the most important.

Last, but not least here:
There are some extra costs here: Air cleaner, air dampness regulating.
A normal allergic cat owner must pay for it herself. Especially as the doctors recommend NOT to have cats.
But your son is a veteran. With a little luck he can thus get economical help for it, perhaps even with the doctors approval - just because he IS a veteran. Animal therapy although sorts of alternative medicine, is also de facto approved by the school-medicine..

I will send this letter also as a private PM.


Tx for helping this little guy


And good luck to you, your son, and this kitten!
 

newt

TCS Member
Young Cat
Joined
Jan 7, 2006
Messages
75
Purraise
5
Location
Maryland
Originally Posted by StefanZ

So your son is a veteran? He could certainly have some use of a private cat-therapist... I have understood they often do. Even the swedish veterans often need some help - although they are seldom sent into the most dangerous areas.
The son that will returning home is a grown man with a family of his own. He will stay with us for about a month and then will relocate somewhere else with his family. They have a dog. I don't think he would be interested in a cat therapist as he won't be exposed to cats once he leaves our home. Considering that this was his 3rd tour in Iraq, I don't think this issue will be high on his radar as something to deal with. He's stayed with us before when returning to the US.

It is unlucky he is allergic to cats. But it is wellknown many allergic cat owners do manage to keep their cats. So lets look a little on what they are doing to manage? (There IS one exception: IF this allergy includes severe asthma. Severe asthma isnt nothing to play with - people do die from it an unpleasant death. So although there are cat owners with allergic asthma - I cant and I dont recommend newcomers to make any experiments).
His allergy, and my husband's, are asthma. With my son, his eyes also swell and tear. He has to wash his hands a lot when he's here. I'm not looking to keep this kitty, or any other. I'm just taming and fostering so this kitty can find a new home. We had cats that lived with us for about 18 years and don't want more as permanent residents. We have 4 dogs and we are really dog people, though we love all animals. I am doing rescue and this is a part of that.

Ok. Bathing the cat once a week / a tenday - may be common water - is very effective. Perhaps the cat wants to swim??
If the cat really hates water, or if you are in hurry, you can try to use a damp cloth on the cat now and then. For example, just before an allergic guest is visiting you.
This is a feral kitten. I wouldn't dream of traumatizing it and bathing it. It barely let's me handle it at this time. My son will not be handling the kitty. That is why I will need to move it out of the bedroom he will use as his own. This is a spare bedroom that my adult kids, and other visitors, use when they come to visit. Since several people I know are allergic to cats, it is supposed to be an 'animal free' zone.

Use a good air cleener - preferably with Hepa-filter - is very effective. If you cant have an air-cleaner - do air the room often.
An "air-soaker" making dry air a little more damp, may be useful. - And or an "air-damp" reducer...
This is partly individual and depends on circumstances. Many asthmatics prefer dry air, while some other they want to have the air more damp.
Very good idea once the kitty is moved out of the room and I clean it. I will also change the filter on the furnace. Good reminder for me! Thank you.


Dust is the big enemy. So avoid carpets which tend to be dusty... Avoid all dusty situations. Clean with soap-water. IF you must clean with a vacuum-cleaner, use one with a good filter, preferably a Hepa-filter.
There is no carpet in this room because of visitors that have allergies.

The cat-litter should be a dust free sort. there are dust-free litters made of paper, of corn(!), also of wood. Try some of these. Ps. an advantage of these litters is they are biologically reductable. Thus - stricktly speaking they are the ecologically best litters.
Great idea, but this being a feral kitty, I've used clay litter. The kitty doesn't even weigh 2 pounds yet, so there isn't much dust from the litter.

No smoking... (although I suspect as a veteran with difficult memories he does smoke...). IF you must smoke, smoke outside or at the very least: smoke only at a very well ventilated place.
Not an issue for us.

Live soundly. Good sleep, good foods with lotsa of vitamines and proper nourishment... No heavy drinking... etc... Drink quite much water, to help flush out residuals from your body.
Try to keep in good shape.
Sleep, for a returning veteran, is a constant struggle. I've seen him go through that before. He's a health nut and exercises, so he's in top physical shape. He's a career officer in the Army.

