update on my cats behavior after 6 years...

Original post was here.
http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=36667

To sum it up my male cat Stimpy beat on my female cat Alanta often. I don't have good news, but they're both getting older now. This is weird I would update after all these years but I'm concerned.

Stimpy is still a beast, he is rough with our kitten (slams it to the ground with his paw, making a big thump) and beats up our other cat (who now is scared to even leave the bedroom).

I love Stimpy, and I can't give him away after 10 years of having him, but he has to keep seperated. In my other post, I described his aggression while on catnip. Well, I rarely give him catnip anymore, but I tried to the other day and what a nightmare.

Immediately after I took the bag away from him, he started sulking. Then about 20 minutes later, I heard a big sound (like something falling). I went to investigate and found he had knocked over several items in the bathroom, but to my shock I noticed something else...

He had ripped the stuffing out of his favourite toy. It was ripped open and all over the place. I just ignored him and signed, starting picking up the bits of stuffing all over the place and then he charged at me, spitting. For the first time I was scared of him, he looked like he meant business. I went to the other room, got the catnip bag and threw it in the room he was in, then shut the door.

Around 10 minutes later I went to check on him and he was all loving and caring, and all the catnip was gone. It just seems like he was manipulating me into giving him the catnip back, by using the same bully-boy tactics he uses on my other cats. In fact we call him "The Bullyboy"

I'll never give him catnip again, and I'm just so thankful he wasn't near my other cats, but I need to keep them seperated.

Oh well just figured I'd update after all these years, since the whole situation that transpired recently left me thinking about a post I made here in the past.

Cheers,

Dimitri

Thanks, yes I did try some of the advice given. Most of it, even the honeysuckle. He just seems to have an attitude problem and acts like a "tough guy". It's very noticable around our kitten, when he seems to get pleasure out of slamming her into the ground like he's playing basketball.

Something of note....

When we had took on another cat, a male that also had been fixed, they both got on OK, but both were bullying the other cats. In fact they double teamed my other cat (the one that is scared to leave the bedroom).

I'm not sure what to think, he's normal when he gets his own way, but he's never been this bad. I think it's because it has been quite a while since he had his catnip.

Sometimes, the kitten is eating and stimpy will come up and bash it out of the way so he can get to the food bowl, despite there being 3 others around the home. He won't move from the food bowl until the other cats have left, and if they are near he will keep eating until he pukes up (he tries to cover the food up after he's done).

I will take responsibility for some of the way he is, because I had trouble way back when I made my original post with pleasing him, and it went on for a while. It sounds ridiculous but I feel I'm being controlled and abused by my cat in a way. He gets what he wants, or he throws a tantrum, just so happens he throw the ultimate one recently.

It's hard to give him all the attention he desires sometimes as well, because there are 5 other cats here, and I try REALLY hard to give them each the same amount of love, but Stimpy has always been more demanding and jealous.

Another problem is I will be cuddling one of the other cats, and Stimpy will come over and start getting my attention. Sometimes I will put the other cat down and let Stimpy up, and it's all well and fine, but if another cat approaches us when he's on my lap, he starts spitting/hissing at them.

:/

PS. I'm in the UK, I don't know where to get feliway plug-in diffusers. Hmmm. I'll have a look online. Willing to try anything right now.

Hi, thanks for your reply and advice. The house isn't too big, but I live on my own, and there's at least enough room for all the cats. 2 bedrooms, 1 sitting room, 1 kitchen, 1 bathroom all seperated. The cats live fine together with me (oh god I think I am labeled as a crazy cat person because I have more cat friends than people, lol) on my own, and not much fuss except for Stimpy.

But you know, I have been thinking about what you said. He sort of alread has his own room, which is the bathroom, but I am worried about keeping him isolated for too long without contact with the other cats. I don't want him getting depressed or anything. Suppose though I've got to do something abot it instead of trying to make excuses all the time :/

I'll think about getting him his own room properly if finances allow for it (kinda stuck right now), with lots of new toys and stimulation for him.

Does anyone else have any advice to add?

PS. With the food, I just realised something. He actually does the same thing when I'm around too. He actually won't move from his food bowl unless I'm out of the way, then I see him moving about shortly after. He's a funny boy really, lol..just he scares me now, lol!! but I love hiim to bits.He's my baby!!