Sad New Years Eve Thread

[trillcat]

I read through the "Sad Christmas" thread and thought it was just wonderful for people here to get togethor.
For me the worst day to be alone is New Years Eve. You may just as well have a big "L" on your forehead. I was alone last year, out in the middle of the woods, and am going to be again this year. I have not made any friends that I can hang out with here since I moved
It is not even my New Year, that is the Solstice, but it still sucks to be alone on New Years's Eve.
So anyone facing this day with dread, like me, I will be around to chat, I have no where else to go.

 

[ut0pia]

I used to feel the same way now I just don't care anymore. I enjoy being alone

But seriously for the longest time I felt like the biggest loser because i don't like to party a lot, all of my friends find places to go and people to hang out with but I just dont like going out for the sake of partying, when I hang out with people it is usually with another purpose- like playing multiplayer videogames, going skiing or being in engaged in something somehow- it is never just to party or just to hang out, I always see people with some kind of purpose. I don't understand the purpose of going out with people for the sole purpose of socializing, I get bored that way which is why I never go to parties and on New Years eve it really sucks because that is ALL people do and then they like to brag which I also find annoying, at least my friends- they brag about how they were so wasted and how they couldn't even walk because they partied too much

. I absolutely hate that. But instead of feeling odd because I don't party, now I feel like they are the odd ones

It makes me feel better...

 

[farleyv]

Hey, I wouldn't feel odd. I find more people stay home than go out to party. The population is getting older.

Like you, my husband and I and even our married kids don't do a heck of a lot on NYE. Maybe out to an early dinner. In our case, I usually cook a nice dinner and we are in bed by 9. Another year, big deal.

So cheer up! I think we are in the majority!

 

[krazy kat2]

I will be working, driving people around that are out having a good time.

 

[jupeycat]

I don't celebrate New Year - too many bad memories. This year my other half is on nights so I will actually be awake and talking to him on MSN, in previous years we've just gone to bed. I've never been one for going out so I don't feel like I'm missing anything - I'd much rather stay is with the cats and the dog!

 

[mrblanche]

I'm not one for partying, but I don't mind having a get-together. Good friends, good food, fireplace going (OK, it's a gas log, but it looks pretty good), music on the stereo...

What do you think would be a good New Year's Eve dinner? My sister-in-law has fondue and raclette every year; that sounds like a good choice to me!

 

[trouts mom]

I never minded being alone for New Years..to me it is just a reason to get drunk and since I don't really drink...it is no big deal to me.

 

[zoeysmom]

Originally Posted by ut0pia

I used to feel the same way now I just don't care anymore. I enjoy being alone

But seriously for the longest time I felt like the biggest loser because i don't like to party a lot, all of my friends find places to go and people to hang out with but I just dont like going out for the sake of partying, when I hang out with people it is usually with another purpose- like playing multiplayer videogames, going skiing or being in engaged in something somehow- it is never just to party or just to hang out, I always see people with some kind of purpose. I don't understand the purpose of going out with people for the sole purpose of socializing, I get bored that way which is why I never go to parties and on New Years eve it really sucks because that is ALL people do and then they like to brag which I also find annoying, at least my friends- they brag about how they were so wasted and how they couldn't even walk because they partied too much

. I absolutely hate that. But instead of feeling odd because I don't party, now I feel like they are the odd ones

It makes me feel better...

That's pretty much how I feel about partying. Thank you for summing it up for me, because I've never been able to put it into words. Give me something to do - play cards, bowling, a game of some sort, and I enjoy myself...but ask me to stand around socializing and I end up hanging around in a corner watching other people. We have staff parties at our school and it's always just sitting around talking. I'm not going to the next one unless we're DOING something!

As for new year's, I have some pretty bad memories of it and now pretty much like to ignore its existence. My boyfriend does try to come home from work at a decent time so that we can have dinner and rent a movie or something, but I don't partake in any new year's festivities. I don't drink and I don't otherwise see the point in celebrating the beginning of a new month (that's what it is to me...as I think on a school-year schedule, my year starts in September and ends in June). We do a new year's day dinner...which isn't really anything to do with new year's, but just a tradition we got into when my grandma was living because we never got to do the big Christmas dinner with her. We've carried it on because we don't always get to do Christmas dinner as a family (ie. this year I didn't see my brother or his family at all on Christmas day because they had dinner with my sister in law's family).

It used to really bother me that I didn't do anything on new years....but as I get older I find it really odd that there are still people my age who think going out and getting drunk is still a good way to spend time! I guess I'm just old!

 

[vampcow]

New Year's Eve isnt that big of a deal. Since DH works nights and will be working NYE I am on my own. Which is fine as I will just do what I normally do and have been doing since before we even met. I'm going to have an early dinner at the Chinese restruant with some friends from the dojo and then back to the sensei's house for board games and dessert until the ball drops. Low key and no drinking since I'm not a hug fan of being drunk.