After cuddling - do wash your hands - never ever take the hand to the eyes after cuddling...
This he has always done if he pets a cat.

Try not to have the cat in your bed... Which is probably the real hardship for a cat loving, allergic cat-owner... As having the cats sleeping with you, on you - is a great part of the pleasure....
He really shouldn't even be in the same room, so the bed isn't an issue.

I presume he has seen the doctor about his allergy? And have got something?
Yes, it does help with his eyes. My hubby also has asthma medicine that he uses.

He can also try with alternative medicines: acupunkture (the needles into the skin, you know) is one example.
Observe: "Try also", not "instead of seeing a doc". The alternative doctors are allowed to fill in and help the regular doctors, they are not allowed to be instead the regular doctors. - So it is in Sweden, I presume it is so in other countries too.
In the US alternative 'docs' and western medicine docs don't usually work together, and many western medicine docs look at you as if you've lost your mind for going to alternative medicine. Btw, I seek out alternative medicine first, but this son wouldn't do that.


There are surely more to say, but these are the most important.
Last, but not least here:
There are some extra costs here: Air cleaner, air dampness regulating.
A normal allergic cat owner must pay for it herself. Especially as the doctors recommend NOT to have cats.
But your son is a veteran. With a little luck he can thus get economical help for it, perhaps even with the doctors approval - just because he IS a veteran. Animal therapy although sorts of alternative medicine, is also de facto approved by the school-medicine..
Not in this country!

I will send this letter also as a private PM.

Tx for helping this little guy


And good luck to you, your son, and this kitten!
Since I have answered you here, I won't repeat my answer in your pm. Thank you so much for all the info and concern.
My hope is that my son's stay will be long enough to be 'healing' and helpful and kitty will become tame enough to be placed in a new furever home very soon.

Newt
 

StefanZ

Advisor
Staff Member
Advisor
Joined
Sep 18, 2005
Messages
26,072
Purraise
10,774
Location
Sweden
Originally Posted by Newt

This is a feral kitten. I wouldn't dream of traumatizing it and bathing it.
Right. But if the kitten hopefully like to swim voluntarily, or play in a couple of inches of lukewarm water, it is equally good... Try.

When he is beginning to be tame, a hand-shower with common water, about 39 Celsius or 102 F, is less drastic than a bath with soap and everything.


........................

Pity a cat therapy cant work out here, not in fully.
Helping to foster, to rescue a cat would give an extra, symbolic touch to this...

Or perhaps it can?? In a more symbolic way?

A rescue group needs not only rescuers and fosterers.
If he is good with talking with people - he can do much.

Self the factum he a veteran, a war hero, is supporting the group, may make a difference, even if he is only a passive supporter.
And thus - perhaps - an indirect animal therapy going on, helping him to sleep better...

Of course, the same reasoning can be used with other good causes.
But we are talking homeless cats at this moment.


I wish you all luck!
 

newt

TCS Member
Young Cat
Joined
Jan 7, 2006
Messages
75
Purraise
5
Location
Maryland
Originally Posted by StefanZ

........................

Pity a cat therapy cant work out here, not in fully.
Helping to foster, to rescue a cat would give an extra, symbolic touch to this...

Or perhaps it can?? In a more symbolic way?

A rescue group needs not only rescuers and fosterers.
If he is good with talking with people - he can do much.

Self the factum he a veteran, a war hero, is supporting the group, may make a difference, even if he is only a passive supporter.
And thus - perhaps - an indirect animal therapy going on, helping him to sleep better...

Of course, the same reasoning can be used with other good causes.
But we are talking homeless cats at this moment.


I wish you all luck!
I think he gets a lot of 'therapy' from the dogs, to which he is more attracted to. He sleeps with one or two on the sofa when he is here. My son has actually used the 'therapy' of animals by asking me to write to him with an autobiography of my rescue efforts with animals and sharing with other soldiers. I have sent him info on an organization that helps bring dogs home that soldiers have 'adopted' in the war zone, as well as other organizations that offer therapy dogs to 'wounded' and disabled soldiers and those that foster pets for deploying soldiers.

Thank you so much for your thoughts and info.


My apologies to anyone who feels we've hijacked this thread.


Newt
 
Top