Any regrets????

I know this could serve as a daily question, but I think it deserves a thread of its own because I imagine that some people may have a lot to say.

I'm wondering, in your life do you have any regrets? If you could change something that has happened to you, or in your life, or to someone you love, would you?

What if anything, would you change, or would you change anything at all?

I have had to do a lot of thinking as of late, and one thing that keeps coming up is: that life is too short for regrets. I also had a really good FB status the one day that said:


It is best to drop your pride for a moment, than to live with regret forever.

and along similar lines is:

Fear is temporary,regret is permanent.

so in other words, I have done a lot of soul-searching lately and I've started to adopt the above statements, in reference to regret. How many of us have said we would go visit X person and kept putting it off, till it was too late and that person was no longer here?

Or anything along those lines.

I don't know if I'm regretting this.... but I really want to go see my folks, and I hope I get to see them before I regret it, if that makes any sense.

In one way I regret that Gary and I didn't stay together after high school.... but I really think we both needed to go through everything we went through to be who we were so we could be who we are now, if that makes sense.

I go through periods of "in" and "out," and during a soul searching time many years ago I identified all the fear-based decisions in my life, and vowed to not let fear be a driver. I've always been a risk-taker when it came to my education or my career - my fear was always more emotional, and I'm just damn glad I was totally in a place of dealing with that and aware of that when Gary called after 12 years.

There are a lot of things I wish I would have done differently. I wish I had gotten a college education right out of high school instead of waiting until I was an adult. Also, I would have probably gone into a different line of work. But I try not to dwell on regrets. Can't change the past.

I am happy with my life, I am married, have 3 beautiful children, 5 furbabies, I am so happy. But when I was younger I made alot of mistakes and was very rebellious, I was very bad to my parents, whom I now have a great relationship with thank goodness but I wish I treated them better for all they have done to me. xx

Wow, that's a great "thinker" question....... I don't think I regret anything overall in my past, this is what made me the person I am today, and it took a long time, years and years, for me to like myself much less love myself.

No regrets here, everything I've been through has brought me to where I am now - and I have a fabulous life now

I have one regret, not learnin how to buget for things and me and blaine loosing our flat but its not a regret when i really think about it, more of a learning curve i guess

Just a small recent regret. I was going to drop a customer after last garden season. I posted on this and delayed doing so I still have this client. I really don't have the time now with my new position at work to give her yard the attention it needs and am now stuck on what to do. Rats!! Well this year will be the last for sure.

My first thoughts on reading this was no I don't have any real regrets. Good and bad things have happened in my life that I didn't like at the time. But those are the experiences that made me who I am.

After thinking about it I think the one thing that I regret is not having the courage to go say goodbye to my bridge boy Spunky before he was pts.

At the time I was not living at home. When I moved out I wanted to take him with me. But it was decided that it was best to leave him there because it had been his home for so long moving him would be too much stress on him.

Three years later the vet said that he had cancer, he had known this for awhile, and it was time to let him go. When she got the diagnosis Mother was going to have it done right then and there but instead brought him home.

Her thought was that I would want to come see him one last time.

When I heard this I was so upset I couldn't think straight. It was on a Wednesday and I didn't think I could go until the weekend. In my mind I was thinking that it wouldn't be fair to make him hang around in pain waiting for me.

But deep down I know I didn't have the courage to see him going off with the vet that one last time. It was hard enough facing it from a distance. If I was there I don't know how I would be able to bear it.

In the end my Mother took him back two hours later. She didn't have the heart to stay with him and she had to leave him.

Fortunately the vet was a very caring man who loves cats. We went to him for years because of his reputation as a cat lover.

Now that I am 20 years older (it will be 20 years this August that Spunky crossed the bridge) and think back I feel like I let him down. I should have had the courage to go with him at the end. I know in my heart that he has forgiven me but I still feel bad about it.

Wow... that is a deep question!

1. I would have moved out and lived on my own before I married. Going from my parents' home to married life was a rude awakening for me.

2. I would have stayed in school! I do have an AA but I would have gotten a teaching degree.

3. I would not have gotten into drugs and let DH get into them.

4. I would have adopted a child when we were young and able to care for a child. Now it is not feasible because I am too old and set in my ways.

