Hello! I'm hoping someone here can help me. This is kind of long, but I want to be sure you have the whole picture.
I've had Bumblebee for three years. He's a very big orange tabby, very loving, but quite the predator. He loves to play and he can kill a mouse in seconds. Just adopted Chloe, a smaller orange tabby who is about his age. The thing is, Chloe does not like Bumblebee to come near her. When he does, she hisses at him.
I kept her in a separate room for a day and then I started letting her out for an hour or so at a time. He approached, she hissed, he backed up. By the fourth day, he ignored the hissing and started stalking her. When her back was turned, he jumped on her and started biting the back of her neck. I tried distracting him with treats and making sure to give him lots of love when she wasn't around. Still, most of the time when he sees her roaming around, he jumps on her and keeps trying to bite her neck.
There's no puffed up tails or pinned back ears, so I think he is playing, but he's heavier and bigger than she is and I'm afraid he will hurt her. When I'm not home, I separate them but I feel badly about keeping her locked up.
A little background: Chloe was rescued by my neighbor who takes care of nine cats, some indoor, some outdoor. He has them fixed and feeds them on the porch or inside. One of the strays that he has not been able to catch hated Chloe on site and tried to kill her twice. She now has a huge scar on her face from his attack, so my neighbor put her in the basement for her own safety. But she is a very loving cat who likes people and he felt guilty about not spending much time with her.
When I got her, I took her to the vet and found that she had ear mites and fleas, but was otherwise healthy. They treated her for it.
So now Chloe is locked up in the bedroom. Bumblebee is outside the door looking at her (I have an old house so the doors don't shut securely; there is about an inch and a half of space under the door so they can see and smell each other.
Bottom line: I don't want to give her back to my neighbor and have her locked up in the basement again, but I also don't want Bumblebee to hurt her with his rough play. And I feel guilty about not letting her roam around the house and getting less affection from me...but I feel guiltier when she's out and has to run away from Bumblebee all the time. Sigh.
Advice, PLEASE....
I've had Bumblebee for three years. He's a very big orange tabby, very loving, but quite the predator. He loves to play and he can kill a mouse in seconds. Just adopted Chloe, a smaller orange tabby who is about his age. The thing is, Chloe does not like Bumblebee to come near her. When he does, she hisses at him.
I kept her in a separate room for a day and then I started letting her out for an hour or so at a time. He approached, she hissed, he backed up. By the fourth day, he ignored the hissing and started stalking her. When her back was turned, he jumped on her and started biting the back of her neck. I tried distracting him with treats and making sure to give him lots of love when she wasn't around. Still, most of the time when he sees her roaming around, he jumps on her and keeps trying to bite her neck.
There's no puffed up tails or pinned back ears, so I think he is playing, but he's heavier and bigger than she is and I'm afraid he will hurt her. When I'm not home, I separate them but I feel badly about keeping her locked up.
A little background: Chloe was rescued by my neighbor who takes care of nine cats, some indoor, some outdoor. He has them fixed and feeds them on the porch or inside. One of the strays that he has not been able to catch hated Chloe on site and tried to kill her twice. She now has a huge scar on her face from his attack, so my neighbor put her in the basement for her own safety. But she is a very loving cat who likes people and he felt guilty about not spending much time with her.
When I got her, I took her to the vet and found that she had ear mites and fleas, but was otherwise healthy. They treated her for it.
So now Chloe is locked up in the bedroom. Bumblebee is outside the door looking at her (I have an old house so the doors don't shut securely; there is about an inch and a half of space under the door so they can see and smell each other.
Bottom line: I don't want to give her back to my neighbor and have her locked up in the basement again, but I also don't want Bumblebee to hurt her with his rough play. And I feel guilty about not letting her roam around the house and getting less affection from me...but I feel guiltier when she's out and has to run away from Bumblebee all the time. Sigh.
Advice, PLEASE....