My birthday was lame (me being whiny as usual)

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Turned 27 yesterday.

The day started out with my laptop frying itself. I am very good at fixing computers, but after I took it apart, found the problem, and looked up what it would cost to buy the necessary replacement parts, I found out that it would cost almost as much as an inexpensive laptop or one of those netbook mini-laptops. So, I salvaged what I could see component wise, and tossed the rest of it out. Minimum price for the components would have been $350 and the laptop was from 2003, it just wasn't worth repairing. For the most part, I've been using my T-Mobile G1 phone to do all of my web surfing, although right now I'm using a spare desktop in the house.

Then I spent the rest of the day doing medical stuff. I went to get bloodwork (a lot of bloodwork). There were 3 rounds of bloodwork scheduled throughout the day (there was a reason for it). Gross alert: Anyways, in total, it came to 24 vials drawn (the majority of it at 8 AM with 21 vials then). That was the most I think I've ever had for diagnostic purposes. End of Gross Alert The lab folks gave me a hard time while I was there. They told me that they couldn't do a test for "Ubiquinol Level". I asked why. They said they no longer did those. I told them that I had spoken to corporate HQ a few days ago to make sure that everything was going to go smoothly, I went through every test with them on the phone one by one, and they didn't mention a problem with any of it. I asked them to call corporate, they did. Then they put me on the phone with corporate and the lady (supposedly the expert) asks me, "What is this medication ubiquinol? It seems to be an herbal supplement?"
"I'm guessing you just googled it and saw that there are ubiquinol supplements, but no - it's not just a medication. It's a naturally occuring benzoquinol in your body." I said. She put me on hold. Then when she came back she told me to put the lab back on the phone. They talked, and then the receptionist at the lab tells me, "Your paperwork calls for a coenzyme-Q10 level test, it's the same thing."
"No... No it isn't. Ubiquinone is the same as coenzyme-Q10, but ubiquinol isn't the same as ubiquinone, if it was, it wouldn't be called ubiquinol and would be called ubiquinone." She argued with me that I was wrong, so I tried to explain to her that while ubiquinol can be converted to ubiquinone and vice-versa as they're both part of a cycle, they are not the same. They're related, but not the same. I mean, I know I'm no doctor, but I am capable of basic research + the doctor explained everything to me when he wrote up the sheet for those tests (and others). She called corporate again and this time they supposedly got somebody who knew what I was talking about. He told me that yes, I'm right, but unfortunately they discontinued that test and only do the coenzyme-Q10 level test and that if I want to get a ubiquinol test too, I'd have to have it done elsewhere, like at a hospital.
I asked if they could just draw an extra vial and send it to the hospital for testing (since the needle would already be in my arm), but they said they couldn't. Then later when I was getting my blood drawn, I reminded the phlebotomist that some of the vials needed to be protected as some of what we're testing for is light and temperature sensitive. She didn't know which ones I was talking about, so they had to get their supervisor on the phone (I guess they have a regional supervisor or something) who confirmed what I said. I just hope that in the time that elapsed, the sample's quality didn't deteriorate from not being protected from light. It probably didn't, but I'd hate to have to do it again. The worst part about the whole thing was how everybody at the lab had this attitude of "I really couldn't care less about you." I've noticed this attitude at just about every location in South Florida of this lab (it's a big one name-wise, you've heard of it). While I disputed some of what they said, I remained polite, they weren't polite and were constantly cutting me off with, "Sir, all I can do is what I'm trained to do, so I would appreciate it if you didn't tell me how to do my job." Or when I stood up to go use the restroom I got, "Sir, you need to remain seated." Why? They weren't taking my blood at the time, why couldn't I stand up? If I know something isn't right, why would I not share that with them? If I was in their position, I would use every opportunity to learn more and more, even if from the patient (assuming the information is confirmed as accurate), so as to be better at my job. I know it's not me, because when I was at a few locations of the same company's lab in Minneapolis, there was no such attitude, and they were happy to check on things and make sure everything was done properly. I guess it's a regional thing. I just don't understand it. It didn't leave me feeling warm and fuzzy though. It made me want to go back to Minneapolis ASAP.