 

[rubsluts'mommy]

I don't mind it anymore... I used to want to party, but when Iwas 18 and was going to my first NY party, my grandfather passed away that morning, before the party. I was. needless to say, in a very melancholy mood. I sat in a chair the whole night...

Since then, it's a 'bleh' thing... One year I had a disastrous 'party' with a few friends, and left before midnight. Right at midnight, I was parked at a lookout over the Bay Area, and I opened my Bible and did one of those 'blind flip and point... and found a perfect passage for how I was feeling. I started looking at NY's differently.

Now that I'm living on my own, I make it an evening of listening to jazz or big band music, maybe a little champagne, and snuggling up with the cats....

 

[jamasmom]

I will be spendin NYE alone as I have done for the past 7 years since I have moved here, no big deal to me. All of my friends are in bed by midnight so I just set my alarm clock for 11:59 watch the ball drop and go back to sleep. I don't feel like a loser I did all my NYE partying years ago.

 

[calico2222]

New Year's is a joke. The only thing you do is change your calander and train yourself to right the new year number on your checks (if you even still use checks). Nothing changes....you wake up Jan 1st and it's the same sh*t, different year. Bills are still there, problems are still there, nothing has magically been changed.

I love people who try to do New Year's resolutions. Why do you have to make a change (diet, save money, be healthy) on Jan 1st? Why not make that decison Aug 27th when you realized you were gaining weight, or had no money in the bank, or were unhealthy.

I admit, when I was younger it was a good excuse to get dressed up and party. And spending it with friends is a good thing. But, I much prefer the Solstice idea (from what I understand of it).

 

[misty8723]

I used to feel that way when I was younger. Then one year I finally had a boyfriend, we went out, midnight came and I kind of felt like - that's it? What's the big deal. I'm now married to that guy and we will be in bed, probably alseep, when midnight hits this year.

 

[amberthe bobcat]

I wouldn't be so sad because you are alone on New Years eve. You still have your cat(s) to keep you company

And I would not feel like a loser. I go out on New Years eve but it is, for the most part, no different than any other night I get to go out. When midnight hits everyone is all happy, but then it's like, now what??

The reason I enjoy it is, that I end up working on Christmas most of the time. So this is my time to have some holiday celebration. But if I had to be home, I would be comfortable and happy with my cats, big and small, sitting by my side purring.

 

[jcat]

new years eve = fireworks = upset pets = we dont make any plans

 

[amberthe bobcat]

Originally Posted by jcat

new years eve = fireworks = upset pets = we dont make any plans

Or crazy people shooting guns into the air

 

[trillcat]

Everyone has made me feel better about being alone. Thank you all.
I guess one positive point about it is that while everyone else wakes up on New Years morning (or afternoon) feeling like their eyes are bleeding and their tounge has been replaced by a large stinky sock, I feel just fine!

 

[rosiemac]

There used to be so much hype about new years eve, but i've found now that a lot of people just stay at home and have a quiet time, me being one of them. Last year i had my first new year at home and i loved it!, and if i have my way again i'll be doing the same this year.

 

[nekomania]

Originally Posted by calico2222

New Year's is a joke. The only thing you do is change your calander and train yourself to right the new year number on your checks (if you even still use checks). Nothing changes....you wake up Jan 1st and it's the same sh*t, different year. Bills are still there, problems are still there, nothing has magically been changed.

I love people who try to do New Year's resolutions. Why do you have to make a change (diet, save money, be healthy) on Jan 1st? Why not make that decison Aug 27th when you realized you were gaining weight, or had no money in the bank, or were unhealthy.

I admit, when I was younger it was a good excuse to get dressed up and party. And spending it with friends is a good thing. But, I much prefer the Solstice idea (from what I understand of it).

AMEN!

This post deserves recognition.

I haven't ever "celebrated" new years in all of my life that I can remember.

Sure I watched the ball drop, maybe had a glass of wine but that was it. No partying, no friends, no big dinner...

The New Year Resolution thing is just a fad, another promise for people to make to themselves and not follow. I don't know how many people I've heard resolve to lose weight and actually end up GAINING it.

The new year itself isn't about making a change in your life, you should strive to make a better change in your life every day.


That being said...

Last year I fell asleep before the ball could drop.

This year, as it seems my schedule happens to be flipped for this week, I might actually watch it. Since my friend asked me what I was doing this thursday (before she even knew it was NYE) I guess she might be comming over to hang out, where we will probably all just watch movies and forget that it is even NYE.

I do however have one superstitious feeling about the new year, so I try to be doing something that makes me happy when the clock ticks over, just so I can maybe pretend that that year has the potential to be happier than the last.

 

[clixpix]

That night only has as much meaning as you give it yourself. I'm off, but it has not even occurred to me to find something to do.

I'm working twelve hours on new years day. Now that day has meaning for me...it's called "time and a half"