am I wrong for this?

Hi

I'm in Denver right now. My stepmom has training and a test for her job on Monday and Tuesday. My sister lives here, so we arrived her last night about 5ish. This is the first time my step mom has ever had a meal prepaired by my sis at her own house!! (My sis is 26). We are going to go and do some fun stuff today I'm very happy and excited.

BUT... I miss my hubby After 10 years of marraige, I still miss him horribly when we are seperated for any length of time. We were apart for 4 months last year (a year ago) when he was in Louisiana, and I came home to Wyoming.

I was laying here thinking of Shade. Thinking of how much I want to hold her. I want to scratch her, I want to spank her (She loves being spanked). I just miss her. Its easier to handle missing my hubby, I can call or TxT him. I can leave msgs on his facebook or myspace. Shadey... I am really attatched to my kitty. We paid $100 to move her to Louisiana, and even though I was miserable durring the evacuation durring Gustav a year and a half ago, I wouldn't leave because I would have had to leave her there in that situation. I feel like i almost love her more then I do my hubby. I know that isn't the case, but I feel wrong for doting on Shade more then my hubby. I feel wrong because I worry for her well being when I am not home, and I don't worry about my hubby so much. My hubby's even made the comment, you love that cat more then you do me... He had a smile and sparkly eyes when he said it so I know it was in jest, but it still struk me.

Can a human be TOO attatched to their cat? I think because I can't have kids, and because I got up durring the night and bottle fed her and her 2 siblings that I am much more bonded with her then I would be if we got her after she was weaned. (She was one of 3 abandoned kittens around 3 wks old with no mommie. My lactating kittenless cat took them in but wasn't producing enough milk for all three.)

I just love my kitty. I kept waking up durring the night because she wasn't cuddling with me. She follows me like a puppy around the house, unless I am cleaning, then she chills where ever I am not cleaning.

Dang... why can't I post anything shorter then a novel?

Thank You, everyone be safe

Thinking of my girl, hoping she is okay all alone. She's used to me being there durring the day.

It's not too unusual to have a very strong bond to a pet, especially for women. We understand that the pet is entirely dependent on us. Your husband can get along without you, but you're used to supplying the pets every need, and when that activity ends, it causes a mental upset.

You'll get over it, but you it will always be at the back of your mind.

Oh sweetie, we obsess like nuts about our cats when we're not here with them. It's gotten worse since we've worked primarily from home for a few years... but even when we're in NYC for meetings for the day Gary asks me about 100 times if I think the kitties are OK. I doubt we're ever traveling again - he'd probably go insane.

I have no idea if there's a clinically "too attached" to your pet kind of thing or not - but I agree with Mike on this - it's natural to worry more about her, because your DH can take care of himself. Of course you miss him - but it's easier to deal with, because Shade can't text or pick up the phone, or send an e-mail.

So when do you head home?

Originally Posted by mrblanche

It's not too unusual to have a very strong bond to a pet, especially for women. We understand that the pet is entirely dependent on us. Your husband can get along without you, but you're used to supplying the pets every need, and when that activity ends, it causes a mental upset.

You'll get over it, but you it will always be at the back of your mind.

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I agree...we really can't help it

of course you worry about your cat and miss her "more" than your husband. He is able to take care of himself, and he knows where you are and when you'll be back,

Shadey doesn't know where you are or when you'll be back and you know she will miss you. Your feelings are pervfeclty normal

Even when I am doing my funnest thing, that I love more than anything (but the cats), which is climbing a mountain with my sister, in the back of my mind (and often in the front!) is always the thought I can't wait to go home and play with my cats.

I haven't been away from home overnight in 8 years. It doesn't bother me in the least!

No way hun, Ia m just the same, when I had my daughter and stayed in hospital overnight I made my mum come and feed the cats even though my hubby would be coming home as I knew she would look after them properely as she has 5 cats and my hubby isn't the greates cat lover Gosh I was only gone one night. I phoned her when I was in advanced labour and just fte giving birth to make sure my furbabies were ok. x

Thank you.

I'm heading back Wed. We should be back late, about 10ish...

A whole nother day without my babygirl... Her soft manxie fur, her putting her paw on my face and staring at me. Her cuddling close to me, and putting her arm over my neck...

Yeah, I wish I could get her a phone so I could call her to check up on her sometimes. Especially when we first moved. I knew she would dig being the only cat, but I didn't know how she would take being completely alone.

