Where's their keeper?

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I know I've complained about this before, but this is the limit. But my club, which is for Disabled Adults went out for our "Thanksgiving" supper last night. While we were there, and having a good time, this man sitting a couple of tables away looked at us and said very loudly, "Where's their keeper"? KEEPER??????? What are we, wild animals? One of the reasons for the club is to show our independence. And we behave ourselves, we don't go snatching food from tables, or anything like that. Most of us don't even look Disabled. Are Disabled people really so different from other people?
 

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Originally Posted by CATTYBIRD

I know I've complained about this before, but this is the limit. But my club, which is for Disabled Adults went out for our "Thanksgiving" supper last night. While we were there, and having a good time, this man sitting a couple of tables away looked at us and said very loudly, "Where's their keeper"? KEEPER??????? What are we, wild animals? One of the reasons for the club is to show our independence. And we behave ourselves, we don't go snatching food from tables, or anything like that. Most of us don't even look Disabled. Are Disabled people really so different from other people?
Unfortunately you had the bad experience of running into an ignorant man. I would wager that you folks have far more class than he does so I'd try not to even dwell on his rudeness.
 

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=/ I would have complained and had him removed from the place of business.

I can't believe that people are still so rude and unclassy. Feel the way that you want to feel, but that doesn't mean everyone else in the world feels the same way that you do about disabled people...

I'm sorry you have to endure the ignorance of today's population.
 

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Originally Posted by CATTYBIRD

I Are Disabled people really so different from other people?
Some people can't accept any sort of difference. Maybe it makes them fearful? Who knows. But it's enough to cause some to go make ridiculous laws or spread a bunch of lies.



Someone should have told the guy "where are your manners?" or something more witty.
 

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Originally Posted by AlleyGirl

Sounds to me like HE is the one who needs a keeper.
I'm sorry you had to encounter such an awful person on your evening out
 

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omg, some people are so disrespectful, lets hope when someone says something to him one day he is able to te it. I am so sorry for this mans ignorance and rudeness. x
 

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Unfortunately there are always going to be certain people who discriminate against the disabled, or think just because they are not the ideal, or the norm that they don't deserve the respect every individual no matter what the circumstances is entitled to. It is not just annoying, it's sad really because it just shows how shallow and self-centered some people are.
 

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That was a very rude, disrespectful, and unnecessary comment. I am disabled (hopefully temporary tho), and I don't look like I am. I take offense to comments like that. It isn't anyones fault if they are disabled. Things happen, or some are born that way, and it is not their choice. If I were in that club, I would have blown up on that man! Its ridiculous how ignorant some people can be! Did he think y'all were mentally challenged or something? That you wouldn't understand what he said? I could never imagine saying something so rude to ANYBODY, let alone to people who have no control over being disabled! I don't take sh*t from anyone, especially people who do not know me, so I definitly would not have tolerated a comment like that. If that ever happens again, go up to whoever said it and ask them if they have a problem with people who have disabilities, and make it known that just because you are disable does not mean you are retarded or do not have feelings just like everyone else. I am not justifying what that man said, but people who say/do things like that are insecure with themselves and probably feel the need to say things like that to make themselves feel better about their own insecurities. But, definitly don't let anyone talk to you like that anymore..
 

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Originally Posted by KiTTYL0VE4

just because you are disable does not mean you are retarded or do not have feelings just like everyone else.
I hope you didn't mean this the way it sounds... Just because someone functions differently mentally (I don't like using retarded or mentally challenged because of the negative stigma and way the terms are tossed around - like it was here) doesn't mean they're less of a person and don't have feelings either. Whether the difference is physical or mental, no one deserves to be treated poorly.

Chances are this guy knew he'd be heard and understood. He was just annoyed and rude. People make rude comments all of the time to others in public, people here even think it's ok to do so if they're peace is interrupted in some way.
 

