Hi guys...I'm not sure this is the right section in the boards for this...but I know you'll understand. I just need to vent.
I work 4-12:30am, which works for us and our animals -- the boyfriend wakes me up at noon when he's home for lunch, then I leave at 3:45, Frank's home at 5 (so the kitties are without someone for just a smidge over an hour), he naps, then gets up, makes dinner, and we eat dinner at 1am...then we are in bed around 3am.
ANYWAY. That was just some random sidenote. My point is that I work for a worldwide lawfirm (I'm a legal proofreader by accident -- I have 8 years experience in graphic design, but with the economy...I got laid off and now here I am, and it's not so bad!), and it's not NORMAL business hours, and so the people that I work with have become a little family. There are some shift overlaps, but for 5 days a week, I'm with one person the entire time, and she's quickly become a good friend.
However. A few times she's remarked that she just "had" to get rid of this dog, or she had to get rid of this cat. The cat was peeing in her plants! I swallowed a lot of what I wanted to say about that, because it happened before we knew each other. She's also had her cat declawed (front and back) because "she has a daughter." I had two cats declawed in my life because I COULD NOT FIND ANOTHER SOLUTION, and that was a HUGE mistake on my part. I felt guilty for the remainder of those cats' lives, but at the same time, I didn't dump them somewhere. So, I've been trying to deal with her, but recently, she got rid of not one, but TWO of her dogs. One was 8 (and she had him for all 8 of those years), and the other was probably about a year. She says they nipped at her daughter, and "in this day and age, if my daughter gets bit by my dogs, I'll go to jail."
I don't know that to be true, but I don't have kids, and I just generally don't know. But the BAD PART is that SHE THEN WENT OUT THE VERY NEXT DAY AND ADOPTED A NEW PUPPY BECAUSE THE DAUGHTER WAS CRYING.
I want to continue to be her friend, but I'm having a very hard time. I've already limited my socializing time with her after that. I'm still pleasant to her, because I have to work with her (but our jobs are completely different and we really don't HAVE to interact). There are only four of us in the room for a large portion of the shift, and we are close-knit. I'm just limited in what I can say, but I don't know how to get "over" this and just go back to seeing her as a friend. I don't know if I can, because it's so opposite from anything I personally would ever do.
I don't have kids, so I can't 100% say what I would do, but I still KNOW what I would do, if that makes sense. I'd say "well, lesson learned, you don't mess with the dogs." She says the daughter wasn't doing anything, but I find that hard to believe. I was bit as a child, and I learned my lesson. I understand wanting safety for your child, but this just seems extreme -- it was the first incident. And then to turn around and get a new puppy?
*sigh* I'm just having a hard time deciding how to partition off my brain on this one...I mean, we're still battling Butters being sick, and I had a friend suggest rehoming him (out of kindness -- she is like me), but I won't have it. Even if we had to separate him forever...although we really don't WANT to, and probably wouldn't have to, I'd keep him. I picked him. I will care for him.
Anyhow. I just wanted to know if you have similar issues at times? It seems like not everyone is wired the way animal-lovers are.
I work 4-12:30am, which works for us and our animals -- the boyfriend wakes me up at noon when he's home for lunch, then I leave at 3:45, Frank's home at 5 (so the kitties are without someone for just a smidge over an hour), he naps, then gets up, makes dinner, and we eat dinner at 1am...then we are in bed around 3am.
ANYWAY. That was just some random sidenote. My point is that I work for a worldwide lawfirm (I'm a legal proofreader by accident -- I have 8 years experience in graphic design, but with the economy...I got laid off and now here I am, and it's not so bad!), and it's not NORMAL business hours, and so the people that I work with have become a little family. There are some shift overlaps, but for 5 days a week, I'm with one person the entire time, and she's quickly become a good friend.
However. A few times she's remarked that she just "had" to get rid of this dog, or she had to get rid of this cat. The cat was peeing in her plants! I swallowed a lot of what I wanted to say about that, because it happened before we knew each other. She's also had her cat declawed (front and back) because "she has a daughter." I had two cats declawed in my life because I COULD NOT FIND ANOTHER SOLUTION, and that was a HUGE mistake on my part. I felt guilty for the remainder of those cats' lives, but at the same time, I didn't dump them somewhere. So, I've been trying to deal with her, but recently, she got rid of not one, but TWO of her dogs. One was 8 (and she had him for all 8 of those years), and the other was probably about a year. She says they nipped at her daughter, and "in this day and age, if my daughter gets bit by my dogs, I'll go to jail."
I don't know that to be true, but I don't have kids, and I just generally don't know. But the BAD PART is that SHE THEN WENT OUT THE VERY NEXT DAY AND ADOPTED A NEW PUPPY BECAUSE THE DAUGHTER WAS CRYING.
I want to continue to be her friend, but I'm having a very hard time. I've already limited my socializing time with her after that. I'm still pleasant to her, because I have to work with her (but our jobs are completely different and we really don't HAVE to interact). There are only four of us in the room for a large portion of the shift, and we are close-knit. I'm just limited in what I can say, but I don't know how to get "over" this and just go back to seeing her as a friend. I don't know if I can, because it's so opposite from anything I personally would ever do.
I don't have kids, so I can't 100% say what I would do, but I still KNOW what I would do, if that makes sense. I'd say "well, lesson learned, you don't mess with the dogs." She says the daughter wasn't doing anything, but I find that hard to believe. I was bit as a child, and I learned my lesson. I understand wanting safety for your child, but this just seems extreme -- it was the first incident. And then to turn around and get a new puppy?
*sigh* I'm just having a hard time deciding how to partition off my brain on this one...I mean, we're still battling Butters being sick, and I had a friend suggest rehoming him (out of kindness -- she is like me), but I won't have it. Even if we had to separate him forever...although we really don't WANT to, and probably wouldn't have to, I'd keep him. I picked him. I will care for him.
Anyhow. I just wanted to know if you have similar issues at times? It seems like not everyone is wired the way animal-lovers are.