My step-mom... vibes? please...

Well... My step-mom may have cancer. I've known for a few days, but it wasn't until this morning that it actually hit me... Cancer... Mom... cancer... stepmom... I've lost one mom to cancer already, and I really hate to see my step-mom go as well. She's at peace with IF she does, and if it is her time. She just wants to be out of the pain she is in, and she wants to know what is causing the pain. They've done tests, but just waiting on results. I pray it isn't. I'm not prepaired to go through cancer with a mother figure a third time.

A few years ago a woman I was really close friends with, who was like a mother figure to me found out she had lung cancer. She didn't tell me for a little while, knowing how hard it was on me with cancer and my mom. She did finally tell me, and I just sat there for a couple hours crying and looking at her. She was so upset by my reaction, she held my hand and told me everything would be fine. It was, she passed away, and is no longer in pain. That wasn't what I wanted, but it happens. Some things are defianately out of our control.

Now... I sit trying to keep myself busy and not think about it. I feel cold and bad for not wanting to think about it. Not wanting to talk about it. It's unfair because I should be there, worrying with her... I just don't feel like I can be any help or strength for her. Last thing I need is her comforting me because I am so broken up. I'll wait to hear what IS going on, then I will react. I figure a few vibes if anyone has any left, is a good start. My step-sis is freaked out though. I don't blame her. I didn't want to loose my mom, and I don't want her to loose hers.

Thank you

Be safe.

I am so sorry that your having to go thru this twice. This is something you don't get used too no matter how many times it happens in a family. Am sending you some good luck vibes and hope your step mom doesn't suffer a lot of pain.

Aww hun i am so sorry to hear this

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry to hear this, I am sending you all the vibes I can.xx xx

I am sorry your stepmother is not well. As for the possibility of cancer, try to think positive. If it does turn out to be cancer, then it is not necessarily a death sentence. Cancer is hard to live with. My only daughter was diagnosed in '95 with Non Hodgkins lymphoma. The prognosis was not good, but the radiation and chemo worked. She had been cancer free until October of last year when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. She had surgery in early December. She was 33 at first diagnosis and is 47 now. We just take one day at the time. Prayers for your family.

I am so sorry to hear about this. We are rowing the same boat, my grandmother has it, in both breasts and they cannot do anything for her at this point. However, she is happy and upbeat and doesn't let cancer get her down.

THINK Positive.

My love is for you today, you need it <3