Going back to what I said about learning from the patient, I just want to share one thing - I used to work in sales for a major retail chain that selles musical equipment. I worked in the department with the majority of the hi-tech stuff. I once sold a guy a portable professional digital audio recorder a high quality microphone, and a cable to connect them. He came in several hours later saying it wasn't working. I thought maybe the microphone wasn't working so I plugged it into another system and checked it, it was. I thought maybe the recorder wasn't working, so I plugged in an already set up recording station into it, and it was fine. I didn't test the cable because it was top-of-the-line and we never got any defective cables from that company. So, I assumed that maybe the customer had just not read the manual. I told him that I couldn't find any problems, so to double check the manual and try again. He came in a few hours later again with the same complaint. I was baffled, and I held the second highest rating possible in the department as far as technical knowledge on the subject (it allowed me to buy stuff myself at the price the store paid for it, I was one test away from the highest). Also, I still supposedly hold the record for being the fastest employee to ever earn that rating in the store's history, and that was almost a decade ago.
Anyways, I showed it to a friend who was the department manager and held that higher rating (only guy in the store with it) and he found the problem. I had been careless with the cable and sold him one that reversed the polarity between the two plugs. It was a specialty cable that had been on the wrong rack, but I should have been more careful and noticed it. I felt so bad, that I refunded the money for the cable, and gave him the right one for free (still top-of-the-line), along with a pack of digital tapes for his recorder as compensation for wasting his time that day due to my carelessness. Those tapes and the cable weren't cheap btw. I just felt that it was the right thing to do and the manager agreed with me (afterall, he had to sign off on it). I once sold a guy $10,000 worth of studio equipment. To show my appreciation for the sale, I came to his house and set it all up for him the next day, which was either a weekend or my day off, I don't remember which. Why is it that so many people don't care about customer service like I did? In Minneapolis, it's a lot better than down here in South Florida and a lot closer to the way I think when it comes to customer service. Down here though, it just feels like most people treat everybody else as though they weren't worth the dog poop that they just scraped off their shoe.


Anyways, getting back to my day yesterday, I later spoke to my primary doctor about surgical clearance (conveniently his office was in the same building as the lab) and out of left field he said he wanted an EKG and Chest X-ray. I mean, it's not totally out of left field, it's just that he gave me surgical clearance last year without that. So I went over to my dad's office where they had an EKG machine and my aunt (who works there) did an EKG on me. I scrambled to get it back to the doctor and I already have a chest X-ray from October 2009 when I had H1N1, so I just need the hospital in MN to send the film. I guess it's not a big deal, it just was unexpected.

It could have been worse though. I've spent my birthday in the hospital at least once, I think twice.

The only fun thing I guess is that I got to eat Chinese food at the end of the day and hang out with the cats.

I guess at the same time, at 27, I probably shouldn't expect much from birthdays anyways these days. Once I'm working, I'll be spending my birthdays at work unless they fall on a weekend, and it could be a bad work day. I'm also starting to get to the point where I'm actually not happy about my birthday in the first place. It used to be when I was younger that I looked forward to my birthday and would count down the days until it. Now, it just kind of sneaks up on me and somebody mentions, "Happy Birthday" and I'll be thinking, "Oh yeah, I guess it is my birthday today." Is that normal? Do birthdays get less and less pleasant over time for everybody? I feel now like every birthday just signifies that I have less time left to accomplish my goals in life. It also isn't fun that it comes a couple days after Valentines day, the day of the year I hate the most. I don't even know why I hate Valentines day. Something about it just annoys me I guess. I think it's that if you're single, you end up feeling lonely on Valentines day, and if you're not single, you have all this pressure to make it perfect, or else you may have to suffer the wrath of your gf or wife.... especially if you forget about it until the last second and end up having to stop at a 24 hour 7-11 the day before at 11 PM because nothing else is open and buy a bag of Hershey's Kisses and then somehow figure out a way to make a card on your computer that doesn't make it obvious that you forgot and spent midnight to 2 AM using Microsoft Publisher to make something that can pass as acceptable, and gluing multiple sheets of paper together so that it looks and feels like card-stock. Or is it just me who has gone down that road?


