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I'm not sure where to put this. Crossing the rainbow bridge? IMO? General chat? I suppose it fits into all of them.

I'm really hurting right now. If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it. I suppose I don't care anymore anyway.

People here know, that over the years, I accumulated many cats. I rescued, adopted and some had babies of which I kept them all. I'm in a job that means that I can afford the ammount that I did have.

Until you experience this, you don't know what it's like. I remembered ranting on here about how I'd never give them up, that the council could go stuff themselves if they ever found out...

Well guees what? The council found out. You're not allowed more than 3. My nw neighbours complained to the local paper when they found out how many. My real estate evicted me, the council threatened a $2000 fine per cat and to forcefully take them all.

I was stalked by one neighbour, threatened by another. All because, although some here might have 10 or more cats, I had 29. They diddn't like that, thought it was excessive and were being nosey
s. I wasn't planning more, and I was looking after them.

The RSPCA even said that I was looking after them well and they saw no reason to remove them. They looked well cared for, they were happy cats. The only reason council got involved was because of the 3 cat rule. But they were enclosed, not roaming around, I had a setup for them so they'd be safe like an indoor cat.

When this happened, under so much pressure and suffering severe anxiety, I foolishly thought that it was best for them, and me, that I cave in. So I made the most agonizing choice of my life - to surrender 15 of them. Most of my males. I kept 2 males (my eldest and youngest both desexed) and all my females - indoor cats.

The shelter assured me, they wouldn't euthanize, which is why I chose them over the RSPCA. I had plans to help them find them homes as well. They were nice at first. They now don't seem to give a rats ass. I paid to surrender the cats, so it's not like they were being a drain on them, they not only profited by me surrendering them but by the fee they would get when they get adopted.

I know, that shelters are overun with cats. What other choice did I have though? everyone was pressuring me. I'm not a hoarder, they were my pets, it got out of control. I had to be of the thinking, if I wanted to save my eldest, and half of them then I had to do this... I thought it best for everyone involved.

I found out today, that they euthanized 5 of them. They wouldn't tell me why. They wouldn't tell me who. Now I will be forever haunted, not knowing which ones are gone and which ones aren't. I do know that Jazzie got adopted to a good family who will forever love him and keep him indoors. That's my only consolation but this is haunting.

Hopefully my other cats get good homes. If anybody is in Sydney, Australia, contact me and I can give you the details. It would cost you a maximun of $100AU to adopt one of them, and they are really beautiful.

I'm sorry for the ranting, I'm sorry if I offend anyone, I've just spent the better part of the last hour, sobbing my heart out because it is so unbelievably painful.

Right now, I hate my ex neighbours (I've moved), I hate the council, I hate everyone who pressured me to do this. I really wonder, do they feel good about themselves now that 5 innocent, previously happy and well looked after cats are dead? I hope they feel proud of themselves for being such assholes.

I'm going to work on finding homes personally for some of the ones I kept, but I will never ever trust the shelters again, ever. I mean, fair enough if they have an overload of cats, but to outright LIE TO ME and SET ME UP is INFURIATING! If I hadn't been so overwhelemed, I'd have done the leg work myself, found them homes myself, but it got on top of me, for which it will forever haunt me. I pay the price for this with the pain it has caused.
 

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I'm so sorry, its rough getting into a situation where you feel you have no choice. My question to you is WHY you didn't find a larger place? I know you meant well, but feel you made a few mistakes at the start. The females that had kittens - why didn't you find them homes?

Sometimes we have to stop and think about what we are doing - and what is for the good of the animals. If you knew of this rule, you were at fault. Its really your responsibility to know the rules.

When I got into breeding purebred cats, I first decided on how many I could have (adults) and I stuck with that - even tho I could have cared for more. Sometimes we have to learn painful lessons.
 

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Oh my gosh. I am so sorry, my heart is breaking for you.
 

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That sounds terrible, I am so sorry you are in that situation. Honestly I would not have taken a chance like you did- I would not have allowed myself to have more than 3 cats knowing that that's the rule and there could be consequences for breaking it...But it is terrible that they pressured you into giving them up ...
 

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Oh my God... I am so very very sorry for what you are going through...
I can not even imagine the pain...

Many prayers going your way for your kitties to find home...


