Question of the Day: Thurs. Feb. 25

Good morning folks.

Todays question comes compliments of The Book of Questions (as I'm so tired I have no idea of one myself)

Is it easy for you to ask for help when you need it? Will you ask for help?

Oh yeah, I have no problems asking for help

I hate asking for help so i tend not to until its really to late

I'm pretty stubborn truthfully. I don't ask for help nearly as ofter as I should.

Generally, no. It's been trained out of me from a very young age because asking anything tended to result in some form of ridicule. (especially during school - I seemed to have some of the nastiest teachers that enjoyed calling kids names)

Not really. I'd just as soon do whatever it is by myself, if I can.

Originally Posted by -_aj_-

I hate asking for help

so i tend not to until its really to late

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me too. I especially hate asking DH for help!

Unfortunately no. It is especially difficult when you have a chronic illness that makes it hard to do things like you used to. I just have a hard time trusting people. Childhood stuff....

It really depends LOL with total strangers I have no problem at all. Co-workers, I have no problem asking for help if I need it. When it comes to family, boyfriend and friends… I never ask for help, Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ll always suffer through whatever I am doing before I ask… I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know why I do that lol.

Hmmm. Interesting question. I hardly ever ask for help. I've always lived on my own....sometimes in a "hermit" kind of way. I'm used to doing things myself. I also hardly ever ask for advice. If someone who doesn't know me offers advice without my asking for it, I politely nod and say...."Mm-hmm. Okay." They think I've taken their advice and I usually go ahead and do something my own way.

Depends what it is. I try to figure things out myself if it's a 1 person job (unless it's like, involving electrical wiring). No problem asking for help if I can't do it myself.

I'm rather stubborn. At work I will do the job myself no matter what it takes, and have always turned away help with it. It makes it less stressful on myself to not worry about others messing up on occasion and then I'd have to redo it anyway.

At home I've got no problem asking Rob for help with things though.

I hate to ask for help; I have this thing in my brain that says, "That's admitting you're weak." I know that's stupid, but that's how I am. For some reason, I also expect people to know when I actually do need help. When my back issues are acting up, I expect DH and DD to know that I can't do some things. Even then, I have a hard time asking them to help me.

I can admit to my limitations and ask for help if I can't do something. Otherwise I rarely ask for help. Mom raised me to be self sufficient.

So Is not a problem.... but is necesarily sometimes...

I find it is much easier for me to offer to help someone else than it is to ask for help. I also have a more difficult time saying no to someone who needs help (even if it winds up sucking the life out of me....although, I am working on it, and getting better at taking care of myself by saying no.)

Originally Posted by libby74

For some reason, I also expect people to know when I actually do need help. When my back issues are acting up, I expect DH and DD to know that I can't do some things. Even then, I have a hard time asking them to help me.

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I'm sort of the same way. If I can't physically get up out of bed, I expect my DH to know he's going to have to take care of some stuff - I shouldn't have to ask. But I also have a bad habit of pushing myself, moving and lifting things, without asking for help which ends up putting me in that state.

Example - I was lifting more than I should have yesterday and today I'm having difficulties walking and fell this morning. It's a wonder I haven't herniated my disc worse than it is.

I'm usually not too bad about asking, but it depends on a few things:

1. Is the person I would ask someone who has let me down before? I have a horrible time convincing myself to ask for help if the only person I can ask is not someone I trust to not make the issue more difficult.
2. Is it something I really feel I should be able to do myself. I'm too stubborn for my own good, and if it falls in this category, I'll run myself into the ground before asking.

I hate asking for help, and usually I do whatever I possibly can to avoid it, ESPECIALLY if I have to ask a stranger, that is the worst.

Easy to ask? You betcha! I have no problem asking for help if I need it.

For me, it's just a matter of admitting I need the help... Once I come to terms, it's easy.

Though, if I think of something as a "team effort" anyway, I have no problem getting the other person to do what I think is their fair share... It's when I think I need to ask them for help with my end of things that I don't want to admit it.

For example... At home, I am NOT responsible for all the house work, hubby and I are a team. So I have NO problem reminding him to do his part, like clean the cat boxes (pregnancy, ya know, I just can't! )... But if it comes to the laundry, which is kind of mine, then I don't like to ask. But when I had morning sickness so bad, I needed his help to keep up with it... And unfortunately it fell quite behind before I asked (it's a shame I had to ask, and he didn't do it on his own ). Once I realized that I needed the help, then I had NO problem saying "honey, fold the laundry and put it away, would ya??" Before that I just kept thinking "oh, I'll just do it tomorrow, I'm fine!"