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I just got a letter saying I've been accepted to start college in the spring. I was pretty darn excited. So I told my mom and her response was "That's cool" no I didnt forget to add the !. No congratulations, nothing, she didn't even smile. Then she starts complaining about how I need to clean, I never do anything etc etc. I've been working 50 hour weeks, with 1.5 hour commute each day. I have Sundays off and that's it. I havent even had the energy to eat breakfast or dinner for a week!
I asked her why she wasnt excited and she went on about how she hates it in Maine and doesnt want to live here and all this which I feel bad for but she doesnt have to stay here!
I guess I felt like it was a big deal, first person in my family to go to college, prospect of having a career, all that.

I guess I'm just being selfish, I should be feeling bad for her and trying to help but all I feel is sad and angry that she's not happy for me. She's probably feeling the same way.
 
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I'll be starting in Liberal Studies-pre vet tech track so I can take a few courses to start with (so I dont get overwhelmed with a full time course load) and in the fall I'm hoping to switch to the veterinary technician program, it's an Associate of Science degree.

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Congrats on getting into college!!!!

your mom may just be having an off day and will propbably congratulate you properly soon
 

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I'm excited for you too!

Sometimes, I think, parents don't realize the impact that they have on their kids. I don't think she realizes how much her not being excited for you hurts you. I know my parents, meaning very well, have not been supportive in the way I need them to be supportive in things lately, and yes, its very painful.

It doesn't mean she doesn't love you, or that she's not proud of you. She just has different priorities than you. So
, we're excited for you!
 

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Originally Posted by Sandtigress

I'm excited for you too!

Sometimes, I think, parents don't realize the impact that they have on their kids. I don't think she realizes how much her not being excited for you hurts you. I know my parents, meaning very well, have not been supportive in the way I need them to be supportive in things lately, and yes, its very painful.

It doesn't mean she doesn't love you, or that she's not proud of you. She just has different priorities than you. So
, we're excited for you!
well said.

Congrats on being accepted.
I hope this new road in your life is wonderful, and all you hope it to be.

Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders (not biting off more than you can chew right now) and I am very excited for you.
 

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Agreed
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We're all happy for you!!! Have fun at college, learn lots, but take the time to take care of yourself or you're not going to be able to keep this up!! EAT!!
 

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Congrats! I'm sure you'll do well in school.


Sorry your mom didn't share your enthusiasm, or at least didn't express it. Hopefully she'll come around and maybe do something with her own life (move?) worth getting excited about soon. Then you can both be happy for yourselves and each other.
 

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Life is not near perfect, but congrats. I took my self to college, with or with out my parents. You go and go and go....
Never let them tell you no! There is your exclamation point!

PS I started out with an AS degree. Good place to start.
 

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I'm sorry she didn't congratulate you.
My parents rarely gave me praise on anything, aside from cleaning - my father's a clean freak and it was one of the few things I could do that would get a "that's great" or "you did a good job" out of.
It inadvertently trained me to be a person who keeps almost everything I do to myself and to be a clean freak, too...

What matters most is that you're proud of yourself! Go have a night out Saturday (since you're off Sunday) or do something fun Sunday to celebrate. You've more than earned it.
Good luck this Spring and never forget you're doing this for YOU first. You don't need anyone's approval to succeed - just you're own strength and commitment to make it happen.
 

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Congrats!!!
I'm so happy you got in!

When it comes to parents...I don't know about your mom, but my mom was afraid of anything that messed up the "status quo". I had my place and my role in her life. Anything to change that would just freak her out, or she would ignore it completely. I had a great opportunity to move out of the house and live with a friend (rented house, cheap rent, get out on my own...etc) and instead of being excited for me she talked me out of it saying I wasn't mature enough (I was 24!!!!). I finally had to move to the other side of the world to get some space and freedom. Some times any change can be hard for them.

But, I say congrats and go for it!!!
 

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No matter what your mother is going through, she should have been a little more excited, IMHO. I'm sorry honey,
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But, I'll congratulate you! That's wonderful news,
 

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Congratulations! Best of luck on your acceptance and your new path. Like someone else said, you should go out on a Saturday and celebrate, or at least do something nice for yourself.
 

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Congratulations on your acceptance!
That is a big deal! I'm happy for you. You've worked hard and I hope you enjoy it.
 

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Your mom is wrong! I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t care what kind of day she is having! This is huge for you and Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m extremely happy for you!!
Youâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ll learn that sometimes in life we have to pat ourselves on our own back and thatâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s ok! Your doing great! Please keep cruising right along, take care of yourself and study, study, study.
Next thing you know youâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ll be doing what you love and living where you love AND getting paid for it! It will all be worth the lack of sleep and energy. I promise you!


Congratulations!!
 

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Congrats on being accepted in college and good luck to you. You should be very proud of yourself and hey, I would love to live in Maine, I visited it a couple of times and loved it there. You're mom is lucky to live there.
 

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congrats at being accepted into college!


I bet your Mom will come around and warm up to the idea soon
 
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