For those who may not remember, I euthanized my beloved Fuzzy about two months ago. He had developed sudden heart and kidney failure and I only had about 3 days to process what was going on. I feel that I made the right decision in euthanizing him and I'm at peace with that decision.
My problem is that I am not at peace with all of things that happened between his annual exam in June until his death in November. For the first few weeks after his death I was obsessed with researching his illnesses and the results of his blood work and ultrasound. Then the holidays came and I was so busy that I didn't have time to think about what happened. But now that the holidays are over I've started thinking about it again, I can't help it.
It's been my opinion since two days before he died that the two primary vets screwed up with his care over the years. Part of this was pretty much confirmed by something the internal medicine vet said to me. I went back through my own records that I've kept since June and everything points to a series of screwups with the two primary vets, particularly with Dr. C (the one I really like). I collected all of Fuzzy's medical records I could get my hands on and with tons of research, it does look like Dr. C messed up. There were two to three things he did that I believe caused the heart and kidney failure. The thing that I believe caused the kidney failure was something I never agreed with. He assured me it would be ok and I trusted him even though I had serious doubts. As it turns out, what I thought would happen (the formation of additional urinary stones and kidney failure), did happen.
Somehow I am only mildy angered at Dr. C. If it had been any of the other vets there that did this, I would be so mad that I would make it a point to ruin them. I'd file charges with the state veterinary board and make a website explaining how horrible a vet they are. Yet, I can't do that to Dr. C. I don't know why. I think it's because I know he's a good person. He's one of those people that are so good hearted that you're lucky to find someone like that in your lifetime.
I'm not really 100% sure Dr. C screwed up and it's hard getting answers anywhere. I'm not even 100% sure what actually caused the heart and kidney failure. I feel like I will never be at peace until I get answers. Of course, since a necropsy was never done we will never be 100% sure as to what really happened. I would like to ask Dr. C about these things, but I'm not sure I should. I feel like he and the rest of the staff would think I'm an obsessive, crazy cat owner. I'm sure most people would not bother asking.
What's worse is that even though I now believe Dr. C is not a good vet, I just can't stop going to him. I don't want to take my cats to someone else. My feelings are that even though he might not be very knowledgeable, at least I can trust that he would never intentionally hurt my cats. He's willing to go the extra mile for me and my cats which is something no other vet has been willing to do. He also doesn't do this for everyone, apparently I'm one of the lucky few. He is also the only vet I've found who will gladly take the time to answer my questions and concerns. He genuinely cares and that's something I have never really found in any other vet. Heck, that's a quality that's hard to find in any person. I figure that as long as I stay educated about my cats' illnesses, I can make sure that he doesn't screwup again.
I've certainly had other cats that have died over the years. In some of those cases, the vets (at a different clinic) screwed up but I felt like it was meant to be even though it angered me. But this time, I feel that it wasn't meant to be. I don't believe it was Fuzzy's time to go. With the other cats that died, there were always signs (like omens) indicating that their death was meant to be. I always had an overall feeling that their deaths were meant to be. But that's just not the case with Fuzzy. Something feels very off, and I don't consider myself a religious or spiritual person.
I've dealt with the fact that Fuzzy is gone and isn't coming back. It's upsetting but I'm mostly at peace with it. I'm certainly at peace with my decision to euthanize him. I just can't stop thinking about everything else that happened, it constantly bothers me. It shouldn't have happened. I know he would've developed CRF at some point, but it shouldn't have happened for a long time. Does anyone have any advice as to what I should do? Has anyone ever been in a similar situation or felt like this? This is definitely a first for me.
My problem is that I am not at peace with all of things that happened between his annual exam in June until his death in November. For the first few weeks after his death I was obsessed with researching his illnesses and the results of his blood work and ultrasound. Then the holidays came and I was so busy that I didn't have time to think about what happened. But now that the holidays are over I've started thinking about it again, I can't help it.
It's been my opinion since two days before he died that the two primary vets screwed up with his care over the years. Part of this was pretty much confirmed by something the internal medicine vet said to me. I went back through my own records that I've kept since June and everything points to a series of screwups with the two primary vets, particularly with Dr. C (the one I really like). I collected all of Fuzzy's medical records I could get my hands on and with tons of research, it does look like Dr. C messed up. There were two to three things he did that I believe caused the heart and kidney failure. The thing that I believe caused the kidney failure was something I never agreed with. He assured me it would be ok and I trusted him even though I had serious doubts. As it turns out, what I thought would happen (the formation of additional urinary stones and kidney failure), did happen.
Somehow I am only mildy angered at Dr. C. If it had been any of the other vets there that did this, I would be so mad that I would make it a point to ruin them. I'd file charges with the state veterinary board and make a website explaining how horrible a vet they are. Yet, I can't do that to Dr. C. I don't know why. I think it's because I know he's a good person. He's one of those people that are so good hearted that you're lucky to find someone like that in your lifetime.
I'm not really 100% sure Dr. C screwed up and it's hard getting answers anywhere. I'm not even 100% sure what actually caused the heart and kidney failure. I feel like I will never be at peace until I get answers. Of course, since a necropsy was never done we will never be 100% sure as to what really happened. I would like to ask Dr. C about these things, but I'm not sure I should. I feel like he and the rest of the staff would think I'm an obsessive, crazy cat owner. I'm sure most people would not bother asking.
What's worse is that even though I now believe Dr. C is not a good vet, I just can't stop going to him. I don't want to take my cats to someone else. My feelings are that even though he might not be very knowledgeable, at least I can trust that he would never intentionally hurt my cats. He's willing to go the extra mile for me and my cats which is something no other vet has been willing to do. He also doesn't do this for everyone, apparently I'm one of the lucky few. He is also the only vet I've found who will gladly take the time to answer my questions and concerns. He genuinely cares and that's something I have never really found in any other vet. Heck, that's a quality that's hard to find in any person. I figure that as long as I stay educated about my cats' illnesses, I can make sure that he doesn't screwup again.
I've certainly had other cats that have died over the years. In some of those cases, the vets (at a different clinic) screwed up but I felt like it was meant to be even though it angered me. But this time, I feel that it wasn't meant to be. I don't believe it was Fuzzy's time to go. With the other cats that died, there were always signs (like omens) indicating that their death was meant to be. I always had an overall feeling that their deaths were meant to be. But that's just not the case with Fuzzy. Something feels very off, and I don't consider myself a religious or spiritual person.
I've dealt with the fact that Fuzzy is gone and isn't coming back. It's upsetting but I'm mostly at peace with it. I'm certainly at peace with my decision to euthanize him. I just can't stop thinking about everything else that happened, it constantly bothers me. It shouldn't have happened. I know he would've developed CRF at some point, but it shouldn't have happened for a long time. Does anyone have any advice as to what I should do? Has anyone ever been in a similar situation or felt like this? This is definitely a first for me.