I called to ask if he'd remembered her 'other day food' (she is supposed to get a can of food every other day, but we split it up over 2 days cuz she will make herself sick eating more then she needs.) Asked him if he checked her water. Asked him if her box was scooped... all taken care of (except the box). He says she misses me, and he can tell, but he can't tell me how he can tell, cuz he said he can't really explain it. lol made me feel bad.

I am having a lot of fun though. Ate at a Hard Rock Cafe, wich I have been wanting to do since I was a young teenager. Saw a lot of stuff... Hendrix's guitar and shirt, Lennon's jacket... Dave Mustain's guitar... OMG So many cool things

Thank you guys, I feel better. Well in a way. The thought of her missing me, kinda makes me a little sad. I don't like her to want for anything at all. It broke me up when Hubby was in Louisiana because she missed him so bad, I could feel it. I wanted to put him on speaker phone so she could hear him, but I figured it would confuse her, and make her look for him, and maybe make her miss him more, so I didn't. I don't like anyone sad, or hurting around me, especially the people(animals) I care about.

Thank you so much again

Be safe.

Don´t give up TÃ:censor:a,... Is complete natural that you miss to who really you love... Enjoy at the maximum the present time and I´m so sure you´ll be re-loaded when can pet and hug to who really love!...

your friend, rigz!...

I miss my kitties whenever I'm away too. I have yet to be away from my husband for any length of time since we moved in together in 2005, I know I'd go just as crazy being away from him! Whenever we are on vacation, the only thing I miss from SC is my 3 babies. My MIL comes over 2-3x a day when we're gone to feed them and play with them, but I miss them because they arent cuddling with me and purring in my ear. Its completely understandable!

People I work with even understand - after Monte died, a girl at work told me "I cant imagine how you must feel, because I know to you its like losing a child" because my cats ARE my kids.

It feels really good when people really honestly understand where you are coming from.

I'm home now, got home about 2am Thursday morning. When we got home, hubby unlocked the door. I knew she was on the back of the couch, so I opened the door with my head low enough and kissed her as soon as I poked my head in the door. She smelled me, then ran off and went down stairs. LOL she was mad at me Once I spanked her she loved me again

It's so nice to be home. She was being pretty strange while I was gone. She kept trying to get outside, that isn't like her. She must have wanted to find me and bring me back home. She wouldn't eat her soft food. She ate her dry food fine. He did everything I do for her, and then some and she still bugged him. She's been my normal girl since I've been home. This time bugged her more with me being gone then it usually does, she must not be fully settled in this place yet.

The trip was great. Spent lots of time with my sister. Got to know her fiance better.

Thank you for your kind words, and understanding. That makes it so much easier.

Be safe

I know people that would call home and leave a voice message on the answering machine talking to their cats/dogs.

BUT please be sure that your hubby is #1 in your life and the cat is second. If not, then you can have a lot of problems. I love my pets too - very much, but hubby is and will be #1 in my life here on earth

Of course, God really is #1 overall

Originally Posted by MyRage

Can a human be TOO attatched to their cat? I think because I can't have kids, and because I got up durring the night and bottle fed her and her 2 siblings that I am much more bonded with her then I would be if we got her after she was weaned. (She was one of 3 abandoned kittens around 3 wks old with no mommie. My lactating kittenless cat took them in but wasn't producing enough milk for all three.)

I just love my kitty. I kept waking up durring the night because she wasn't cuddling with me. She follows me like a puppy around the house, unless I am cleaning, then she chills where ever I am not cleaning.

Dang... why can't I post anything shorter then a novel?

Thank You, everyone be safe

Thinking of my girl, hoping she is okay all alone. She's used to me being there durring the day.

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You can never be too attached to a cat. I start to miss mine before I leave

Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45

I know people that would call home and leave a voice message on the answering machine talking to their cats/dogs.

BUT please be sure that your hubby is #1 in your life and the cat is second. If not, then you can have a lot of problems. I love my pets too - very much, but hubby is and will be #1 in my life here on earth

Of course, God really is #1 overall

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I never thought of that. That's a really cute idea. I don't like to talk on speaker to her while I am gone, I don't want her to go looking for me. We don't have a house phone.

He picked me up at my parents house so she could go right to bed when we got into town. So he and I enjoyed each others company before I got home. He know's he's #1... after 10 years of marraige, I hope he does!

Be safe.