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post #1 of 33
Thread Starter 
I'm so sorry everyone, im sorry if i havent been responding to your e-mails and PM's my parents have spilt up, as most of you know I'm only 13, it's very hard, I'm very sad.

I love u all, and im movin soon, i hope i can still hav my comp, im so pathetic i dont no y im tellin u all this, im sorry

post #2 of 33
I'm sorry. that hard to deal with. Especially if you're only a teenager. I understand, it happened to me twice my mom divorced my real dad, remarried and then after awhile he cheated on her( I didn't know that at the time) so they divorced. it sucked!
Keep your chin up, I'm there for you.
post #3 of 33
Thread Starter 
Thank you Barb, it means alot to me to have had someone in the same position, I used to really hate Ian but I'm spending every moment I can with him, My step sister Jess is still going to come and stay with me, coz we are best friends, and Mum & Ian are still going to be friends, but it's not going to be the same , I really don't feel like living

post #4 of 33
Oh Sam, (((((HUGS))))) It is really hard to go through all this, and you've certainly had more than your fair share in the past couple weeks. Remember, though, the sun will still rise tomorrow. Your kitties will still need you and love you tomorrow. We will still be here for you tomorrow. We will still care for you tomorrow.

Vent all you need to here, Sam. It is a safe place, a safe haven for you. If not on the public boards, know that there are a lot of people here who will be more than happy to be a shoulder for you during this time.
post #5 of 33
Please don't ever talk of killing yourself! I'd be so upset and would feel like I let you down if you did. and if I'd feel that way, imagine how your parents would feel! Please please don't ever do that ok? Promise me!?
post #6 of 33
Sam when I was 16 my parents split up for 3 years. I remember the somberness in the air and how I hated to go home just to hear my mother crying in her bedroom. If you have someplace to go, a friend's house, a mentor, someone that you can just hang around with and know you are okay, that will help.

I am so sorry to hear how your life has been in such turmoil lately. Please know a lot of people care for you here. You know where I am and how to reach me if you need to talk, cry or scream.....
post #7 of 33
Sam I left you a PM dear...
post #8 of 33
(((((((((((((( HUGS )))))))))))))

It will all work out Sam!
post #9 of 33
Thread Starter 
THANKS everyone again for the PM's, I know I have replied privately to you all, but just again, it really means something to me.

Words can not really express how greatful I am to you all here,

Heidi your message was so sweet, I will let you all know how I am and stuff, I will continue to post, but I feel I'm not posting with heart, I love this site but even more so the people here, where would I be if I didn't know the cat site was here loving me, praying for me to be safe.

Barb- It would be so selfish of me to let go of life, I couldn't possibly do that to you guys, and my animals.

Thanks Also, Sicy,Sandra & Mary-Anne, you are all so special!

Thanks!!! love sam
post #10 of 33
Sam, I just saw this and I am so sorry.
Please know that I am here for you if you need someone to talk to - if you have yahoo or MSN messengers, and want to chat feel free to PM me for my username.

Hugs - you will be okay, hang in there.
post #11 of 33

We are all here for you. PM me if you ever need to talk, need a shoulder to cry on, or someone to vent to!!!
post #12 of 33
Sam, don't be afraid to ask for counselling. I had two friends who went through divorces and one attempted suicide and the other committed suicide. I couldn't believe their parents were so selfish as to forget their kids, but now that I'm an adult I have to say that it's totally normal in a divorce situation. Ask for help when you need it. And remember that we'll always be here.
post #13 of 33
Hi Sam,

I'm so sorry to hear about your parents My folks split up when I was 10 and my sister was 3 (I'm now 31)

It's hard when it happens, but just hang in there and time will make things better. I actually went to live with my dad and my sister with my mum - we found that even though it was hard with them being apart at first; the atmosphere in our respective homes was so much more pleasant. There were no more arguments or tears between them and life was definately more peaceful and less stressful for us kids.

Take care of yourself and I promise you that things will get better.
post #14 of 33
Oh Sam..I am so sorry this has happened....Just live for yourself, and know that they both still love you no matter what! ((hugs))
post #15 of 33
Sam I was 30 when my fokes split up, I was mad as h@ll ,but it will get better. Pm me if you want to,like everyone before me WE love you and are here for you!
post #16 of 33
Thread Starter 
Oh you guys, I'm sitting here crying again, Thanks for all your lovely messages, they really reduced me to tears.

I'm so sorry to everyone who has been through the same situation, words can't really heal broken hearts and I don't know what to say, Thanks to everyone else, I know where you all are so I can talk to you when I need a shoulder to lean on, Thank you! I love you all as well!

Take Care Friends, & I'll keep you updated!

Love Sam.
post #17 of 33
Sam I am so sorry that you are going through this. My Mom divorced 3 times before I was 18. We also moved alot even from California to Florida. It was aful being 3000 miles away from my family and friends.

