Poor Katina ... *rant*

To start this off, I cant stand my future SIL. Nobody in the family likes her, she's ungrateful, annoying, and nasty towards others. I dont know what my BIL sees in her, and I honestly would love to back out of their wedding - I only agreed because its my BIL's and he was in ours. His parents have even sat him down to try and talk some sense into him. I never liked his fiancee, she's never really liked me either but she had no one to be in her bridal party. They live in the room Rob and I used to live in when we were still staying with them.

As I've posted before, Katina lives with them as well. She didn't really like Nero and is now black cat biased it seems She never had met Hoshi before, all he wanted was a sniff and she freaked. After we moved, my in-laws had really wanted to keep her because they had gotten attached to her. She was always nicer to them than us anyway Considering they live behind us, it wasn't a big deal - we can come see her all the time (and of course now she's much more lovey towards us). She's a much happier cat being by herself. We could tell the difference when we let her stay over there - complete 180* in attitude.

How does this come together? Well, my FIL told FSIL that she wasn't allowed to move her two cats in that live with her parents after she moved in. My BIL didn't want any other cats there either. I was browsing facebook and saw her status saying she moved one of her cats (who's all black, which just the sight of seems to freak out Katina) into the house. Ok whatever. I mentioned the reason Katina doesn't live with us is because she is supposed to be an only cat. She responds with "Well they'll get along great, I know it!" Katina is just now getting over the trauma of a German Shepherd trying to kill her a few times in the last 2 months (dog has since moved back to Maine with Rob's cousin - Katina is trying to get used to being back in the house and not having to be afraid. The vet even said she had an elevated heart rate from the stress of the dog chasing her all the time when she'd be inside the same time he was). The last week the dog was there, Katina ended up wrapped around his face kicking wildly, and they both ended up with paint on them from a paint can the dog knocked over.

The next thing I see FSIL say is that she took Katina's cat tree and put it downstairs in their room for her cat. Um, no. I paid the $120 for that tree, and it is Katina's. If she's not using it anymore (we left it there because she used to LOVE being in it), our cats would gladly use it. I dont think she's been in her tree for awhile because she's basically stayed outside to avoid the dog as much as possible since Thanksgiving. I texted Rob and he said we'd be going over to take it back, unless she wants to give us the money for it. We didn't buy it for FSIL to use, sorry. And I'm not going to stand for MY baby to feeling like she has to stay outside again because FSIL inconsiderately ignored what my FIL & BIL said about any other cats there, and ignored that I said Katina is supposed to be an only cat. If she wasn't, I'd have her at my house.

Just needed to rant. Are we wrong for wanting to take our stuff back instead of having FSIL take it and use it for her cat only? I'm not providing her with stuff that I bought for MY cat. It's not even as if she's broke - she's getting a free ride on everything as it is. I dont think it's fair to Katina that she is supposed to be the only cat there, and now FSIL terrifies her own cat (who's been hiding in the corner all weekend afraid to come out or eat) because she is angry with her dad and by taking the cat to my in-law's, she's defying him as well.

We're sitting down to talk with my MIL tonight and make sure that Katina is still #1 in that house. My MIL cried one night when Katina didn't come home the same time she did because she thought the dog may have gotten her during the day - she gets upset sometimes if Katina isn't there to cuddle on her after work, too. So I know she wants what's best for her as well. There was a time when my in-laws didn't see her for two days and when I let her inside on a visit over there my FIL scooped her up and hugged her for a good 5 minutes. I wonder how happy he is about FSIL ignoring what he said about the cats when she moved in last year.

Reading your post, especiallly the part about taking the cat tree frusterated me. I would be upset. I would take it back!! It's yours, she didn't ask, she didn't offer to pay for it, there is no reason for her to have moved it for HER cat. I bought a small piece of cat furniture for MyRage (Mirage), and when she moved in with my bro and his fiance, it stayed with her. Her bunny likes it, but I let her know that it still belongs to Rage, and at one point it will be coming back to me. (I hope WITH MybabyRage.) She was fine with that, and all is good. It doesn't sound like your FSIL has any respect at all, and is spoiled and used to being #1. It's too bad that she has put herself into the position she has. It's especialy unfortunate for her kitty, as the kitty is a completely innocent victim.

I feel your FIL should have a talk with her, and tell her how it is. She feels she can get away with everything because people let her. I would be talking to her if I were in the situation, but sometimes my mouth runs without my brain engaged!

Take your tree, and bolt it to the floor if you have to (I Jest)!! Honestly you are not wrong in your feelings IMO.

Be safe, and I hope this gets resolved and your (former) kitty suffers no more.

I really dont know what to say but honestly if I were in your shoes I would take the cat tree back. It is yours so its not like she has any right to it IMO. And I really know how you feel about disliking the SIL situation. My BF has two step brothers who both got married this past summer one SIL I love to death shes amazing the other one is a sneaky manipulative wench and the whole family hates her and even went as far as to have a family meeting about her trying to get the wedding called off. We all have now taken the stance that he made his bed he must lie in it. Its his own mess he made marrying her and we arent going to bail him out.

Originally Posted by 3CatsN1Dog

the other one is a sneaky manipulative wench and the whole family hates her and even went as far as to have a family meeting about her trying to get the wedding called off. We all have now taken the stance that he made his bed he must lie in it. Its his own mess he made marrying her and we arent going to bail him out.

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Are you sure she's not related to FSIL She is the worst manipulative, nasty, inconsiderate person I've ever met in my life! Even MY parents don't like her, and they've only met her twice. She's made my BIL miserable for 3 years, and even gave an engagement ultimatum because Rob proposed to me on our 2 year anniv, why didn't BIL propose to her on theirs? I think BIL is afraid he cant get anyone else, but he is not half bad looking. She, on the other hand, KNOWS she cant get anyone else with her attitude, and she certainly doesn't have the looks to offset it. Rob said "no one can say anything to him, so we'll just sit back and watch the trainwreck. We can only hope they dont have a kid before he realizes his screwup". Though, BIL knows that their relationship has been a mess since the first month - dont know why he sticks with it. She even admitted to sleeping with him just to get the ring, then cut him off once she got it

I left a few messages back to her on facebook, telling her that Katina lives there because she needs to be by herself. She told me "Well, Carolina isn't Nero!" That's not the point. I was so happy to see how exuberant Katina was once she was living by herself again! It's broken my heart to see how scared she was with the dog around, and Rob & I were so excited that she'd be able to go back to being Miss Queen of the Roost again and be alone in her home with the in-laws.

Rob called my MIL and told her we'd be coming over to talk with her tonight, and so far she's confused about the whole situation. She said when she left for work the tree was in the living room again for Katina because the dog was gone (he knocked it over in the living room a couple times). MIL had no idea that FSIL asked BIL to move it to their room after they left for work and use it for her cat. Rob wants me to let him handle it because he knows I'll go storming in there with my truck backed up to the door, tongue ready to say the words I've wanted to say for so long