If you haven't heard about this story, here's the Cliff's Notes version:
Single woman adopts 7 year old boy from Russia. She's a nurse, obviously seemed stable as adopters go through rigorous screenings before being allowed to adopt. She adopted this boy around September of last year. The adoption agency does regular check ups on the new family to ensure everything is going OK. Their last checkup was in January and according to them (I saw an interview with them today at lunch
) everything was progressing normally. He was engaged, proud of his accomplishments so far, he and Mom appeared to be bonding. Beginning in February they were no longer able to contact the mother by phone. As they don't have the resources or legal authority to do much more than that, they attempted to contact her multiple times.
According to her story, by late February the boy was psychotic and threatening to burn down their home. However, there is no indication that she took him to her pediatrician for the behavior problems, or any other medical professional. The adoption agency has many resources for parents of adopted foreign children, especially those coming from orphanages as they often have issues associated with their pasts. As noted above, she not only did not contact them she would not accept any contact from them.
So, she had her mother accompany him from Tennessee to Washington D.C. where he was boarded on a plane to Moscow, alone. He was met there by a man she had hired over the internet (for $200) to meet him and take him to the Department of Education. She gave him some cookies and a coloring pen for the trip, and a note that said this (there was more to the note, this is what was released):
Very different stories are emerging about this boy, and what happened:
From CNN: Grandmother: Adopted boy sent back to Russia was violent
From AOL News:
Starkly different portraits of adopted boy emerge
Grandmother: Boy terrorized adoptive family in the US
I can't keep track of which UK news orgs are rags and which are good.
I think this is one of the rags that no one trusts. Regardless, this one does contain a photo of the actual letter she sent with him:
Fury as U.S. woman adopts Russian boy, 7, then sends him back alone
So what do you think about this? Should Torry (the mother) be charged with a crime? Should Nancy (the grandmother who took him to Washington DC and plopped him on the plane to Moscow)? Should all adoptions halt from Russia? Should Russia adopt more stringent rules on adoption like China has?
Single woman adopts 7 year old boy from Russia. She's a nurse, obviously seemed stable as adopters go through rigorous screenings before being allowed to adopt. She adopted this boy around September of last year. The adoption agency does regular check ups on the new family to ensure everything is going OK. Their last checkup was in January and according to them (I saw an interview with them today at lunch
) everything was progressing normally. He was engaged, proud of his accomplishments so far, he and Mom appeared to be bonding. Beginning in February they were no longer able to contact the mother by phone. As they don't have the resources or legal authority to do much more than that, they attempted to contact her multiple times.According to her story, by late February the boy was psychotic and threatening to burn down their home. However, there is no indication that she took him to her pediatrician for the behavior problems, or any other medical professional. The adoption agency has many resources for parents of adopted foreign children, especially those coming from orphanages as they often have issues associated with their pasts. As noted above, she not only did not contact them she would not accept any contact from them.
So, she had her mother accompany him from Tennessee to Washington D.C. where he was boarded on a plane to Moscow, alone. He was met there by a man she had hired over the internet (for $200) to meet him and take him to the Department of Education. She gave him some cookies and a coloring pen for the trip, and a note that said this (there was more to the note, this is what was released):
Quote:
| After giving my best to this child, I am sorry to say that for the sake of my family, friends and myself, I no longer wish to parent this child. As he is a Russian national, I am returning him to your guardianship and would like the adoption disannulled. |
From CNN: Grandmother: Adopted boy sent back to Russia was violent
From AOL News:
Starkly different portraits of adopted boy emerge
Grandmother: Boy terrorized adoptive family in the US
I can't keep track of which UK news orgs are rags and which are good.
I think this is one of the rags that no one trusts. Regardless, this one does contain a photo of the actual letter she sent with him:Fury as U.S. woman adopts Russian boy, 7, then sends him back alone
So what do you think about this? Should Torry (the mother) be charged with a crime? Should Nancy (the grandmother who took him to Washington DC and plopped him on the plane to Moscow)? Should all adoptions halt from Russia? Should Russia adopt more stringent rules on adoption like China has?
Like Heidi said, what if your biological child had issues? you don't give up on them, you do your very best to work through them. When you adopt a child you are committing to care for that child thru thick and thin. The way I look at it is that these children already probably have abandonment issues already, if the parent that chose them doesn't want them anymore, what does THAT do to their fragile psyches? I find this woman and her mother's actions absolutely reprehensible. Reminds me of the cowards that drop their unwanted animals off in the night drop off at a shelter, disgusting 