There are many decisions that I made, that now, looking back, there were not the best decisions, but I wouldn't say that I necessarily regret them. All my past experiences have made me who i am and I wouldn't want to change that...although life would have been a bit easier

There is one thing that I do have a deep regret/guilt about and it happened when I was 12 years old. My grandma, who was my best friend, was very ill with cancer and had just been through a round of chemo that really took a great toll on her. My friend and I were walking up to the corner and she asked me if I would get her some watermelon and I refused. A little bit later she drove by and picked us up so she could go up to the store to get that watermelon. Less than a month later she fell and hit her head and never recovered. I just wish I hadn't been such a selfish brat

Any regrets??? How much time ya got??
I have so many regrets, really, but I try not to look back at them. If I did I'd have to find the nearest bridge ...
I just try to go forward and not make the same mistakes I did in the past.

I don't live with regrets. Nothing good can come of them. I can't change the past. Granted, I've done some questionable things, and if I knew then what I know now I may have done some things differently, but at the same time I wouldn't be the person that I am today.

For example, when I was younger I got into a lot of trouble and I started to doubt my faith (I was raised Catholic). Eventually, I lost my beliefs completely and started to look at things from a more scientific and physical perspective instead of spiritual. And as a result, I went to a public high school instead of a Catholic one. And it was at high school that I met the girl who taught me to love cats. I probably wouldn't be a member of this site if it weren't for her. If I were to go back and stop myself from doing some of the stupid things I did and getting in trouble, I may have never met her, and I'd have a completely different life. I don't know who I would have become, but I doubt I'd be as happy as I am. I love my life, and as a result, I try not to think of things that I could have done differently.

I try really hard to live my life so I won't have regrets, but I still have one. I was not in my right mind at the time.

As Frank Sinatra said, "Regrets, I've had a few". Yes I have a few regrets, who doesn't want to change something in their past. I have suffered and paid for a few of those regrets but what's done is done. You can't spend the rest of your life thinking 'what if', that will just make you crazy. It took me a long time to realize that.

Originally Posted by cheylink

Wow, that's a great "thinker" question....... I don't think I regret anything overall in my past, this is what made me the person I am today

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Originally Posted by missymotus

No regrets here, everything I've been through has brought me to where I am now

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Originally Posted by CheshireCat

My first thoughts on reading this was no I don't have any real regrets. Good and bad things have happened in my life that I didn't like at the time. But those are the experiences that made me who I am.

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Originally Posted by katiemae1277

There are many decisions that I made, that now, looking back, there were not the best decisions, but I wouldn't say that I necessarily regret them. All my past experiences have made me who i am and I wouldn't want to change that...although life would have been a bit easier

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Originally Posted by TigerOnTheProwl

I don't live with regrets. Nothing good can come of them. I can't change the past. Granted, I've done some questionable things, and if I knew then what I know now I may have done some things differently, but at the same time I wouldn't be the person that I am today.

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Originally Posted by LaRussa

As Frank Sinatra said, "Regrets, I've had a few". Yes I have a few regrets, who doesn't want to change something in their past. I have suffered and paid for a few of those regrets but what's done is done. You can't spend the rest of your life thinking 'what if', that will just make you crazy. It took me a long time to realize that.

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to all of the above..... I will write more of an answer when I have quiet time to actually sit and write a lot.

I have a few, but the biggest regret?? Not visiting my sister as much as I should have while she was in good health. We all get busy with our day to day lives. With the cats I own, I am always busy. I don't know how many times I told her, I am going to come out on this day or that and something came up or I was busy and just forgot. Sadly, now I have very little time left to see her. As some of you know about my sister Barb and her health

Yes, I do have regrets, or at least things I wish I had done differently. I try not to dwell on those thoughts because there is no way they can be productive. I turned my life over to Jesus and asked him to give me strength. l look toward the future, not the past. The one thing I did do right was this. My dad raised us alone, with the help of his mother. He lived to be 91. He spent the last year and a half in the nursing home. I visited him often and spent time with him. My two sisters and my husband and myself were in the room when Dad left this world. I have so much peace in my heart concerning his last days. I do not regret one minute I spent with him.

I think we all have regrets of one kind or another. As do I. But I don't dwell on things....life is too short to worry about what I should have done or should not have done. The person I am today is a result of things that have happened in the past and people I have known and who I know now.

I try to live well and take care of my family and my friends. I am blessed and I know it. The past can stay there.

I don't have any major regrets. I am pretty blessed.

I do have some minor ones that I can't bring up here on the internet for all the world to see