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Originally Posted by strange_wings

I hope you didn't mean this the way it sounds... Just because someone functions differently mentally (I don't like using retarded or mentally challenged because of the negative stigma and way the terms are tossed around - like it was here) doesn't mean they're less of a person and don't have feelings either. Whether the difference is physical or mental, no one deserves to be treated poorly.
I don't think she was suggesting that a mental challenge was an excuse to treat someone poorly. I can see how it might be read that way, but the way I took it, she was wondering if the man was assuming that they would not have the mental capacity to understand what he was saying and therefore expected to get away with it. Not that that would make his remark any more appropriate, only that I think we're all guilty at some point of making a remark when we don't expect to be heard, that we might otherwise keep to ourselves.
 

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That's appalling. I'm sorry you had to encounter this ignorant man.

I hope you all had a good timeout anyway.
 

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Originally Posted by strange_wings

I hope you didn't mean this the way it sounds... Just because someone functions differently mentally (I don't like using retarded or mentally challenged because of the negative stigma and way the terms are tossed around - like it was here) doesn't mean they're less of a person and don't have feelings either. Whether the difference is physical or mental, no one deserves to be treated poorly.

Chances are this guy knew he'd be heard and understood. He was just annoyed and rude. People make rude comments all of the time to others in public, people here even think it's ok to do so if they're peace is interrupted in some way.
I absolutely did NOT mean it the way u took it that's for sure. I live with a mentally challenged girl. I myself am not perfect in the head, I had a severely traumatic brain injury. I meant it like the guy must have thought that they may have been mentally challenged and thought they didn't have feelings like everyone else. NOT meant to offend anyone. I am not like that at all.
 

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Originally Posted by CATTYBIRD

I know I've complained about this before, but this is the limit. But my club, which is for Disabled Adults went out for our "Thanksgiving" supper last night. While we were there, and having a good time, this man sitting a couple of tables away looked at us and said very loudly, "Where's their keeper"? KEEPER??????? What are we, wild animals? One of the reasons for the club is to show our independence. And we behave ourselves, we don't go snatching food from tables, or anything like that. Most of us don't even look Disabled. Are Disabled people really so different from other people?
That was the most ignorant comment anyone could have made! :eek:nfire It shouldn't matter if none or all of you appear disabled, it doesn't even remotely give him the right to make such a mean-spirited comment. There's nothing you or anyone in your company could have done to warrant such an insult as that. You're fine, he's the one who shouldn't be allowed out in public!


I hope he didn't ruin your night.
 

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Originally Posted by KiTTYL0VE4

I absolutely did NOT mean it the way u took it that's for sure. I live with a mentally challenged girl. I myself am not perfect in the head, I had a severely traumatic brain injury. I meant it like the guy must have thought that they may have been mentally challenged and thought they didn't have feelings like everyone else. NOT meant to offend anyone. I am not like that at all.
I'm glad you didn't mean it that way. It just came out bad.
Unfortunately a lot of people will say stuff like that and have no thought for what they're saying - whether they mean it or not, and no matter who may overhear or see what they said.
It'll only get worse as that type of language is prevalent in teens and those in their 20s and they're the ones raising the next generation..


As for everyone making comments like this about people sometimes. Maybe a lot of people do, but I never have and never will - I've been on the receiving end of them since childhood. It has a way of teaching a person manners.

Some day the guy in the story will be, too. Maybe he'll realize what he done then, maybe not.
 

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OK, I'll admit it, I have a fast mouth that gets me in trouble sometime.

I would have turned to him and said, "Haven't you read Genesis? YOU are our keeper!"
 

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Originally Posted by Catkiki

I would have said "Where's YOUR keeper?" He was just plain RUDE!!!!
That sounds like someone who needs a "keeper" to "keep" them from making ridiculous ignorant comments.
 

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I would have turned to him and said, "Everyone one of us is a keeper... you, however, I'm not so sure about!"


What a jerk to take out his problems on others! My best friend's son is in a wheelchair and she gets this all the time, never mind that he is super-smart, he just can't walk.
 
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