I'm just in a blah mood & need to get it off my chest

Aww.... Shell, What Sam said . Sorry about the blah feeling you have .... I hope you get to feeling better soon .

Shell, in 30 yrs, she'll look like hell (and she'll probably have osteoporosis!). You'll be even smarter than you are now!

What does age have to do with crushes? I've had more crushes, since I turned 40, than I did in high school. Never acted on them, as I was married but, they made for some nice fantasies.

Once he's not your boss, any more, ask the dude out for a drink. The worst thing that can happen is that he'll say no. Just in case, though, wear some sexy underwear. Even if he doesn't get to see it, you'll know and feel better.

Originally posted by katl8e
Once he's not your boss, any more, ask the dude out for a drink. The worst thing that can happen is that he'll say no. Just in case, though, wear some sexy underwear. Even if he doesn't get to see it, you'll know and feel better.

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Oh Cindy! You crack me up girl! I'll keep that in mind! Thanks!

Hi Shell,

Sorry you're feeling kind of blah. Wish I could give you some great words of wisdom but I have none. Afterall, my own relationship just went down the sewer! The only thing I can say is.... having a man in your life ain't all it's cracked up to be! And I was always shy when it came to asking men out too.

Chin up princess! Make him sure you are confident about yourself even if you have to fake it! Just kidding... sort of.

Shell, I've never been able to approach men either. Too scary. Don't worry about meeting someone else's standards, you are a wonderful person and very pretty.

Just think about how boring it is when someone looks great, but there's no substance. You can't even have a decent conversation. Anyone who preferes that to someone who is smart and has depth has some serious issues.

Ask him out for coffee like everyone else said. Since you're already friends you can go as friends unless some sparks happen.

Shell, you are BEAUTIFUL. You're very smart and very sweet and have a down right great personality.

So stop fretting girl.

I agree with everyone else. Ask him for coffee, or casually mention going to see a new movie, and if he seems interested in the movie.. invite him along! The worst thing that could happen is him saying no, and that doesn't mean that you won't still be friends.

Although, he'd be nuts to say no. I wish I was half as pretty as you!

Shelle, I am so sorry you are feeling down...I think us females tend to get in these modes every once in a while, so I know exactly what you mean.....I hope your day is better today though

Ugh, Aunt Flow lol

You seem like such a wonderful person Shell.. I know you will meet the right guy eventually. It took me 30 years and many failed relationships to find my soul mate.

Hang in there!!!

Shell, your only problem is that you're insane. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You're gorgeous, you're smart, you're successful in life, you're fun-loving, you're sweet and caring - and yet (usually) you're pretty tough inside. At least that's what I see.

You said he's only your boss for the next two weeks.... so one of those last days, why not tell him you'd love to take him out for a cup of coffee to say thanks for all? "Hey, it's really been great working for you - you've made it fun and I've learned so much... can I take you out for a cup of coffee or something to say thanks?"

It's a friendly thing, so it's not as risky.... and then you'll know if there's any interest or not, and it's not the same as a rejection asking a guy out on a date!

And Shell, DUMMY - that size three wench is an EX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Think about that one for a while, would ya please?

I am very self-confident most of the time but because I NEVER date (and I mean NEVER) I sometimes wish I had a boyfriend too. The last time I had a boyfriend, was my fiancee (now ex) back in 97. He wanted the marriage more than me, so I broke it off. I went out with one other guy since then, but he turned out to be a con artist and a fraud. He would have done better to go down to Florida and try his "gold-digging" techniques on the rich widows down there. Anyway, I understand. However, from what I have seen of men (they all are big, whiney babies) they are more trouble than they are worth. I think i will be happier single for the rest of my life, if that is what God has in mind. I am in the middle of working on getting a teacher's license and that will hopefully give me the financial independence I have never had. Once I can support myself, I plan to get my own place and a big dog. I don't think I will be lonely with a great job, friends, a dog, and my cat Lily! Hang in there and look at the bright side of things.

Shell - did you ever think that you intimidate him? You are a bright, beautiful woman with a new career openning up before you. Maybe he is afraid to ask you out. Does he joke around like that with anyone else but you? Isn't he the one who recommend you to the manager training? Maybe he was looking for a way to get you out of his department to date you? If you ask him out you could find a life mate, if he says no at least you tried. I would invite him out for drinks on the night you finish in his department as a "celebration". If he says no, he doesn't deserve you.