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post #1 of 8
3/31/10 at 6:35pm
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So as many know by now, I have a litter of 6 kittens.My husband is deployed until August and I personally dont want to keep any of them. He's almost pressuring me to keep 2 and i think its just to much for me. We took the momma cat in a few months ago and I was reluctant about that in the first place. Dont get me wrong, I love those little babies! But for my sanity, plus the fact we have 3 adult cats, I think its best to find all kittens new homes. But I feel like I cant. Any advice??
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post #2 of 8
3/31/10 at 7:00pm
I wouldn't keep them if I didn't want them. I hope you can find homes for them where they are really wanted as pets. I think it would be hard for you if you really dont want them to keep them.
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post #3 of 8
3/31/10 at 7:07pm
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Taking on 6 cats at once is just to much for me I think. The mother cat is already a handful to me right now.
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post #4 of 8
3/31/10 at 10:31pm
I suspect your problem is some sort of bad conscience you dont want to keep them... Although you already do have several cats. (And keeping the momma cat, yes?)

You can always excuse yourself with the usual advice: a rescuer must avoid to adopt herself. As the rescuer must have place for the rescuees.
If a rescuers adopts more then some singular very occasionally, soon she ends as owner at the very best, but it may also end as a hoarder....


Nay, the usual problem for the rescuer is they WANT to adopt some of their kittens/rescuees, but realize they really cant.
You dont want - very wisely (save perhaps the mom?) - so whatsa matter??

Good luck and thanks!
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post #5 of 8
4/1/10 at 5:51am
Because of his deployment, your hubby is not there to help. I understand how he feels, but you must do what is best for you AND the kittens. And it sounds like rehoming them is the only fair thing to do.

I have seven cats in my house... all rescue/fosters... I was planning on keeping four of them... but my BF was pressuring me to keep two others in particular. I told him that if he wants me to keep Archie and Tex ...HE has to step up more in the cleaning,supplies and financial dept. He agreed and has been. But then, he is not overseas. (we don't live together btw)
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post #6 of 8
4/1/10 at 6:01am
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Originally Posted by AddieBee View Post
Because of his deployment, your hubby is not there to help. I understand how he feels, but you must do what is best for you AND the kittens. And it sounds like rehoming them is the only fair thing to do.


I understand you dilemma. But you are there in the reality, and you know your limits. Assure your husband that when he comes home, if he really wants a kitten, there will always be plenty of kittens in this world to choose from.


And my thanks to both of you for your service to our country.
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post #7 of 8
4/1/10 at 6:05am
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Oh I feel so much better guys! I am keeping momma cat...she is scheduled to be spayed next week as well. I have put an ad up for the kittens and have already gotten 4 responses since last night. Everyone is very agreeable to a small adoption fee and signing a contract in giving all there info to me so I can check up later.
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post #8 of 8
4/1/10 at 5:45pm
Well as a cat lover, I must say "one can never have too many cats!"

But logically..... I do know what it is like to be burdened by a pet you can't afford/don't want and you feel guilty, but for your sanity you need to find them homes.
It will be hard to let go of them on one hand, but on the other it is what is best. If you know in your heart that you can't afford/don't want, then either compromise with hubby or find them homes.
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