hi friends,
i am in a difficult situation right now. i adopted my little baby about a year ago, and he has been pretty great. we've had some good cuddling days and nights, and keep each other company. as we've spent time together, i've realized that he gets really stressed out when i'm not home, or not paying attention to him. it's to the point where even if i don't get out of bed when he wants me to, he'll act out... sometimes he tears things, sometimes he poops on furniture, sometimes he just cries. it's gotten to the point where i can't leave the house for more than a few hours - even if i go away for the night and have a roommate watch him, i can still expect to come home to poop on the couch while i'm gone. yesterday, i was gone for the day, and he had done it twice.
i have tried everything. extra litterboxes, trying different diets (no grain, only wet, dry and wet, etc etc), taken him to the vet (paid a LOT of money for fancy food that they promised would help...? it didn't), got covered boxes, then uncovered boxes... seclusion... feliway - i have tried it ALL.
he just needs someone who can pay attention to him all day - someone who can be home all day and love him. in august i am starting a job where i will be working 12-14 hours a day and know that he will be miserable with me gone... and i will be miserable to have to wash the couch every day.
i feel really at a loss now.
i want to find him a new great home with someone who will love him... maybe someone who stays at home a lot... he'd be a great companion to someone who stays in a lot. he's SO affectionate and loving... but so needy! i can't love him in the ways he needs and wants.
i could bring him to a shelter... but i worry that someone else will take him, get frustrated, and bring him back.... i don't want my boy put down because of his behaviour! he is such a sweetheart.
what would you do?
i am in a difficult situation right now. i adopted my little baby about a year ago, and he has been pretty great. we've had some good cuddling days and nights, and keep each other company. as we've spent time together, i've realized that he gets really stressed out when i'm not home, or not paying attention to him. it's to the point where even if i don't get out of bed when he wants me to, he'll act out... sometimes he tears things, sometimes he poops on furniture, sometimes he just cries. it's gotten to the point where i can't leave the house for more than a few hours - even if i go away for the night and have a roommate watch him, i can still expect to come home to poop on the couch while i'm gone. yesterday, i was gone for the day, and he had done it twice.
i have tried everything. extra litterboxes, trying different diets (no grain, only wet, dry and wet, etc etc), taken him to the vet (paid a LOT of money for fancy food that they promised would help...? it didn't), got covered boxes, then uncovered boxes... seclusion... feliway - i have tried it ALL.
he just needs someone who can pay attention to him all day - someone who can be home all day and love him. in august i am starting a job where i will be working 12-14 hours a day and know that he will be miserable with me gone... and i will be miserable to have to wash the couch every day.
i feel really at a loss now.
i want to find him a new great home with someone who will love him... maybe someone who stays at home a lot... he'd be a great companion to someone who stays in a lot. he's SO affectionate and loving... but so needy! i can't love him in the ways he needs and wants.
i could bring him to a shelter... but i worry that someone else will take him, get frustrated, and bring him back.... i don't want my boy put down because of his behaviour! he is such a sweetheart.
what would you do?