My grand plans are being ruined

Sort of a vent, but I'm not really complaining.

I had made my mind up to stay single, and to enjoy my life and all it offers.
As I alluded to on the daily question thread, those plans are being thwarted.

It all started Sunday with a cat.
Yes, the cat that is my house guest.

My friend's brother, my favorite kid's uncle.

He has been over here every night to visit with his cat, and we've become fast friends.
We talk till the wee hours. I haven't gotten more than a couple hour's sleep a night.
We drink (way too much) and listen to music and tell each other stories of our lives.
He has always been a perfect gentleman and he continuously treats me far better than anyone has ever treated me.
He always goes home before he feels things get carried away, though he has also made his interest known to me.

I've told him of my plans of single life and he tells me he's got all the time in the world, all the while uttering terms of endearment in Spanish.
I think he somehow ended up with all of the charm and charisma that my past boyfriends never had.
He fixed me dinner last night and breakfast this morning.
And he had me take breakfast over to my parents as well (earning brownie points I think).
I do believe my resolve will break, and the next time he asks me to go out with him I probably will.
He treats me so respectfully now, I can't imagine what more he could do on a real date.
*swoon*

Well, all I can say is go with the flow hun, life is too short. Do what you feel is right and enjoy it.xx

OMG

My first thought is "What are you waiting for!!" He sounds great! There aren't many good men left I believe.

I'm not sure what type of relationships you have had in the past, and I am sure there are good reasons why you vowed to stay single, but it is a GOOD thing to have a human companion too, and I've gotta say..he sounds like a really good guy.


Just remember that nobody is perfect and if you decide to date, don't give up hope the first time you discover a quirk.


I'll be cheering for everything to work out!! I love it when I hear about people getting together!

Awwwwwwwwww crap...you're plans ARE being ruined.

You better cease and desist all romantic activities at once!

This is great news for you!

Wow, he brought his lunch over and shared it with me too.
He's respectful, talented (musician, singer/performer and portrait artist), he's an animal lover, esp. cats, he loves to cook and he's good at it, he's a gentleman, he's handsome and he's Cuban and even though I do not understand many words in Spanish, I love to hear him speak it.

We can talk at length about music, cars, movies, beer, food, movies, everything.

Even if nothing ever comes of it, I feel very lucky to have met him and to have him as a friend.
I told him today that I was glad that his kitten needed a place to stay

Grand plans are made to be ruined!

I am happy for you! And thank you for sharing such a nice story, it cheered me up after a bad evening.

Originally Posted by Ruthyb

Well, all I can say is go with the flow hun, life is too short. Do what you feel is right and enjoy it.xx

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Originally Posted by Arlyn

Wow, he brought his lunch over and shared it with me too.
He's respectful, talented (musician, singer/performer and portrait artist), he's an animal lover, esp. cats, he loves to cook and he's good at it, he's a gentleman, he's handsome and he's Cuban and even though I do not understand many words in Spanish, I love to hear him speak it.

We can talk at length about music, cars, movies, beer, food, movies, everything.

Even if nothing ever comes of it, I feel very lucky to have met him and to have him as a friend.
I told him today that I was glad that his kitten needed a place to stay

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He sounds pretty awesome!
I think the best relationships seem to happen when you're not actually looking for one.

Wow! Good luck with it. The best laid plans.... etc

All grand plans need ammending from time to time to accomidate some wonderful things

as ruthyb said go with the flow, and enjoy it

he does sound amazing

Take it slow. And just for fun (not that you are being serious or anything do this):

Write down a list of 10-15 things that IF you were to find the right person what would he have in qualities (do NOT think of anyone in particular). Be specific as to your "ideal".

Then use that list to gage if the person has everything you would want.


Like hubby says - you usually wind up marrying one of the people you date.

What are you waiting for?! Sounds to me as if your grand plans have hit a huge bump in the road (no offense to your fella ). Everyone deserves to be happy, and it sounds as if this guy is, indeed, making you happy.
Good luck.

It gets worse (or better?)

Dinner again last night, we watched a movie here.
Then I had one of those stupid crying jags that came from no where.

He insisted I take a valium and go to bed.
He went home and locked up and came back, held me while I cried until I fell asleep.

I woke up to find him, not in the bed with me, but curled up, on top of it, still dressed and a throw blanket over him.
I've never known a guy in my life that was that much of a gentleman.

That made me smile and feel stupid at the same time.
Cursed perimenopausal hormones.

Originally Posted by Arlyn

It gets worse (or better?)

Dinner again last night, we watched a movie here.
Then I had one of those stupid crying jags that came from no where.

He insisted I take a valium and go to bed.
He went home and locked up and came back, held me while I cried until I fell asleep.

I woke up to find him, not in the bed with me, but curled up, on top of it, still dressed and a throw blanket over him.
I've never known a guy in my life that was that much of a gentleman.

That made me smile and feel stupid at the same time.
Cursed perimenopausal hormones.

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Run, run far away! /sarcasm

Seriously, this 1 sounds great!

Well, I woke him up so he could go do his thing, he had coffee and gave me a hug and peck on the lips, said he'd see me tonight, and then "Te quiero".
I told him I looked forward to seeing him and that I do indeed understand what he said and that he was dangerous to me.
He grinned impishly and went home

I really do dig this guy.

eta:
Apparently the whole family is talented.
His brother (my friend) was a drummer and worked in the music industry and had a small part in their sister's video (the song was a Billboard #1 in 89 I think).
Not saying who for privacy reasons, but will PM info if requested

Every once in a while a woman is lucky enough to meet a guy who makes her look at the whole lot differently. Each bad experiance taught you something, but no matter HOW many times you have been burned, never forget the good ones do still exist.

Take it slow, and savor each moment. Be yourself and speak your mind. One guy told me he had time when i told him i planned to stay single...his ring is now on my finger. Sometimes you meet someone who eases every hurt from the past. You dont have to look for it, just go with the flow. Plans are made as a guideline. You like this guy, enjoy that. Dont plan for it to go one way or another. Just let whats meant to be be. Good luck, and enjoy. He sounds great...and let me just tell you, the spanish would have gotten me too

He may not be ruining your plans. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if, in the long run, he confirms them!

Remember, for some guys, it's the chase, not the catch that is important.

He's not ruining my plans for the time being
He brought over a huge stack of photos last night of his kids.
The look on his face in the pics and in person as he was showing them to me was just beautiful.
He's a very proud dad.
He also showed pics from his early bachelor days.
He was a Las Vegas Rod Stewart impersonator, and a very convincing one.
Including a brief bit and pic (non-nude) in Playgirl when he was 23.

He moved back down here though to start a fresh life and his priorities are getting his life in order and buying a home.
But he told me that I do have his heart and if I could handle being secondary in is life for a time that he would welcome me there.

Then he kissed me (WOW) and said good night.

Arlyn, I hate to tell you - I had not only decided to remain single, I wasn't going to bother dating again. I was in a perfectly happy and fulfilled place with me. Then Gary came along. He is my best friend and my soul mate, and I haven't regretted my "grand plan" being "ruined" for one moment.

Enjoy it and don't worry about where it winds up!

It sounds very promising, I wish you the best of luck whether you just remain friends or become closer. He really sounds wonderful.