Anyways, I've gotten out my whining and ranting out for a while. I should be good for at least a few days, maybe a week without venting again.
 

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"It's your birthday, you can vent if you want to!"


I'm sorry it wasn't the greatest birthday for you hun... For me now birthdays are just another day, and I'm only a year and a half older than you are. It's never anything special, at all.

I also know your frustration with your bloodwork. I had mine done this morning, and they were SO unorganized that I ended up being late for work. On top of this they were very rude. I was supposed to have an EKG as well and got a very similar response, like you did, the whole "I'm sorry but we don't do EKGs here anymore. You'll have to go to the clinic at the hospital." As if we have all the time in the world to waste, right?
 

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Originally Posted by LawGuy

Now, it just kind of sneaks up on me and somebody mentions, "Happy Birthday" and I'll be thinking, "Oh yeah, I guess it is my birthday today." Is that normal?
Happy belated birthday

I'm sorry it wasn't a very good day...

What you said is normal for me, since I was probably 10. I've always seen my birthday as just another day.

My birthday this year (21st) sent me into a panic mode, I did things I would never, ever normally do, like really wild and potentially dangerous things (I am too embarrassed to even say)
I guess something about being an adult really depressed me, I mean I feel like 17-21 is the perfect age, and I'm not in that range anymore
Being an adult is nothing but boring, I can't use my age as an excuse to be either crazy, irresponsible or even not as smart as I'd like to be...I feel even more pressure to fit in, but in reality I don't feel as though I've changed at all.

And like you, I feel more pressure to accomplish my goals. And it doesn't make it any better that people from my extended family keep asking questions like "so what do you do in life", I really hate it when I get asked that question, it puts even more pressure on me.
 
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And it doesn't make it any better that people from my extended family keep asking questions like "so what do you do in life", I really hate it when I get asked that question, it puts even more pressure on me.
Actually, with certain members of my extended family, I mess with them when they ask that question - because some of them are far too elitist for me. I'm not talking aunts and uncles, I'm talking distant cousins that I meet at a reunion or something and just get under my skin. I also use it on non-family members who do the same by being elitist.

When asked what I do by them, my stock answer is:

"Well, right now I'm working in a small manufacturing shop as a cutlerysmith. We make custom tactical and hunting knives. I enjoy it, and I really never thought I'd be doing something like it. To be honest, I have the warden to thank, as it was actually his idea as part of my work release program."

I say this with a straight face, and then walk off to mingle with others and let them mull that over for a bit.

However, with most of my family, I'm just honest that I'm still working towards my career and while it feels weird to say that at my age, I had some real obstacles along the way to deal with that slowed me down, so I try not to blame myself, although I do get a little blue about it sometimes. I was somewhat relieved when I found in lawschool that I was right in the middle of the age range of my class. The youngest was 22, the oldest (in my section) was in his 40s.
 

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Birthdays are what you make of them. Sit in a corner and suck your thumb, or get out and celebrate some way. ( I highly recommend the chocolate buttercream iced birthday cake
cure myself.
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Happy Belated Birthday!

While it sounds like a very non-fun day you had, you said your birthday feels like just another day anyway, so... pick another random day to celebrate and have fun!

Me, I love my birthday, I'm like a kid about it for some reason, I want the day to be all about ME ME ME.
I mean I'm not a bit** about it or anything, but I like to do something special. This past birthday I turned 29, and I really wanted to do something big and special, like the last year of being cool before I'm old and 30. (that be a joke- no offense to those over 30!!) Well, it ended up being my BF and 3 other friends hanging out, we started with lunch at a yummy Mexican place downtown, then got day passes for the bus and headed up to a cool tiki bar for some umbrella drinks (we're all craft beer drinkers, but i wanted something different!), then headed to an 'Irish' bar for a pint and got a half dozen cupcakes from this AWESOME cupcake bakery and went home and all shared cupcakes and more good beers and played some games. It was not the big bad party I had in mind for the big 2-9, but it was still good, and with good friends. My problem has always been timing, I'm December 26, so while people often have the day off, many are also out of town or have other plans. Blah. I'm trying to get it in my head that I'm a big girl now, I don't need a birthday party every year anymore, but I still feel like it's MY day, I want it to be special!!

