Was this the right thing to do?

I have made one real friend at work, Gloria,and we are very tight. She was seeing another driver named Nick, who I am friendly with as well. He has been going through a lot of health and family issues, and said he just did not have the time or energy for a relationship right now, but did not know how to tell Gloria, who incidentally, saved his life when he recently had a heart attack. I can understand that, but was not about to get involved with them breaking up. Enter Rose, a trashy, nasty, woman that also works with us, just looking for someone to take care of her kids. Apparently she and Nick have been carrying on behind Gloria's back, and she felt the need to tell me about it. I REALLY did not want to know, and I was not going to be the one to break it to Gloria, which I am sure was the purpose of telling me. It played on my mind for several days, then I decided on an ultimatum. I called Rose and told her she had until noon Friday to tell Gloria, who is supposed to be her longtime friend. Then I was going to tell her. Rose was terrified at the thought, and said she would break it off and there would be nothing to tell. Not good enough, there had already been something, and I was not going to be the one that knew about it and did nothing.
Rose called Nick in Florida where his aunt is dying, and told him that I had been running my mouth and he needed to do some damage control. Nick and Gloria have talked, but she is at work and was not able to give me any details about the conversation.
I am not going to discuss this with anyone at work but Gloria. She is my friend, and the thing she hates most is people that keep secrets about things that affect other people's lives.
Sometimes I mean well, and it blows up in my face. I would really like some opinions and input and I know y'all will be honest with me. You don't even have to be tactful.

Hi, what an awful situation, I agree Gloria needs to know, I would rather lose two bad friends by telling Gloria than lose a good friend by keeping it from her as the truth always comes out in the end. xx

Originally Posted by Ruthyb

Hi, what an awful situation, I agree Gloria needs to know, I would rather lose two bad friends by telling Gloria than lose a good friend by keeping it from her as the truth always comes out in the end. xx

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i agree id rather loose 2 friends that are doing the "dirty" than one good friend that you can talk to

I don't like to get involved in peoples personal issues. Especially at work. I have learned over the years it's best not to get involved. That is just my opinion and it works for me...

Originally Posted by Ruthyb

Hi, what an awful situation, I agree Gloria needs to know, I would rather lose two bad friends by telling Gloria than lose a good friend by keeping it from her as the truth always comes out in the end. xx

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I think you did a brave thing by forcing Rose's hand in this matter. Gloria deserves to know, and sounds like she would rather honestly know than go on in a false relationship.
Most people would be content to not tell, because let's face it, it always seems to end up biting the messenger somehow in these situations.
I hope this messy situation gets resolved quickly!! It's not going to be fun for anyone until it does.

My advice is to stay out of it!

The situation doesn't involve you, despite what you know.

Given that you know Gloria hates it when people keep secrets that affect other people's lives, and she is a real friend and someone you care about and respect, then I think you did the most tactful thing possible. It's not something you can stay out of no matter how much you don't want to be involved - Rose involved you. But it's Nick or Rose's place to say something - it's not your place to hurt your friend. Be there to support her - and if Nick or Rose don't deal with it, then you really don't have a choice but to let her know. Hopefully they'll at least be responsible about that, and you can be there as a friend for Gloria.