Many of you have seen my other rants about my SIL. She is just putting multiple toppings on the cake.
My BIL bought a Jeep in 2005 or 06, cant remember. He was excited to play around with it. It started acting up in 08 and sat in the yard for awhile. Hubby got someone to fix it and get it running again and he got it back yesterday. SIL has not talked to her husband in THREE DAYS. Over this Jeep. Which has been around longer than she has been in his life.
My hubby found a 99 Jeep he can get for about $500, it was an abandoned-at-a-shop vehicle, and needs some trans work, which is what he does anyway. My BIL can sell his Jeep for ~$3500, use $500 for the new one, and put $3000 in his pocket. SIL keeps saying "we need money and he doesn't get it he has to have his stupid Jeep." Totally ignoring this little $3k profit going on. Hubby also told her to learn to drive a manual, because she spent $430 getting her Saturn fixed, it still doesn't work right, and she's put my MIL out of her new vehicle for 2 months now because she wont drive her own car. If she drove a manual, she could drive BIL's Acura and he could drive the Jeep. Now she's making excuses it will take 2+ months to learn to drive one.
Her main complaint is living with my in-laws. I had issues too, after about 2 years of living there. We stayed there for 3.5 years before buying our house, saving money and making sure we were ready to make that commitment. The entire last year we lived there, we were married. My BIL&SIL have been married three months now. She's lived there about a year and a half. Both of them work PT jobs. My BIL is going to school so he can get a FT job, make more money, and be able to buy a house. Now she wants to go to school instead of get a better job. Which is fine, if she didn't complain about my BIL having to pay for classes he goes to.
My FIL has just about had it. He had a longggg talk with BIL yesterday but wont tell my MIL what they talked about (we are twitching wanting to know!). Just that it was about the situation with her not speaking to anyone including BIL, and not coming to bed or anything, over something SO TRIVIAL. My MIL tried to talk to her but she just argues if it isnt her way. She thinks the entire family is teaming against her to side with BIL, but it's because the plan he has is going to get them ~$5000 to put away.
Everyone in the family feels like we are wasting breath. SIL wants it her way or no way. She is blatantly mean to my MIL in her house, but my MIL wants to keep peace because it's her baby who married her. No matter what hubby and I try to tell her or help her with, she makes excuses or complains it wont work, even though it DOES work.
Oy, she is so hard to get through to. I try so hard to be nice even though I hate her existence. I try and give sound advice because I've been there, done that, got out, and here's how to do it to get what you desire. Just ranting again. I told my MIL I was going to give her some advice on how NOT to treat your husband. I may have only been married 2 years but I know that you dont ignore your husband for three days over something like a Jeep. I hope he is getting a wake up call right now on how his life is going to be every time something doesn't go her way. He is learning to stand strong finally against giving in all the time, as it would only make him miserable having to give give give and never get anything for himself, when he is the one taking action to give them a better life.
Its even more sad that we don't think he actually LOVES her, just married her because she is the first girl to come into his life, want to get married, etc. And she will hang on tight to him because he is probably the only guy who will put up with her crap. Just feel bad sitting here watching my nice BIL have to go through this stuff. And needed a place to rant, feel free to ignore me
My BIL bought a Jeep in 2005 or 06, cant remember. He was excited to play around with it. It started acting up in 08 and sat in the yard for awhile. Hubby got someone to fix it and get it running again and he got it back yesterday. SIL has not talked to her husband in THREE DAYS. Over this Jeep. Which has been around longer than she has been in his life.
My hubby found a 99 Jeep he can get for about $500, it was an abandoned-at-a-shop vehicle, and needs some trans work, which is what he does anyway. My BIL can sell his Jeep for ~$3500, use $500 for the new one, and put $3000 in his pocket. SIL keeps saying "we need money and he doesn't get it he has to have his stupid Jeep." Totally ignoring this little $3k profit going on. Hubby also told her to learn to drive a manual, because she spent $430 getting her Saturn fixed, it still doesn't work right, and she's put my MIL out of her new vehicle for 2 months now because she wont drive her own car. If she drove a manual, she could drive BIL's Acura and he could drive the Jeep. Now she's making excuses it will take 2+ months to learn to drive one.
Her main complaint is living with my in-laws. I had issues too, after about 2 years of living there. We stayed there for 3.5 years before buying our house, saving money and making sure we were ready to make that commitment. The entire last year we lived there, we were married. My BIL&SIL have been married three months now. She's lived there about a year and a half. Both of them work PT jobs. My BIL is going to school so he can get a FT job, make more money, and be able to buy a house. Now she wants to go to school instead of get a better job. Which is fine, if she didn't complain about my BIL having to pay for classes he goes to.
My FIL has just about had it. He had a longggg talk with BIL yesterday but wont tell my MIL what they talked about (we are twitching wanting to know!). Just that it was about the situation with her not speaking to anyone including BIL, and not coming to bed or anything, over something SO TRIVIAL. My MIL tried to talk to her but she just argues if it isnt her way. She thinks the entire family is teaming against her to side with BIL, but it's because the plan he has is going to get them ~$5000 to put away.
Everyone in the family feels like we are wasting breath. SIL wants it her way or no way. She is blatantly mean to my MIL in her house, but my MIL wants to keep peace because it's her baby who married her. No matter what hubby and I try to tell her or help her with, she makes excuses or complains it wont work, even though it DOES work.
Oy, she is so hard to get through to. I try so hard to be nice even though I hate her existence. I try and give sound advice because I've been there, done that, got out, and here's how to do it to get what you desire. Just ranting again. I told my MIL I was going to give her some advice on how NOT to treat your husband. I may have only been married 2 years but I know that you dont ignore your husband for three days over something like a Jeep. I hope he is getting a wake up call right now on how his life is going to be every time something doesn't go her way. He is learning to stand strong finally against giving in all the time, as it would only make him miserable having to give give give and never get anything for himself, when he is the one taking action to give them a better life.
Its even more sad that we don't think he actually LOVES her, just married her because she is the first girl to come into his life, want to get married, etc. And she will hang on tight to him because he is probably the only guy who will put up with her crap. Just feel bad sitting here watching my nice BIL have to go through this stuff. And needed a place to rant, feel free to ignore me