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Adopted new cat; feeling guilty about keeping her isolated :(

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I adopted a new cat yesterday from the local Humane Society. She's a sweet little dear; took to me very quickly. Very affectionate, cuddly, playful, purrs up a storm, a dream cat. I've had her in my spare bedroom for over 24 hrs now. It's all set up in there; new litterbox, plenty of food and fresh water, lots of safe cat toys, scratching post (she's using it lots!), window sill to sit and look out on, cozy cat beds, a nice couch to snuggle up on.

I have 4 other cats. One of them is almost 2 yrs old. I got this new one mostly as a buddy for him; he's young and rangy and loves to play and run (they're all strictly indoor cats). He's very sociable with my other cats; they all took to each other within 24 hrs. His name is Hobee.

I've never had any trouble introducing a new cat to the crew, not in all these past 17 yrs. I guess I've always been pretty lucky?

I put the new girl, named her Bitsy (she's very tiny, about 1-2 yrs old), in her carrier last night and let everyone sniff around. No hissing. Today I locked up my crew in the basement and let her roam the house to check things out; I've felt so bad leaving her locked in the bedroom; everytime I go in there she's sitting there looking at me, wanting to play.

After a few hours of letting her roam the house, I locked her back up and let me other cats up from the basement.

I decided to let her out of her room and see how things would go. Well Hobee walked past the open door and she made a bee-line for him.....I've never seen a cat run so fast, she chased him down the stairs at lightening speed and I quickly followed...............she followed him through the house and I found her standing about 8 inches away from him, growling and hissing and fur standing up. He's a sweet boy and I don't think he knew what to do. The last thing I need is a torn cornea so I scooped her up and took her back up to her bedroom...where she remains.

I go back to work tomorrow. I feel so awful leaving her locked up all day. Please reassure me that it's okay to do this, and it's a necessity :-)

I'm saddened because she was/is supposed to be play-pal for Hobee and she seems to detest him. He's twice her size and he could really hang a lickin' on her if she truly provoked him, I'm sure.

I don't want to traumatize my older cats. I know I have to do this right or I there could be a lasting impact between them all.

I did take a towel and I rubbed all of my 4 cats with it, then took it into her room and rubbed it on her, left it in there for her.

I just don't know how I'm going to do this. the though of locking her up all week breaks my heart.

It's one thing for newly introduced cats to hiss and growl but she seems to want to get up there in their faces and that's what concerns me. All of my cats are twice her size (she's just over 6 lbs). She could really have her clock cleaned if she doesn't watch it (and my other cats are very nice cats).

Any suggestions?

Should I put her in her carrier and leave it sitting down here in the living room while I'm present, just so they can all continue to sniff each other from the safety of the carrier?

Thanks
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[quote=the_food_lady;2785717I go back to work tomorrow. I feel so awful leaving her locked up all day. Please reassure me that it's okay to do this, and it's a necessity :-)[/QUOTE]

I had to do this with Kasey, when I brought her home.

I rescued her when she was 8 years old. She is a torti and while all torties don't have "tortitude", she DOES. I think this was developed in a harsh environment where she had to "get tough or die".

She is a very affectionate cat with people but introduction was a challenge.

I felt very bad about locking her up after the type of life she had. However, it did yield results, she and Taz are around my feet as I type this.

It took a while and did make me feel bad isolating her but it was short term pain, for long term gain.
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She'll be fine confined while you're at work. It would be dangerous for her and your other cats if you left her out with the others, and you wouldn't want that. Then when you get home from work and things are settled for the evening, you can work on the introductions again.
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Originally Posted by stephanietx View Post
She'll be fine confined while you're at work. It would be dangerous for her and your other cats if you left her out with the others, and you wouldn't want that. Then when you get home from work and things are settled for the evening, you can work on the introductions again.
I guess I just feel guilty because at this point I feel like I merely transferred her from one jail cell to another

I've been going into the room frequently throughout the day to play with her; she's so frisky, so sweet. She just wants to give cuddles and play. Last night I slept on the couch in there with her, felt bad for her to be all alone all night in a strange place.

I definitely won't be letting her out until I'm very confident that everyone is fine with each other, I just feel a little discouraged by her reaction to Hobee this afternoon; in my 18 yrs of having cats (all were strays I've adopted), I've never seen this kind of reaction where the newcomer chases after the existing cats so venomously. It makes me fear that it could take weeks (not days) for things to settle and the thought of leaving her locked in the room all day (and all night while I'm asleep) really breaks my heart. It must be so confusing to her. or maybe she's just happy to be out of the noisy, smelly Humane Society?
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I suspect she is probably happy to get some peace and quiet. She has everything she could need for the moment. She will probably benefit from some time alone to work things out, and to realise she is in a safe place. Suddenly meeting other cats will make her think there are still dangers out there for her. Once you have completely won her trust, then think about the intros. But what you can do meanwhile is put some things with their scent on under her food dish. Give her toys that they have used. And then even mix litters or change over the boxes so she gets used to the smell of the others. I am sure it will work out fine eventually.
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I adopted my cat when she was just 5 months old and the shelter advised me to put all her necessities in my bedroom and keep her shut in there while I as away at work. This was for a different reason, because I hadn't completely kitty proofed the house and didn't want her getting hurt while I was gone. I let her out while I was home so I could keep constant watch to make sure wasn't chewing cords, etc. I locked her in the bedroom during the day for a good two weeks, and she got over it. It's best for her and your other cats right now to keep doing what you're doing!

And believe me, having free reign of a whole room is way better than wherever the shelter as keeping her, at least I would guess that's the case.
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