If I'm wrong at all, please tell me. Sometimes it's hard to know what's wrong and right when you're as aggravated as I am.
I have cat sitted (sat?) for my grandparents numerous times over 10+ years. The majority of the times, especially in the past 10 years, I have been the only one involved in caring for the cats. This year was totally different. My grandparents have a young lady (Jessica) in her early 20's living with them who would be involved in caring for the cats and my cousin's wife was supposed to help out too, especially when I went to visit family on Christmas day.
The first thing that ticked me off was that my cousin's wife told me she was going to come over in the late mornings to give the cat his morning pill and feed the wild animals. But on the second day, it was obvious she hadn't been there and wasn't going to be going over there. So I started going over in the late mornings to do these chores. I obviously also had other chores as well like feeding and watering the cats and emptying the litterboxes. I also had special chores like wrapping all the presents grandma was giving to people. That took me a total of 4-6 hours because there were a lot. I also had to setup and install software on grandma's computer when it came back from being reformatted at the repair place. And I took one of the cat's to the vet for a checkup and vaccinations.
The other thing that bothered me is that Jessica started slacking off the last four days or so. When I would go over there, the litter boxes were full, the water bowls were either yucky or empty, and the dry food bowls were low on food. Also, the sick cat didn't get two of the pills Jessica was supposed to give him (I made sure to count all the pills because I knew this would happen).
Additionally, my grandparents changed their flightplans at the last minute and decided not to come home on the day they had told everyone. They didn't bother to tell me. Instead, Jessica told me the morning that they were originally supposed to come home. I told her to let me know when they would be coming home for sure. So I go over there today and they're home. I was mad and since they were so tired I went back home. I was mad that no one had bothered to tell me when they were coming home. I was mad because I wasted my time, money, and gas going over there. And I was ultimately mad because everyone involved has ruined my entire Christmas holiday. I have been so busy with going over there that I never got to enjoy the holidays, especially when they decided to come home two days later then originally planned (and I wasted an extra day going over there because no one told me they had come home). They've gone away during Christmas before, but I never had these problems because I was the only one involved. I was the one in charge and did things in a way that convenienced me while still being able to properly care for the cats. This time, the cats really got shortchanged with proper care.
I knew that my cousin's wife and Jessica were both unreliable, untrustworthy, incompentent, a-holes, but they've really proven that to me now. They didn't do the things they said they would for what I'm sure is selfishness and not wanting to be bothered with extra responsibilities. Me and the cats are the ones that ultimately suffered for their irresponsibility. I'm the only person that did what they were supposed to do and because of that, I had a rotten holiday. If no one else had been involved things would have been significantly better for me and the cats. This is the first time that I have ever had a problem cat sitting for my grandparents. I can only conclude it's because of my cousin's wife and Jessica.
Am I at all right to be upset/angry? When grandma asks me how things went, do I tell her how upset I am and about Jessica and my cousin's wife being irresponsible? Or do I just lie and say everything went ok?
I have cat sitted (sat?) for my grandparents numerous times over 10+ years. The majority of the times, especially in the past 10 years, I have been the only one involved in caring for the cats. This year was totally different. My grandparents have a young lady (Jessica) in her early 20's living with them who would be involved in caring for the cats and my cousin's wife was supposed to help out too, especially when I went to visit family on Christmas day.
The first thing that ticked me off was that my cousin's wife told me she was going to come over in the late mornings to give the cat his morning pill and feed the wild animals. But on the second day, it was obvious she hadn't been there and wasn't going to be going over there. So I started going over in the late mornings to do these chores. I obviously also had other chores as well like feeding and watering the cats and emptying the litterboxes. I also had special chores like wrapping all the presents grandma was giving to people. That took me a total of 4-6 hours because there were a lot. I also had to setup and install software on grandma's computer when it came back from being reformatted at the repair place. And I took one of the cat's to the vet for a checkup and vaccinations.
The other thing that bothered me is that Jessica started slacking off the last four days or so. When I would go over there, the litter boxes were full, the water bowls were either yucky or empty, and the dry food bowls were low on food. Also, the sick cat didn't get two of the pills Jessica was supposed to give him (I made sure to count all the pills because I knew this would happen).
Additionally, my grandparents changed their flightplans at the last minute and decided not to come home on the day they had told everyone. They didn't bother to tell me. Instead, Jessica told me the morning that they were originally supposed to come home. I told her to let me know when they would be coming home for sure. So I go over there today and they're home. I was mad and since they were so tired I went back home. I was mad that no one had bothered to tell me when they were coming home. I was mad because I wasted my time, money, and gas going over there. And I was ultimately mad because everyone involved has ruined my entire Christmas holiday. I have been so busy with going over there that I never got to enjoy the holidays, especially when they decided to come home two days later then originally planned (and I wasted an extra day going over there because no one told me they had come home). They've gone away during Christmas before, but I never had these problems because I was the only one involved. I was the one in charge and did things in a way that convenienced me while still being able to properly care for the cats. This time, the cats really got shortchanged with proper care.
I knew that my cousin's wife and Jessica were both unreliable, untrustworthy, incompentent, a-holes, but they've really proven that to me now. They didn't do the things they said they would for what I'm sure is selfishness and not wanting to be bothered with extra responsibilities. Me and the cats are the ones that ultimately suffered for their irresponsibility. I'm the only person that did what they were supposed to do and because of that, I had a rotten holiday. If no one else had been involved things would have been significantly better for me and the cats. This is the first time that I have ever had a problem cat sitting for my grandparents. I can only conclude it's because of my cousin's wife and Jessica.
Am I at all right to be upset/angry? When grandma asks me how things went, do I tell her how upset I am and about Jessica and my cousin's wife being irresponsible? Or do I just lie and say everything went ok?
