I need help making a decision :(

6 or so months ago my cat was diagnosed with malignant mammary cancer, I had the tumor removed, but I know it was only a matter of time until it spread. Lately she's been having a hard time breathing, and I took her in to the vet yesterday. She said that she has very little lung space left and putting her through an xray might kill her. She told me to seriously consider putting her down.

She doesn't move very far without laying back down and I can see her struggling to breathe when she does, but she rolls over on her back and looks alert when I pet her.. and I don't know what to do. She's not eating or drinking, and I have an app at 7:45AM to do the unthinkable but I can't sit here and watch her and keep thinking I'm making a mistake. She seriously will only move like 10 ft before collapsing, but she nuzzles me and purrs and looks very much like my cat otherwise. I know the cancer has spread, and that is what's causing this but... I don't know... I can't help feeling like I'm wrong to go through with it. I've never had to do this before. please help

Oh, honey. We all know - that's a horrible decision to have to make.

But you also love her enough to know that you don't want her to suffer ... her decline will continue. It sounds like from what you are saying that the humane, loving and merciful thing to do - the brave thing to do - is to let her go.

We will be here for you - whatever happens.

Unfortunately we can't make this decision for you. If you feel that she has no quality of life, and you trust your vet - then sometimes as hard as it is to do, you have to let them go instead of making them continue to suffer.

I am so sorry you have to make that decision. I agree with all the above posters. We will be here for you.

Aww...I'm so sorry. I also agree with everyone. It's one of the worst decisions to have to make. It's one of the things our kitties can't do for themselves, and they need us to know when the time is right, so they don't suffer.

It's tough and I feel for you. As everyone else has said, we'll be here for you.

I had to make that painful decisino with my first cat Mitten. He was 13 yrs old and kept loosing weight (was a 14 lb cat). When I took him in the vet ran some tests and told me he was full of cancer - that he could give me meds for him to help in the eating and bowels, but maybe in a month, maybe 6 months he would be gone as the cancer was spreading.

I didn't want him to suffer any more even tho he was purring and acted normal as he could. He went from 14 lbs to 6-7 lbs - he tried to make it to the litter pan on time and only if he was caged would he do that. He was my best friend for many years.

I cried and let the vet put him gently to sleep. He's been gone since the 80's now, and I still get tears from time to time.

Oh doll, how completely heartbreaking. It sounds to me like she is suffering...and at that point the most unselfish thing you can do is let them go. Many of us have been through it, and we are here for you and thinking of you.

I'm so sorry. This is absolutely the worst part about having pets. Our love for them means a broken heart at the end of their lives.

This has to be your decision, but it seems to me that your kitty is telling you that it is time. You'll be in my thoughts today.

I went through the same a week past Saturday with my beloved Lucy...but...this time I knew she would not get better. She was 22 years old.

The hardest decision I've ever had to make. She was my best friend too. Over the years, we'd been through so much together - we were always there for each other. We understood each other and that decision was so, so difficult to make. I felt she was hanging on for my sake but I had to put her first. The one thing I didn't want for Lucy was to see her lose her dignity or really be suffering. We can't hold back the ravages of time - none of us can, and sadly, so often, awful diseases beat the best vet care.

It is the last kind, loving thing you will do for your lovely friend.

Let her go to Rainbow Bridge with love.

As someone else has said, we are here for you.