Anyway, I hope you can get all your medical ordeals sorted out for good soon!! And then definitely pick a date and make it yours to party!!!
 

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Happy Belated Birthday!





I turned 47 on Wednesday. Mariyah, with the experience of some age on ya, I'm going to have to disagree with you! 17-21 may be the perfect age in terms of fun in relation to responsibilities - but I loved my late 20s to mid-30s. You have experience to inform your choices and you're not affected by age-related physical problems yet.... Something to keep in mind.


Personally, I didn't freak at 40, because in retrospect 37 seemed to be the turning point for me physically (in terms of gravity and wrinkles and stuff.
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A tip for enjoying birthdays... don't think of them as celebrating another year gone by or less time to accomplish your goals - think of it as a day to celebrate life, and the fact that you were born at all.


Age is SO a state of mind, really. If you've got the attitude that life is an adventure, and the journey - and how you travel it - is the goal, not "accomplishments" themselves, then time really doesn't matter so much. That's always the way I've seen it, and for me it's never been so much about what I do or have done, as how I do it and the attitude with which I approach it.
With the way you feel about the treatment at uncaring people required by their jobs to interact with others... it seems you're perfect material for approaching life with that outlook.


As to the bloodwork.... Yeah, we've been through that nightmare. We quickly learned that for anything beyond simple blood work it really helped to walk in with a tray full of muffins and pastries and a bag with a selection of drinks, and when Gary gets called to do the bloodwork, we stop for a few minutes on the way in to tell everyone how much we appreciate what they do and we know his tests are complicated and take more work.... and then they really have no choice but to be nice. It really helps when it comes to issues with the tests (and we've had a few of those issues - especially when it came to the blood that needed to be frozen). Something to consider if you have to go through it again.


Yes, they should do their job differently, and it sucks when people have that attitude. It is one I totally don't understand. ...and I'm glad I don't, and I'm glad that I haven't let the uncaring irresponsible people of this world affect the way I live my life and interact with other people... though it sure is frustrating when trying to get something done, so vent away!


...and turn on your birthday so we here at TCS can see it's your day, and come here to celebrate!
 

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Originally Posted by LDG

One last thought... not all women are nuts about valentine's day.
I agree! I worked on Valentine's Day. My husband and I didn't get each other anything.
 

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I love birthdays! I think it's the present thing, to be honest.


I'm sorry yours isn't going so well. With them drawing that much blood, I am surprised you didn't fall out. When I worked in the doctor's office, we had a young man that was probably 200+ who fainted after a few tubes. (Nothing for him to be ashamed of, I'm not making fun or anything. It happens.)

I hope you have a happy, happy rest of your birthday!


I think I speak for all of us at TCS when I say we are here to help cheer you up!
 
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I got a little light headed for about 30 seconds, but other than that I was ok. When I was younger I came close to passing out a few times, mainly because of trypanophobia though which I got over.

I like the idea of a do-over several people mentioned. I think I'll do that. I'm going to do a do-over of my birthday on he 4th of July.
 

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Originally Posted by LawGuy

I got a little light headed for about 30 seconds, but other than that I was ok. When I was younger I came close to passing out a few times, mainly because of trypanophobia though which I got over.

I like the idea of a do-over several people mentioned. I think I'll do that. I'm going to do a do-over of my birthday on he 4th of July.
A grand idea! They'll be fireworks!
 
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Well, I don't know about photos, my only camera these days is my cell phone, but I might be getting an inexpensive digital camera, so who knows. I just figure it's a good day because I can get together with some friends from law school, have some drinks and maybe lunch with them, and then watch some fireworks. I like the 4th of July because I'm proud to be an American. Sadly, no REAL consumer fireworks in MN allowed, which is true as well in Florida, but the police don't enforce that law. MN I think does as I didn't see hardly any people setting off fireworks last year. I'll use my parking garage spot on the roof to watch the fireworks though. Best seat in the Twin Cities for the show.
 
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