Okay, I get it

I'm not sure why, but I seem to be being shunned here. So....I'll save everyone the hassle and just not come back. I don't know what I did to make me such an outcast. I had thought it was my imagination when I was deep in depression and anxiety, but now that I'm on the right meds and feeling better I see that nothing has changed. I'd say it's been fun, but.....NOT.

Laters

I am so sorry you feel this way...
I went back and looked through your posts and threads, and really can not see anything of sorts? I see lots of vibes and good wishes going your way, in your home application thread, or when someone tried to break into your place for example... Unless this happened by PM...

Again, so sorry you feel this way, I do hope you stick around, I can't see this beeing the feeling towards you here at TCS...

Honey, why do you feel like you are being shunned? I admit, I'm not on as much as I used to be but that doesn't sound like this site at all. I will say there are groups of people that are closer and inside jokes (some of which I STILL don't get after how many years?) but over all most everyone here is friendly and welcoming.

I hope you change your mind and stick around.

Gee, I hope you stay. Can you be more specific? Just by these posts you should realize we don't want you to leave.

Are you having problems with specific people? (yes or no, don't list anyone) I don't follow all that many threads on here, nor do I join in on the emotional type threads - I'm no good at that stuff, if you need facts I'll do everything I can to help. That very thing makes me feel like people probably don't like me much either - but there's a few people around who I like.

But if you feel it's better for YOU to move on for a bit or for good, so be it. Do what you feel is best for you and please don't feel like you've done anything wrong. Take care of yourself.

So sorry you feel this way! I remember rooting for you with the new place, and you never came back to update us about what happened and I was kind of disappointed about that, and really hoping you were just busy moving.... and anything about the wedding and dress got a lot of attention, and you got a lot of support when Sebastian passed, and a lot of people were there for you when your grandma had the stroke.

People are always here for support and vibes. Of course, it varies with how active the site is. I don't know if you looked at all, but usually there are not many people online at any one time these last few months, it's been really slow compared to other times in the past.

I don't know what the problem is, but if it's happening privately, please contact a moderator, that's what they're here for.

(My theory on why it's been pretty slow here since before/around the holidays is that more people are spending time on FB and communicating about life and such there. :dK: I know I find myself spending most of my time on TCS in the ferals forum than anywhere else these days).

...And all of us post threads that don't get much in the way of response sometimes. It just depends upon whether it's something that grabs people's interest. I felt really disappointed in IMO recently.... it was a thread I didn't even start - but I replied to someone addressing specific issues, and they couldn't be bothered to come back and say anything - to something I put a LOT of work into and on an issue that should concern ALL of us - cat welfare! The thread has 330 reads and 17 responses. People just have nothing to say, I guess.

But you can't take it personally, unless people are being outright mean to you. Some of us just get busy with life and other projects and sites some times.

But I see more and more threads where people read them but don't reply.... take a look at other threads. Huge reading count, very few replies. It just goes in cycles. I don't think it's you.

Don't forget - most forums work in such a way that the more you participate, the more people try to participate with you. But even then - if you're writing about something in which someone doesn't have much interest, they probably won't write anything.

Instead of leaving TCS, why don't you join us on the vacation? It's virtual, so no expense involved!

Another FYI..... Hopehacker wrote a post like this when she didn't have a very high post count, and we all reassured her not to take it personally, but to just keep jumping in. And she became not only a beloved member of this site, but someone whom many members went to extreme lengths to make sure her cats were taken care of and placed in loving homes when she passed away.

My only complaint about you is that you haven't told us what happened with the new rental! I really do hope you've been able to move to a larger place in a better area.

I will add one more thing. The more you participate, the more people get to know you. You don't have to post a lot to enjoy being a member here or to have people rooting for you, your problems and their solutions, your kitties and their health or your family. But the more you participate, the faster people get to know you and care about the things you do and that happen to you and your cats. It's just like working a job - you sit at your desk or work your machine and keep to yourself - and no one gets to know you. You hang out with everyone at lunch break or head out for a snack after work, and you get to know people. What you decide to do is up to you. But if people don't go out of their way to invite you definitely does not mean you're being shunned. It works both ways.

You asked us for vibes about your potential new apartment - you got them. You never followed up. You reached out, we reached out - and then you never showed up in the lunchroom or went out for snacks with us after work again. ??????????????????

You have less than 500 posts in over a year. Farleyv has almost 1400 posts in about a year. Who are we going to know more about?

Again - this isn't about post count or anything, and I don't want to turn it into that. I just point out a simple fact.

I'm sorry you feel hurt and upset - but unless it's something happening privately, I really can't imagine why.

I wondered what happened to you when you were gone for awhile. I don't post nearly as often as I used to because I work 70+ hours a week. I don't think there are very many of us who have not felt at some point like our posts were not being answered, or that we were the threadkiller.
I hope you choose to remain an active part of this board.

Originally Posted by krazy kat2

I wondered what happened to you when you were gone for awhile. I don't post nearly as often as I used to because I work 70+ hours a week. I don't think there are very many of us who have not felt at some point like our posts were not being answered, or that we were the threadkiller.
I hope you choose to remain an active part of this board.

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That is just so true. Whenever I posted a pic in the cat pictures forum, I'd get like three responses or something. I stopped posting pics, and just started commenting on pictures. After a couple of months, I posted a pic - and got lots of responses.

I've seen a number of people complain that no one's asked them questions in the member spotlight of the week - and then when you go look, you find out they've never once asked someone else a question in the spotlight thread. TCS is no different than life. You get what you give.

I'm sorry you feel this way. I don't know what we did to make you feel like an outcast, but I hope we can just chalk it up to a misunderstanding.

I am sorry your feelings are hurt. I was looking at all the nice gift donations people sent you. You only have some four hundred posts. I am wondering if someone also donated you some points. Just from the gifts, I think some must have liked you. Please forgive, and stay here.

I'm sorry if that came off bad. My daughter came and read what I posted and said it sounded like I still needed more meds. I've been suffering from panic disorders and agoraphobia and it's been coming and going. I am truly sorry for the drama.


LDG... We ended up with a cute 3 bedroom mobile in a town about 40 miles to the west of here. We could have had the one that I had asked for vibes for, but the landlord said he could not hold it for us. So we are moving this coming weekend and that may also have contributed to my panic and imagination this morning.

Once we get to our new house I'm not sure how long it will be till I'm back online. Getting all the utilities turned on has about killed the budget. I haven't even looked into internet yet but it will be at least a month and in that time I will try to get my medication adjusted again.

Please....just ignore the man(girl) behind the curtain

How 'bout embracing the man (girl) behind the curtain?

I'm so glad you got a larger place!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope it's safer, that you love it, and that the move goes smoothly!

We'll miss ya - hope you're back soon!

I'm new here, but I hope you do stick around. Sending you vibes that everything works out for you.

Oh good news! We will be looking for you to return as soon as you get things up and running!