Too many dates?

So, for those of you who don't know, I am getting divorced and ex-dh and I are both dating.

Is there a thing as too many dates? I am on match.com but also have met other guys where I live. So, last week, I had match dates MWTh. On Fri. I just went out to the movies with a male friend. Not sure about him. He might be gay but we saw "City Island" which is great! Sat. I went out with my girlfriend to hear some music. Her neighbor walked in and liked me - a lot. My friend and I were dancing and she has been on Broadway and I am a good dancer. The band finished the set and one of the guitarists gave me his number and said I was a sexy dancer. Call me, he said.

Well, my friend's neighbor called me up yesterday and we went out for dinner last night. Nice time. He works in a Pet Store!

There is another guy I met while eating dinner at a bar who I have been "dating" and we had breakfast this morning. He is the one I "fancy."

I am exhausted! I didn't know dating was so time consuming. I have to keep track of who is on what day. My waistline is suffering.

Bright side is that my food budget is down, even if the guy and I don't meet again.

Oh, you can see the guy I fancy and me at the Oakland A's game at:

www.Oaklandathletics.com/truefans game date 4/24 gallery 12.
We are in row 2 in the middle. MLB won't let me link you in.

I think it depends on you- if you like having so many dates, why not!!
Personally I couldn't go through with it....I'm a hopeless romantic who would wait for her prince charming to come out of nowhere and wouldn't even make the effort to date Dates unless with a very very special person just aren't fun for me.
thank goodness I've already found the person I want to be with, otherwise I'd probably be alone the rest of my life.

Originally Posted by butzie

Oh, you can see the guy I fancy and me at the Oakland A's game at:
www.Oaklandathletics.com/truefans game date 4/24 gallery 12.
We are in row 2 in the middle. MLB won't let me link you in.

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We going to see the faces when MY CLEVELAND INDIANS goes to OAK!...

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We going to see the faces when MY CLEVELAND INDIANS goes to OAK!...

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RigZ, they were already here and we took 2/3 of the series!

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RigZ, they were already here and we took 2/3 of the series!

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We´ll be waiting Ok´s!... I know you´re on Firts Place!...



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We´ll be waiting Ok´s!...

I know you´re on Firts Place!...

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That's where the A's belong! Wait! How did we get from my dating to the A's standing in their division?

Originally Posted by butzie

Wait! How did we get from my dating to the A's standing in their division?

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Love you Ro!...

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Love you Ro!...

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Well, anyway, Sunday's date - who manages a pet store - is taking me out Wed. & Thurs.

I love that you are having so much fun! It sounds awesome. I don’t think it’s too many dates at all. Dating is meeting different people to see who you are best matched with. IMO the more people you date the better match you will find.

You’re a single gal, have some fun! Good for you =) Good luck.

I'm 20 and I have settled in with my dude because he's pretty down to Earth and I don't feel like I could kill him like I do all the others I dated in the past. Dating was fun, but now that I am no longer a teenager I dont even want to! Bah!

Dating is too hard!I dated in my 20's and early 30's, and tried again in my early 40's.

Unless someone falls from the sky in ftont of me, I'm pretty much done with the dating game! Way too difficult at my age, and I'm way too picky.

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

Dating is too hard!I dated in my 20's and early 30's, and tried again in my early 40's.

Unless someone falls from the sky in ftont of me, I'm pretty much done with the dating game! Way too difficult at my age, and I'm way too picky.

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I haven't dated in over 10 years. I had my "rebound" relationship after my divorce, but that guy turned out to be just as controlling as the ex, in a more subtle way, and also had substance abuse issues, as did the ex. Since I obviously have terrible judgment, it's safer to avoid the whole scene.

The kind of schedule Butzie describes sounds grueling to me. I like to be home at night, with my cats. I'm not very sociable at all any more.

The way I look at it, as long as you can handle the schedule, keep the names straight, and are honest with them, GO FOR IT! Make sure THEY know you are dating others. Otherwise it can get real messy...trust me!

I was never a "dating" kind of gal. I would "hang out" with guys instead. Yeah, most of the times they were basically dates but I was fine until someone used the "date" word. Then I completely panicked! Too much pressure. It's amazing I even showed up for my own wedding!

I did the online dating thing and had a great time. You will probably find that there are "feast and famine" periods. At times, you will have dates every night of the week and then, after some of them "disappear", you will have a quiet stretch. The protocol these days seems to be that you will go out with a guy, mutually state you both had a great time and then - poof - he disappears never to be seen or heard from again. Don't even bother trying to contact him. Just keep meeting people and enjoying the quest until one of them stands out. Then it's time to focus on him and politely let the others know you have decided to pursue a relationship with someone you met. I personally don't believe in disappearing - I think it's terribly rude. I have found that guys are grateful for the honest information that you've met someone else and will respect that. In the meantime, be sure to be upfront about the fact that you are meeting other people so that no one ends up feeling taken advantage of. And, most importantly, have fun!

Originally Posted by calico2222

The way I look at it, as long as you can handle the schedule, keep the names straight, and are honest with them, GO FOR IT! Make sure THEY know you are dating others. Otherwise it can get real messy...trust me!

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IMO: if you are single, and the fellows you are dating know that you are dating others, then go for it..... If it is what makes you happy, then by all means, enjoy yourself. Just be upfront and honest so the guys don't think you are exclusively dating them, be safe, and have fun.

I knew girls in college who had too many dates. Mainly, I know that because every time I asked them, they said they "already had a date for any day I might suggest."

Hmmmmmm....

Originally Posted by mrblanche

I knew girls in college who had too many dates. Mainly, I know that because every time I asked them, they said they "already had a date for any day I might suggest."

Hmmmmmm....

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To Rosemary - have fun and good luck keeping it all straight. I hope you find love!

Me - I am like many of the other posters here - I HATE dating. It's hard work and tiring and often fruitless, IMO. Since I am heavy and have battled my weight my whole life, interested men were also difficult to come by.

Originally Posted by calico2222

The way I look at it, as long as you can handle the schedule, keep the names straight, and are honest with them, GO FOR IT! Make sure THEY know you are dating others. Otherwise it can get real messy...trust me!

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Canâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t really say it better than that.

Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m sort of 50/50. I LOVED dating, dating was so much fun for me. Meeting new people, eating out all the time, seeing any movie I wanted as well as coffees, lunches, etc. I loved feeling that “spark†when you mesh with someone. Getting to hang with new people, learning about new things your date could teach you about. It also taught me exactly what i wanted in a guy.

On the other hand I LOVE being settled lol. I have a 24/7 best friend, someone to do anything with, someone who understands me completely, someone I can puke in front of and know he still thinks im sexy LOL. Someone to cuddle and keep me warm at nights. Someone who loves my pets as much as i do.

I can go both ways. I would never replace my boyfriend with anything as I love him so much. But when I was dating, man… it was fun Lol.

Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m glad you are having fun! Enjoy yourself until you meet Mr. Right.