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post #1 of 8
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My husband and I are currently caring for the hubby's niece's cat, Jack. The niece was renting our house for about three years while we lived elsewhere but we just moved back and the niece moved to an apartment. Her cat that has lived here with her as an only pet for three years, since he was a kitten, was left behind, supposedly temporarily.
Her reason for not taking Jack with her right away was that she wants to see what the situation is like at the apartment before she brings him home. She doesn't want to pay the pet deposit and pet fee so she's planning on smuggling him in.
I understand that she wanted to explore the possibility of smuggling in and hiding a cat in the apartment but it's been a month since she moved now and I don't understand why she needs to continue to explore more. Surely she should know what the situation is like there by now.

Don't get me wrong, I don't mind having Jack here at all. He's a sweet cat and since I already have quite a few fosters and cats of my own one cat more or less doesn't make that much of a difference. WHat bothers me though is how Jack feels about being here.
He's been living a nice and calm life here as the only pet his whole life and then all of a sudden a bunch of cats, two dogs and some humans he doesn't know moves in and rocks his world. Jack has never been around other cats so he's not comfortable with them at all and he's even more scared of the dogs. He's just fine with us humans but as soon as he sees another cat his tail starts flipping around.
We tried to have him live in a spare room but he didn't like it there so now he lives in the bedroom. We try to keep the other cats out but some do manage to sneak in when the door opens. He's usually in there with a few other cats that he's okay with but when other cats come in he hides in the cabinet under the bathroom sink. We try to make him as comfortable as possible and pay lots of attention to him but it's not enough. He's still miserable.

I feel so bad for him. You can tell that he's stressed out and he's definitely not happy. He's scared and nervous almost all the time. It's not fair to keep him here and I'm so mad that his owner is not doing anything for him. She doesn't even care to come see him. When she was here and I told her how Jack is doing she just brushed it off and said that he'll be fine but he's not.

I don't understand why she can't just take him home. My husband told me the other day that his niece is going to get Jack soon but she's afraid that he'd damage something in the apartment since he's not supposed to be there so she wants to be able to bring him back here if he does damage something.

I wonder if the fear of damage is actually the real reason why she's not taking him home. The whole thing is so frustrating and it angers me that she's so irresponsible and selfish. And poor Jack is the one to suffer the consequenses. I'm so mad.

Thanks for taking time to read my long rant. I just had to vent.
post #2 of 8
Poor Jack. It sounds like an awful situation for him, but it is much better than being dumped off at a shelter. He is very lucky to have you looking after him. Hopefully she will miss the little guy soon and take him home.
post #3 of 8
That depends on the shelter IMO

How much is the pet deposit? Is it unaffordable - I really do not get why people move to places where they are worried about consequences of having a pet

She must know it is stressful on her cat, does she visit him?
post #4 of 8
I know this isn't fair, but would you be able to pay the pet deposit for her? Not as a favor to her, but for Jack?
post #5 of 8
Good idea about paying the deposit. Then you will really know if she does want Jack.

I wouldn't put up with her shenanigans. She is using you and IMO I'd call her on it.

But then again, I'd worry about the care he would receive with her. She does not sound like he is any kind of priority in her life. I feel bad for Jack. Stress can cause illness.

I share your feelings of anger toward her.
post #6 of 8
I think you've got yourself another cat!! I don't think she wants him. And at this point I wouldn't want her to have him!! Poor little fella...I think I would start working on slowing introducing him to the other animals. Maybe one or two at a time. It looks like it might be a permanent thing now. I don't understand why people would even consider looking at an apartment that doesn't allow cats--if they have cats!!! She might be able to smuggle Jack in--but cats do jump up into windows. I would be afraid someone would see him. Paying the pet deposit would be a kind thing for Jack, but not if she really doesn't want him. You should ask her if she really wants Jack-yes or no. Then start things from there. Good luck. Jack is very lucky to have you and your hubby.
post #7 of 8
Some places really don't care if you have a pet even if you haven't paid the deposit maintenance will not 'see' the cat and management just looks the other way because you are a good renter. If stuff starts getting damaged then yeah they'll get on you about it but a lot of places won't 'notice' it unless it is a 'no-pets' property.

When Paul was looking for somewhere to rent almost one of the first questions was if they accepted pets because he had Molly(dog RB) and Maude(cat RB) at the time. With Attitude and Nuts if I need to find a place to live I'll obviously check on their pet policy and that they'll accept 2 cats.

Sounds like she doesn't want him and you have a new cat. I just don't get some people.

Taryn
post #8 of 8
She doesn't want him. That's why she "can't" take him. The poor baby...I'm not going to get into the why and wherefore on her reasons, I have no idea, but she should've just done the grownup thing and come clean and said she doesn't want him back. It would've allowed you to get moving on placing him in a nice, quiet home a while ago, which he seems to need.

Poor little guy.

My advice to you is to simply be as gentle as you can with your niece and say you understand completely if she cannot take Jack back, and offer to rehome him, since you do fosters.
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