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Hello everyone,
I'm hoping to get expert opinions on raising my new kitty.
A bit about us first: I had and loved cats continuously during the first 20 years of my life. After several years of living cat-free away from home, I'm now going to have my own cat. My girlfriend had cats around her house growing up, but her pets were the dogs. She loves this kitty though and is enthusiastic about raising him.
A family member's cat recently had kittens and I've adopted one of them. He's 8 weeks old now, already got the litter box and solid food things down pat. I've had him at home for a few days so far. He's great, but...
My GF and I both work out of the home, so he's spent two days now home alone (we lock him out of some rooms, but he's got about 600 sqft of kitty-safe rooms to roam in). He cries terribly while were gone. When we're home, he needs to be with us all the time. He has to be playing in the same room as us. When I'm in the bathroom taking a shower he cries like its the end of the world; even if he's in the bathroom looking at me through the clear glass door, he cries and cries. My GF doesn't want him to sleep in our bed with us, so we need to close our bedroom door at night. Again, he cries most of the night.
We can put up with all of that, but I'm worried about him.
I saw a similar question in the link below, and the solutions was a second cat. Long term, we (especially my GF) really only want one cat. I'm thinking I've got three options now...
1. Change nothing. Leave him to cry while we're gone and wait for him to get used to it. Will he be okay if things stay as they are? Will he eventually get used to being alone without serious behavioral issues?
2. Temporarily adopt one of his siblings. The family member from whom we adopted plans on keeping 3 of the kittens from the litter. I'm thinking we'll take one of those three for a while until the cats get old enough, then return him/her. Is this a good idea? How long should I keep them both, so that they'll each be happy once separated (i.e., when my kitty will be old enough on his own, and the other cat be okay moving back in with his other siblings)? The family member lives hours away, so we can't just pop the kittens back and forth.
3. Send our kitten back with his siblings, let him grow up some more, then bring him back when he's older. I don't like this because I really want to teach/train him to my likeness...judging by the family members other cats, my kitten will come back a terror if he grows up there.
What do you think I should do?
Thank you in advance for any and all opinions!
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I'm hoping to get expert opinions on raising my new kitty.
A bit about us first: I had and loved cats continuously during the first 20 years of my life. After several years of living cat-free away from home, I'm now going to have my own cat. My girlfriend had cats around her house growing up, but her pets were the dogs. She loves this kitty though and is enthusiastic about raising him.
A family member's cat recently had kittens and I've adopted one of them. He's 8 weeks old now, already got the litter box and solid food things down pat. I've had him at home for a few days so far. He's great, but...
My GF and I both work out of the home, so he's spent two days now home alone (we lock him out of some rooms, but he's got about 600 sqft of kitty-safe rooms to roam in). He cries terribly while were gone. When we're home, he needs to be with us all the time. He has to be playing in the same room as us. When I'm in the bathroom taking a shower he cries like its the end of the world; even if he's in the bathroom looking at me through the clear glass door, he cries and cries. My GF doesn't want him to sleep in our bed with us, so we need to close our bedroom door at night. Again, he cries most of the night.
We can put up with all of that, but I'm worried about him.
I saw a similar question in the link below, and the solutions was a second cat. Long term, we (especially my GF) really only want one cat. I'm thinking I've got three options now...
1. Change nothing. Leave him to cry while we're gone and wait for him to get used to it. Will he be okay if things stay as they are? Will he eventually get used to being alone without serious behavioral issues?
2. Temporarily adopt one of his siblings. The family member from whom we adopted plans on keeping 3 of the kittens from the litter. I'm thinking we'll take one of those three for a while until the cats get old enough, then return him/her. Is this a good idea? How long should I keep them both, so that they'll each be happy once separated (i.e., when my kitty will be old enough on his own, and the other cat be okay moving back in with his other siblings)? The family member lives hours away, so we can't just pop the kittens back and forth.
3. Send our kitten back with his siblings, let him grow up some more, then bring him back when he's older. I don't like this because I really want to teach/train him to my likeness...judging by the family members other cats, my kitten will come back a terror if he grows up there.
What do you think I should do?
Thank you in advance for any and all opinions!
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