There will be many changes and you will have to decide if you are an egg or potato. An egg becomes hard and tough when heated up, but the potato will become softer and more maliable. You can decide how this is going to change you. Will you use this experience to develope a deeper understanding of what others feel or will you harden your heart toward others to let them tough it out?

I know you are such a sweet and kind hearted person that YOU will make the right decisions. Keep your chin up and be proud of the person you are and the person you are becoming.

We all love you here and miss you when you are gone.

post #18 of 33
Sam, sweetie, please know all of us are thinking of you and are willing to help however we can. Think of us as your cyber-aunts. I know you are going through a very hard time right now.

My parents are still together, but when I was quite young I remember a time when they always seemed to be arguing. I was very scared and worried. I can't say I understand exactly how you feel, but you seem to be an exceptional young woman. Good luck as you and your family go through this.
post #19 of 33
Thread Starter 
Thanks Brenda & Teresa!
I'm not sure If I'm an egg or potato, I wanna get through this 'strongly' but I wanna feel that I can cry whenever I need to.

Thanks again, as I said it's hard for me to find the right words to say,
post #20 of 33
Dearest Sam!
I just saw this tread. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. Remember that I, as all the others, are there for you, whenever you need.
Look in your PM box.
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post #22 of 33
Hi Sam! Please try to find someone there you feel safe with that you can talk to and tell how you're feeling. This site is great and we have a lot of special people here but it can't really replace having someone you can go to. Don't worry dear, it will all work out. Just don't forget who you are. And take care of yourself.
post #23 of 33
Sam....You are a wonderful person, and remember that there will always be someone here for you. (Forgive me tonite if some of my words don't make sense, I'm having difficulties typing tonite!). My best-friend-since-kindergarten's parents split up when we were in grade 6, (I was 11 at the time, she would have been 12), and I didn't know what she was going through and she wouldn't really talk to me about it, and then she moved away and I have seen her a few times, but not a lot. Anyways, I'm here for you if you need an ear!!! I wish you the best, and I'll keep writing to you ok? I don't know if you are a believer in God or not, but this verse helps me out a lot!!! My very good friend gave it to me when I needed help:

Joshua 1:9 "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go"

There are a few more I have if you find peace in them....

Love Pam
post #24 of 33
Hey Sam,
You did not tell your Aussie Aunts you were only 13 and your story. Sorry to hear that about your parents but honestly it is not a reflection on how they feel about you and it will get better as time goes by. Your cyber Aunts here give good advice....you feel free to pop in and unburden your self in cyber space as often as you want and do set up a couple of trustworthy friends locally.

It will be ok - you will see as time goes by.
post #25 of 33
Thread Starter 
Thank you Sessejela!!! For the PM, I have replied.

Thank you Shell for the Hugs!

Thanks Tammie, I like your style and approach on life and your messages always mean something to me

Thanks Pam, I was again reduced to tears by your sweet,sweet message, the verse was very sweet thanks for sharing.

Thank you Heather, my aussie aunts , Thanks aso for your message...

Love Sam.
post #26 of 33
I am so sorry you are having such a rough time Sam. Just remember we are your family and we are here for you anytime you need us.
Can you stay with your Gran for a bit?
post #27 of 33
Thread Starter 
Thank you Ady, I feel like TCS is my home/family as well

I will be staying with my Nanna for awhile , It's ok, I love her 'n all but less time at TCS..LOL

Thank you everyone!
post #28 of 33
Hi Sam,

Enjoy your time with your Nana. I miss mine terribly. She's been gone for many years now. But thank God you still have your Nana to be there for you!
post #29 of 33
Sam consider us as your big extended family. I will miss you a lot and hope that you will find some way to stay in touch with us. Please take great care of yourself and try to find some Sam Time within the chaos that surrounds you right now.

You are a treasure my friend-

BIG Hugs! ((((((((())))))))))))
post #30 of 33
Oh Sam!

You have so many friends here and so many who care about you... as everyone else has said, we're here for you to turn to!!!!

My hubby's parents got divorced when he was six, and his Dad got married three more times after that. At 8 he ran away from home and made it from Chicago to Denver! At 15 he left home. He had no adults in his life to turn to, and he hung out with a gang of thugs and got involved with drugs. In the end, the only way he changed his fate was by joining the army.

Please don't let this happen to you! You are way way way way way way to smart for that, sweetie!!!!!!! In so many ways you are so far beyond your years... and that probably just makes it harder on you, not easer. But it doesn't matter how old you are when something like this happens... it hurts and it's difficult. But when you don't already live on your own, it causes even more turmoil. My heart aches for you, and please feel free to lean on all of us or any of us as you see fit! I'm so glad your nana is there for you. ...and even if you don't get much time to spend on TCS, please make sure you get plenty of time with your kitties!!!!

We love you Sam, and don't ever feel sorry for needing a shoulder ... or for needing to vent. We all need, and we're here for each other.

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