Wow! you're making great progress. With Patches playing with the wand toy that close is big time. With a feral, play toys are very much a new experience.
It's to bad that Patches doesn't have a favorite food. I fed Tabby all last summer outside with the canned/dry food mix that he loves. When I found out of his urinary crystal condition the vet put him on a Hills prescritpion c/d diet. Each meal was 1/2 can(2.27oz) of this sloppy canned food mixed with an 1/8 of a cup of the dried food. It was much too sloppy for Tabby's taste. After a while he would only eat 1/2 the food. His stool got hard too because there is very little fiber in the mix. I switch to the urinary w/d canned food with more fiber and not so runny. I changed the mix to less canned and more dry to his liking and he eats like he did before.
Tabby won't eat straight canned food either, I found out that when I was giving him the worm medicine. I figured that he loved some canned food mix with the dry. So I figured he would just gobble up a ball of canned food with the powdered medicine in it. Well I was wrong. The first day he eat it ok. The second day he wouldn't touch the straight canned food. So the third day I went back to the mixed food. Mixed the medicine in a little canned food and then in a bunch of dried food to his favorite mix ratio. He gobbled it up.
Cats can be picky eaters at times. When I was feeding Tabby outside last summer, one evening it was raining slightly, so I just put out the dry food. After a while he came to the food and sniffed it and went away. I when outside to take a look and the rain turned the foos a little mushy. I put some new dry food out and he came back within an hour and eat the whole bowl.
The reason I mention the importance of feeding Patches near you is to build trust and also so she knows where the food is coming from. When she bonds to the food source that's big in establishing trust and knowing that this person is the food provider. With the food across the room she might think Batman is providing the food. Eating close established a close bond.
At first i got Tabby to come out of his box from 20' away. Now he charges the bowl and after he finishes his food bowl he wont leave until I give him his treats. I ran out of the treats the last couple days and he kept meowing and wouldn't leave his feed area. So a had to thaw out some frozen chicken I fed my snapper and give some extra to Tabby. He loves boiled chicken. I boil a batch for my snapping turtle and freeze it, then thaw and serve.
For Tabby i've set up some goals for him. I call them training sessions. There are six sessions with two goals in each session. I'm thinking of starting a new thread and ask for comments on training sessions for establishing trust and socializing, stray, semi-feral and feral kitty's.
As an example the 1st session would consist of estabilshing close food and treat eating habits with your kitty approx 2-3'away and 2nd would be to establish playing 2-3' away with a catnip toy free of wand or string and to establish playing with a wand toy 2-3'away. Just some established goals that someone can use as a guideline to establish trust and socialize their wilder kitty.
I've read too that if a family cat and new feral cat get socialized together before a strong bond is established with it's provider. The feral might look to the cat rather than the provider as it main friend and provider of stress free comforts. I'm thinking just where the socializing of cats(cat to cat) should be in the progressive learning sessions. My first thoughts would be some time after the feral can be touched and petted by it's provider. Not sure though.
Your making great progress with Patches and Batman both together. Just don't shorten your sessions with Patches. They are very important. You got to get her to eat close to you again. Oh, the secret food formula.
I had a game I used to play with Tabby when he was still outside. I would put his bowl out just before sunset, he never came during the day. There for awhile I wanted to establish what kind of food he prefered. So I would place three identical food bowls in his feed area side by side. One bowl with dried food the 2nd with canned chicken mix with the dried food and the third with canned fish mix with the dried food mix. He always went for the canned chicken/dried food mix. That's what he basically getting today. Hope you find a combo that works.
I haven't touched Tabby yet. I'm wondering when he is going to give me a lick on the cheek.
Wouldn't it be something that we could actually pet our ferals. I don't know about you but I can't wait.