pooping in my bed, same time each night

Well, I'd add another box, maybe even in your bedroom, away from her food/water (yeah, I know...but I ended up doing that for my boy when he had issues - turned out he was reacting to a food change). But, my guy is fussy, he needs two boxes. What sort of boxes do you have - if one is a closed box, try another one that's open, and in a relatively quiet place where she can see if anyone is 'sneaking up' on her.

I would try Cat Attract in at least one box (there's a dollar off coupon in each bag, by the way). I love Cat Attract! Also, wash your bedding with an Oxy cleaner to make sure scent is all gone.

Is her poop nice and firm? I'm thinking you already had her in for her vet check, but if not, I'd suggest making an appointment to make sure it's not a physical issue. She's definitely trying to tell you something isn't working for her - and cats don't do thing to be snarky, just to try and communicate.

And give your husband a big kiss for his patience - it's not fun for anyone to have litter box issues, but I can imagine it's totally not fun if you're not in love with the kitty.

This is pretty much the same thing I would be writing, so no need to repeat, I agree with all of it, including your husband's willingness to work it through. That is as it should be of course, but not all are so reasonable.

Just checking, did you take Tabby in for an independent vet check after you adopted her? (The shelter I adopted my cats from requires an independent vet check within three days of adoption, even though all their cats are vet-checked, have initial shots, and are chipped and neutered).

Re what a physical exam could tell - is there some physical reason she's having pain in the box and is blaming the box for hurting her? Anal glands need expressing? Constipated? If it were me, I'd take a stool sample , and tell the front desk it's specifically re a litter box issue. It's a main reason people come to vets. Oh, maybe bring a diary of when exactly it's happening (e.g., peed in box am, pooped in box midday, pooped on bed after evening meal, pee in box pm) and especially about the food. Brand, amount you've introduced, times of feeding, what the original brand was she had at the shelter, the whole shebang.

You might want to go back to dry only for a while, but I'd ask your vet her opinion, at least on the phone. Wet can be really good, but some cats just don't do well with wet in their diet, or you have to introduce it extremely slowly. The whole thing is finding a food your cat thrives on, and that can range wildly.

Or, honestly, some cats are just extremely picky re litter. Behaviorists often suggest setting up several pans, separated by a few feet from each other, with a whole array of litters - and, to make it better, different depths of litter, and see what happens. Hey, are you using the litter the shelter was using? Or a new one? Cat Attract is great because it's nonscented - a lot of cats are very particular re texture or scent, or just a change in litter. Sometimes they'll try to use the 'new' litter for a few days, but don't have a heck of a lot of ways of telling us that they hate the new litter other than going outside the box.

Or, she could be more stressed than she appears at first - this has been a huge change in her life...is she shedding a lot? When I first got Dante home, everytime I touched him hair flew all over the place - he settled down within a few weeks, but it was just me and my girl cat. We did have box issues at first, but I do put that down to stress, looking back...he didn't like being in the isolation room at all.

My boy doesn't like his litter to be too deep, and, honestly, every time he's not felt well or hated the litter, he's pooped outside the box. Is there any other room you could put the second box - I know with little ones and a dog at home it could be hard, but if the two boxes are next to each other, Tabby probably thinks it's just one big box. A lot of behaviorists will say to try a box that is open at all sides, so kitty can see totally around her for anyone coming up while she's in the box, and maybe another more secluded box, in case she's one that craves more privacy and see what's popular. Mine seem to like boxes that are open on three sides, and back up to a wall. They never used the box that originally was in a corner.

Oh, BTW, in case you're ever thinking of Feliway, it's way cheaper to buy it over the internet - I get mine through one of the Amazon vendors.

Bless you for your patience - did you know litter box issues are the #1 reason cats are put to sleep? I know I was in tears with my boy, but was ultimately glad I persevered - but it's not at all fun and mine never pooped in the bed.