 

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Originally Posted by ut0pia

That sounds terrible, I am so sorry you are in that situation. Honestly I would not have taken a chance like you did- I would not have allowed myself to have more than 3 cats knowing that that's the rule and there could be consequences for breaking it...But it is terrible that they pressured you into giving them up ...
Many do though - I think in the US for example, in a lot of counties the limit is 3.... so people who have more than 3 are, a lot of times (I am NOT saying ALWAYS), breaking the rules.
 

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I've never understood why people feel the need to butt into someone elses business. The town I grew up in was like that - everyone's favorite pastime was gossiping and backstabbing people.
People are rotten. I hope your current residence works out better.

I'm sorry the shelter lied to you, unfortunately that's another case of someone thinking they know better and thinking lying to you was a good choice..
Personally, I'd let people know that the shelter does go back on their word. As for those rotten neighbors, they'll get theirs eventually.

I don't understand these silly limits. They make no sense - again it's just others thinking they need to butt into someone elses business. But all total my current pet count is at 24 (counting all the reptiles) - which would seem excessive to some.
 

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Originally Posted by Carolina

Many do though - I think in the US for example, in a lot of counties the limit is 3.... so people who have more than 3 are, a lot of times (I am NOT saying ALWAYS), breaking the rules.
really? i had no idea... i have 5 - never knew there were any limits anywhere, as long as the pets were indoors only.
 

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Originally Posted by laureen227

really? i had no idea... i have 5 - never knew there were any limits anywhere, as long as the pets were indoors only.
My County is 3...
 
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Thankyou all for the support. I know I shouldn't have had so many, but I truly loved them. The hardest thing is not knowing who I should grieve for. I mean, I grieve for them all, loosing them, but death is different.

It's different the bittersweet joy, knowing that Jazzie is with a family who absolutely adore him and keep him inside for safety and whom were kind hearted enough to try to get a message through to me to let me know that he is now loved and secure, than the absolute devastation knowing that 5 of them are gone and not even knowing which ones.

I can guees at two, Serryn who never tamed (biter) and Drey who although sweet as a kitten turned a bit wild... but the others? they were all sweet, healthy, would've made fantastic pets. I can't for the life of me work out who they would have done it to.

It's easier now, with the ones that I kept, less food, less mess, easier to care for them and now that I'm in between permanant residence, easier to move around, but I'd give anything to go back in time and make sure they were safe. To have chosen homes for them as kittens, rather than this. I always thought I'd be able to work through it until I owned my own home, on a farm somewhere.

It's just so hard, but again, thankyou for the support.
 

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I am so sorry about the loss of your kitties. I can only imagine what you must be feeling.


The limit where we live is also 3. We have 4. We also have turtles and a crab. My SO and I move frequently, and I'm afraid to let on how many we have if we move to a new place.
 

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Sweetheart, my heart is also breaking for you. I am so unbelievably sorry that you are going through this right now.
I hope SO much that the remaining babies find wonderful forever homes. You and they are very much in my thoughts.
 

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Sweetie, I am so, so sorry you're going thru this. I know I would be devestated not only by having to relinquish my babies, but then to not know which ones were euthanized would drive me crazy. I really don't know what to say except I'm sorry.
 

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OMG to think they actually euthanized 5 of your kits is just heartless and yes they were liars. I don't have the words to make you feel better, this whole thing was so cruel and your neighbors are rotten people. I know this will take a long time for you to get this out of your mind but don't blame yourself. You really didn't have any choice, you were forced into giving these kits up. So very sorry.
 

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The limit was 3 where I lived in Tennessee before. It's also 3 where I'm living now. Got room for one more!
 

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I am so sorry for your losses. Perhaps you can ask the newspaper to do another story so that the public will know how you were deceived and the consequences it caused to 5 innocent victims.
I don't mean this in a vengeful way, but it may prevent it from happening to someone else.
 

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Originally Posted by Rockcat

I am so sorry for your losses. Perhaps you can ask the newspaper to do another story so that the public will know how you were deceived and the consequences it caused to 5 innocent victims.
I don't mean this in a vengeful way, but it may prevent it from happening to someone else.
That is a fab idea, i definetely would contact the newspaper about this, its totally wrong what they did. I am so sorry, you were just being caring. I am only allowed 2 pets in my home as its rented but I have 5 cats and I can't imagine how I would feel if I was told to get rid.
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