I'm soooo sad!

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My daughter went to her mid-wife appointment today. All is well with the baby. She found out due to the H1N1 virus, she will not be allowed any visitors while in the hospital. I'm heartbroken, as is she, she wanted me to be able to see him right after birth. I understand but it makes me so sad, it's my first grandbaby and I was so looking forward to being there. I also wanted to be there for my daughter. I've had such bad experiences with my pregnancies and it was a real comfort to know my Mom was there. I don't think I can stay at home waiting for news, I may just go sit outside the hospital anyway.
 

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awwww. I'm so sorry


Is there anyway she could bring a laptop with a webcam on it into her room? (not sure how hospitals there are, but birthing rooms here you could have a laptop in the room)

That way you could see your daughter and grandbaby....
 

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I would choose another place to give birth if this were me and they were planning on excluding my caring mother! Their rule would be in no way acceptable to either me or mom.
 

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Can you say you are her doula or something to be allowed in for the birth? If not, I would choose somewhere else or give birth at home.
 
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Originally Posted by kara_leigh

Can you say you are her doula or something to be allowed in for the birth? If not, I would choose somewhere else or give birth at home.
They talked about having a doula as they were not sure Tara could handle it all the way through to the end. I'm just not really sure I could bear to see my daughter in that pain without breaking down myself.
I might grab someone by the throat and demand that do something to ease her pain. Also, I'm not trained, though there is still time for that...it is a thought. I'm not comfortable with her giving birth at home, that's just me.
 

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I wouldn't try to find another place to give birth.. I think that while it is inconvenient for you not being able to visit, it is for a good reason. If it were me, I wouldn't want to take a risk of exposing my baby to the virus.. Sorry that it has to be that way, but remember, it is better for the baby that way..
 

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Oh wow I'm sure your daughter is terrified to be all alone among doctors and giving birth...
In Bulgaria, the area of the hospital where women give birth is always like that, no one is allowed in besides the mother..So when my aunt gave birth a few years ago there, we didn't get to see my little cousin until he was 3 days old and neither did the dad or grandma. It's so scary!!
 

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while I can understand your being upset about it.I would NOT find another Hospital either.They are being cautious for your daughter and grandchild.
 

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How odd, is it really bad in that region? My youngest step sister just had her baby Sunday, they let us in that morning before and later that afternoon after.
There was extra hand sanitizer dispensers everywhere and of course no one held the baby without using that or washing their hands. Her doctor did come in and talk about H1N1 a bit and other viruses, and did suggest that at home she put up a sign telling people to come back in a couple weeks to visit and to stay away if sick. Her brother is rather sick with some cold (not flu) so he didn't get to see his niece and won't for a few weeks.
 

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Oh no, thats too bad
I'm a little surprised by that, but I guess everything is different in different areas. I just had my baby 3 weeks ago & they had no problem letting my parents come in right after he was born, along with other visitors. Of course, there was hand sanitizer availiable for everyone to use and no one came in if they were sick.

I'm sorry you can't be there with your daughter, I would have been completely lost without my mom being there!


for you!
 
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I plan on having my flu vaccines, both of them in the next week. I offered to wear a mask and gloves. I'll bring proof of my vaccines, I just think I'll still get shot down.
 

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Originally Posted by spudsmom

I plan on having my flu vaccines, both of them in the next week. I offered to wear a mask and gloves. I'll bring proof of my vaccines, I just think I'll still get shot down.
Ask if you can get a little heart shaped tag like your kitties do for rabies?
iirc it takes a week or so for immunity to really build up from flu vacs.
 
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Originally Posted by strange_wings

Ask if you can get a little heart shaped tag like your kitties do for rabies?
iirc it takes a week or so for immunity to really build up from flu vacs.
She's due Nov. 30, so I'm sure I will be immune by then. She is pregnant by AI, and she is tracking right along, so there is a little leeway, but I'm sure I will be immune by then.
 

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Originally Posted by spudsmom

She's due Nov. 30, so I'm sure I will be immune by then. She is pregnant by AI, and she is tracking right along, so there is a little leeway, but I'm sure I will be immune by then.
Talk to her obgyn then - or the one that she'll be dealing with at the hospital.
Maybe that will help, and it certainly won't hurt.

The way I see it, if you're vaccinated than you're no more a risk than the RNs are - probably less of one since a lot of people work when they shouldn't.
 

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I agree about talking to her OB.And having proof on you that you got both shots!!!
 
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I'll try what ever works. My daughter will be 32 next month, so you can imagine how long I've been waiting for this day. I never pressured her, the fact that she is gay made me realize that this day might never come. But she is in a commited relationship with an awesome woman that I love to death. they are so happy and good for each other, I couldn't ask for a better partner for her. I really want to be there. I'm not trying to be a pushy Grandma, I just never imagined that I wouldn't be able to be there for her.
 

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I know it will be difficult without mothers there, but it is for health reasons and the new moms will be just fine.The first time you see those darling grandchildren, you will forget all about the inconvenience. These girls are so lucky to have someone care enough to want to be there with them.
 
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